Just play along, why should you guys be offended if it goes straight to merisik? you said it yourself that maybe your father is the one pushing for this. and anyway, it's not like Islam dictates that your father requires permission from his children to remarry.

There are some stories of ulamak that either got married themselves, or married their daughters off without even going through the process of merisik with the family. even one of the sahabat went to "look" at a candidate woman by himself (without his family) before making the choice whether or not to proceed with the marriage. So really, merisik with the family is not an absolute requirement.

I can't remember the details at the moment, but I'll try to update once I get some sources.

Understandable. But how about if she turns out to be the right one? It doesn't sound like you have a reason to doubt her. At least not from what you're telling us. After all, you guys haven't really met the woman.

In fact some adventurist might say, "there is only one way to find out" whether she's the right one or not.

But if you actually have strong reasons to doubt the woman, then that's different.

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Jul 30 2019, 12:03 AM

Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 12:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Jauhilah kebanyakan dari sangkaan (supaya kamu tidak menyangka sangkaan yang dilarang) kerana sesungguhnya sebahagian dari sangkaan itu adalah dosa; dan janganlah kamu mengintip atau mencari-cari kesalahan dan keaiban orang; dan janganlah setengah kamu mengumpat setengahnya yang lain. Adakah seseorang dari kamu suka memakan daging saudaranya yang telah mati? (Jika demikian keadaan mengumpat) maka sudah tentu kamu jijik kepadanya. (Oleh itu, patuhilah larangan-larangan yang tersebut) dan bertaqwalah kamu kepada Allah; sesungguhnya Allah Penerima taubat, lagi Maha mengasihani.
(Melayu)

via iQuran

I think this verse is appropriate in this case. Like I said, only if you have strong reasons to doubt the woman, then it's different. Otherwise, it falls into the abive category, which we must avoid.

What I want to impress on you is to at least give this woman a chance first. After all, you guys have not met her. You cannot judge people you haven't even met. And besides, even if you had met her, how many times people tell us not to judge a book by its cover? Islam also teaches us to think good things, not to suspect our brothers and sisters. Only if you have strong reasons (proof) can you begin to doubt (suspect) them.

Anyway, you know your case better than anyone. You be the judge.


This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Jul 30 2019, 01:21 PM

I've always thought of this like so:

When getting into something good, right goes first. When leaving something good, right goes last. Like entering the masjid, the right leg enjoys more time inside the masjid than the left.
When the opposite happens, it's left before right. Like entering the toilet: left foot first; exiting toilet: left foot last. The right leg gets less time in the toilet than the left.

I have heard of this before. There is hadeeth about it but I am not certain of the interpretation. Read once that it was some kind of a punishment, despite that it was also a cure of something. But too little research on my behalf to say anything for sure.

Try to teach him the basics (that you know)... Think of the reward (pahala) you will get...

Try to read a couple/few ayat from the longer ones. Common to hear Imam (here in Qatar) reading last 2 (and sometimes 3) verses of Al Baqoroh, 255 and 256, first 10 and last 10 of al Kahfi, etc... It is also quite often to hear the Imam recite just part of the short surahs (but are quite long, compared with the likes of al Ikhlas), such as ayat 14 - 19 of al 'Alaa, 5 - 8 of al Bayyina… etc.

If you memorize the meaning/translation of the surahs, you can actually make out where you can stop (if you want to recite partial)…

All in all, this will give you more variation.

One of the key hadeeths that determines the halal/haram status of a transaction.

عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامٍ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ يَأْتِينِى الرَّجُلُ فَيُرِيدُ مِنِّى الْبَيْعَ لَيْسَ عِنْدِى أَفَأَبْتَاعُهُ لَهُ مِنَ السُّوقِ فَقَالَ : لاَ تَبِعْ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَكَ

Dari Hakim bin Hizam, “Beliau berkata kepada Rasulullah, ‘Wahai Rasulullah, ada orang yang mendatangiku. Orang tersebut ingin mengadakan transaksi jual beli, denganku, barang yang belum aku miliki. Bolehkah aku membelikan barang tertentu yang dia inginkan di pasar setelah bertransaksi dengan orang tersebut?’ Kemudian, Nabi bersabda, ‘Janganlah kau menjual barang yang belum kau miliki.‘” (HR. Abu Daud, no. 3505; dinilai sahih oleh Al-Albani)



Read more https://pengusahamuslim.com/2094-jangan-jua...an-milikmu.html

This is one aspect why trading in stock market can be ruled haram. Buying the stock is halal, but often the stock is sold again before it is actually owned, maybe just hours after purchase... to sell it back within hours means that there has not yet been any transfer of ownership.

Edit:
Based on what little arabic I know, the word عنذك, which is translated to "milikmu" in the above quoted text, actually literally translates to "at your side" - which gives additional perspective of ownership, i.e. Not only do you have to have it by buying it, but you also have to take delivery of it first.

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Oct 30 2019, 02:36 PM

A similar hadeeth bu abu nu'aim is classified dhoif by al albani, in the following form (pardon the Bahasa):

مَنْ قَالَ لَا إِلهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ الْمَلِكُ الْحَقُّ الْمُبِينُ فِي كُلِّ يَوْمٍ مِائَةَ مَرَّةٍ كَانَ لَهُ أَمَانًا مِنَ الْفَقْرِ، وَيُؤْمَنُ مِنْ وَحْشَةِ الْقَبْرِ، وَاسْتُجْلِبَ بِهِ الْغِنَى، وَاسْتُقْرِعَ بِهِ بَابُ الْجَنَّةِ

“Siapa yang setiap hari mengucapkan laa ilaaha illaallah al-malikul haqqul mubin 100x, maka ia aman dari kefaqiran, aman dari kengerian kubur, akan menjadi magnet kekayaan, dan pintu surga akan diketuk dengannya”

Bro, suggest you complete the sentence...

Jazakallaahu means (only) may Allah repay (balas) you...

It can either be interpreted as repay you with something bad or something good... So literally speaking, you can say also jazakallah to someone who harmed you - which leaves it to Allah to determine whether it be good or bad.

Wa anta fajazakallahu khayran...

I'm taking arabic conversation class here. Learned the above from the ustadh (who's from India, but grew up schooling in Qatari school). He said most of the people from his home town would say "Jazakallaah" only, and also people from Pakistan. But as explained, it is not the complete du'a...

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Oct 30 2019, 04:56 PM

In principle, the same words may have the same meaning but not the same way/method.

Maybe the following examples can clear it up.

Happy is happy. But happy for me is jumping up and down laughing, while for you happy is smiling on your own.

Another example, which is quite common used to describe the same but different, is that we say the dogs have 4 legs, humans have 2. Not only do they differ in number, but also in shape/anatomy.

Or take eyes sight. How/what we see is different to what a Bull (think matador) or an eagle sees. They all see, but differently.

In certain ways, our use of "Maha" is a way to differentiate. But you cannot use "Maha punya tangan" right? but the principle still stands: the same word/meaning but different to anything else.

So Allah has hands, feet, etc. and how/what they look like cannot be enlikened to ours or anything (see Asy-Syuura:11). We only know that Allah has this or that through dalil, and outside of what is described in the dalil is an area no one can venture into.

Hope that helps.

I think it means that the hair's length is (i.e. it reaches) the middle of the ear. So what does that "menjuntai" translate to??

Sah. To each his own. You get additional reward (pahala) for becoming an Imam, though.

There is at least one hadeeth that explains where the Imam is praying a different sholat while the makmum another sholat. One of the sahabat always prayed with the jamaah lead by our prophet pbuh. Then he went back to his people (a different kampung, you can say) and prayed again as the Imam, though he was praying sunnah, the makmum prayed the wajib.

I'll update this if I find the hadeeth. In syaa Allah.

