@darkskies
Hey, I really appreciate your wall'o-text, I have read every single word and I can feel your frustration. Thanks for being informative and helpful

I think it's only fair that I return at least the same amount of effort:
Personally, I am more casual type.
I don't ever feel the need to rush for super duper items or whatever, I just do whatever I feel like doing whenever I log in.
It can be any of the following:
1) Do whatever dungeon I feel like doing. Majority of the time, I am like you guys, hoping to get some item; but that's only like 60% of the time. The rest of the time, it's more like because the dungeon has nice music (like Praetorium/Sirius Tower/Ultima), or because it's fun (crystal tower, tonberry speedrun). Please remember this is back in Feb...I haven't go to any dungeon ever since.
2) Leveling other classes. I am playing all of them at my leisure pace, while majoring in WHM.
3) Do some crafting/gathering, craft some armors/cloth/whatever that I never see before, so that I can try it out on my character. I like to collect good-looking pieces, and try different combinations.
4) Go explore the map, take screenshots. I have been to many less-travelled places. I travelled very deep into Slyph forest even before the Slyph tribe quests are implemented. I traveled to very far end of every map; I found the giant crystal tower entrance before Crystal Tower was implemented. As I explore, I do some fishing whenever I find some nice spot. I have been to practically everywhere accessible when they are just placeholders for the future features.
5) Do some minion-hunting, I like to collect these.
6) I am pretty sure I visited and talked to every single NPC accessible, and I have already seen every single dialog between those npc-without-title-above-them (they will only say something when you get near them). I also noticed that some conversation will change as your character progresses through main story line, and some NPC will appear/disappear. First thing I do whenever I reach a new town, is to explore everything in it. Every NPC, every treasure box, every hidden door, everything. This is my habit of a really old-time RPG player, playing FFXIV as a mmo-
RPG. Nowadays, new younger RPG "players" (not pointing at you) just go from one quest-icon to the next quest-icon, or follow online guide step-by-step, or "best/fastest way" without even bother to read through the text, and ignore everything else along the journey. Such a waste.
7) I would say, for about 10% of my gaming sessions (usually 1-2 hour on weekday, more on weekends), I did nothing but go to favorite spots, fooling around, watch the weather and daylight changes, hop into some FATE as it happens, listen to the background musics and take screenshot.
So, my character progress may be slow, but I do enjoy FFXIV very much everytime I login, and I haven't get burn out thus far. I am not trying to compete with anyone, there's no rush for me to gear-up. There's already much competition going on in real life, I play game to relax and have fun. FFXIV has really good graphic, superb music, imersive world, nice emotes, diverse clothing, etc etc etc...and with those new features such as housing/furniture, gardening, chocobo raising, new emotes and so on, I think I'll never run out of fun things to do in FFXIV for quite a long time. But I see you didn't mention any of these, so perhaps they are not your cup of tea.
I played many MMO since the time of UO. I understand player's frustration at the harsh grind, but usually that's exactly why the grind is made harsh: otherwise these players will accomplish all the "content" too quickly, and moved to other game because "nothing left to be done". There's simply no other way developers can keep up with the speed these players consume the content.
Furthermore, the more mmo you played, the more you will see this:
- developers will purposefully make the strongest item (say, ilv90) very hard to attain. But once new content or "stronger" item is released (say, ilv110), then those ilv90 will become easier to attain than before. This can be achieved by many methods, such as making dungeons easier, creating more sources/ways to obtain item, and so on.
- so, the cost you paid to obtain those items early, is much higher, than if you attempt them later. So, there's really no need to be in a rush to get them, unless you are trying to stay "competitive", which I am not sure if the "reward" is worth the effort. To each individual, the worth is different, everyone enjoys different things, so I am not judging anyone here.
Sometimes, when I am hunting for specific item/mount/minion or whatever, I do fall into the trap of unhappiness. I remember killing Ifrit for dunno-how-many-times to get that Ifrit Cane, only to be rolled by the other WHM/SCH. Not for the stat, coz I already own a better one; it's only because I like the appearance. But once I realize I am not enjoying doing it, I'll stop and go do other things in FFXIV, or stop playing FFXIV for the night, to re-adjust my "bearings" by watching movie or whatever. In the end, I obtained that Ifrit Cane during one of my runs where I am helping a FC member to finish its quest, I am not even thinking about getting that Ifrit Cane, lol. Such is the way things work, so...don't fall into the trap of unhappiness

Anyway, I understand different person enjoy different things, and things that I enjoy doing may not be enjoyable to others. It's just that, I am sensing some frustration in your post, so I am just trying to share with you about things you may have missed if you are too focused on gear-grinding. Please don't get burned out or otherwise we are loosing LYN population in FFXIV

I need as many people playing as possible if I ever return, the more the merrier!
Thanks again, and sorry if I mistakenly think that you feel a bit frustrated (somehow the word choices in your post made me think so), ignore what I said if this is the case

Happy FFXIV-ing and best of luck in your huntings! May the RNG be with you
This post has been edited by unknowngst: Sep 10 2014, 11:54 PM