Edit
Found it.





Home Shalat Beda Niat antara Imam dan Makmum
HUKUM ISLAMSHALAT
Beda Niat antara Imam dan Makmum
By Muhammad Abduh Tuasikal, MSc - January 11, 2013 4513 18

... [original article truncated to show the hadeeth]

Dalil Kaedah

Beberapa dalil yang mendukung kaedah Imam Syafi’i di atas adalah sebagai berikut.

عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ كَانَ مُعَاذٌ يُصَلِّى مَعَ النَّبِىِّ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – ثُمَّ يَأْتِى قَوْمَهُ فَيُصَلِّى بِهِمْ

Dari Jabir, ia berkata bahwa Mu’adz pernah shalat bersama Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, lalu ia mendatangi kaumnya dan mengerjakan shalat bersama mereka. (HR. Bukhari no. 711 dan Muslim no. 465)

[end quote]

Just sharing a little.

I have once (long ago) prayed 2 rakaah at dhuhur followed with 2 rakaah asr, just before leaving on Umrah. At that time, probably because wearing umrah clothing, the people appointed me imam.

At that time I recalled one ustadz saying there is fadhilah if the musafir is appointed imam, as he can still pray 2 rakaahs.
So I explained to the makmum, before starting to pray, that I will be praying 2 rakaahs followed by another 2. People who are "mukim" (i.e. The airport workers, non travelling family members, etc) should complete their four and anyone who is travelling can also join me for 2 rakaah asr afterwards.

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Dec 7 2019, 10:59 PM

This concerns the fundamental understanding of fate/takdir. In my opinion, it is only right that such questions are directed to a real ustadz.

Of course it is easy to say what we think, but then I would refrain as it is very easy to make a person fall to the dark side because of a misunderstanding.

As far as I know, learning the crux about takdir is suggested to be done only after one has a firm understanding of the other pilars of our faith (?) ie. rukun iman.

I have spoken

Brothers...

Can someone explain to me what is this sumpah laknat?

I am familiar with Li'an (I think this is the correct term), in which the husband and wife takes an oath that they are telling the truth 5x wherein the 5th time, the one making the oath says that Allah's laknat will befall them if they are lying. This is done when one party accuses the other for adultery and the accused denies the accusation.

At the end, if both parties stick to their stand and finish the oath (takes the 5th oath), they are separated/divorced dor ever and eternity. Unlike the normal divorce, divorce by li'an cannot get back together (remarry) again, regardless if one party later on admits.

This is the only case in Islam that I know of that relates to and oath and the laknat.

Thanks. At least I was already right to say sumpah laknat only available in the case of Li'an (even got the spelling right... Yeay...)

But still, I'm wondering what/how is this sumpah laknat that they say they intend to do. I am only familiar with the Li'an.

1 family (no matter how big) can contribute for 1 part. However, the limitation for "family member" is dedined by at least 3 factors :

1. Has blood ties
2. Live under 1 roof
3. Living costs covered by the head of the family (i.e. The person in charge of that household)

This is based on the fact that 1 goat/sheep is enough to cover 1 family.

Sebagaimana ditunjukkan dalam hadits dari Abu Ayyub radhiyallahu’anhu yang mengatakan,

كَانَ الرَّجُلُ يُضَحِّي بِالشَّاةِ عَنْهُ وَعَنْ أَهْلِ بَيْتِهِ

”Pada masa Rasulullah shallallahu ’alaihi wa sallam seseorang (suami) menyembelih seekor kambing sebagai kurban bagi dirinya dan keluarganya.” (HR. Tirmidzi, ia menilainya shahih, Minhaajul Muslim, Hal. 264 dan 266).



Read more https://konsultasisyariah.com/8043-kurban-s...sekeluarga.html

So reading surah YaSin?

I'll be demobilizing soon from my job here in Qatar. No new assignment yet.

So I guess we are all on the same boat...

Pray for the best.

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Feb 24 2020, 06:37 PM