Aug 16 2006, 08:10 AM
Don't be too quick to say "I love you, be my BF/GF".
Firstly, it scares your potential target. Some here might say "oh but I'll give you a chance", but you don't know what your friend might think. Secondly, you are committing yourself to a relationship with someone you only know as a friend. I would consider this as "you barely know this person".
Always, ALWAYS begin your courtship with a non-commital phrase like
"I like you, I'd like to get to know you better"
This leaves room for things to grow. It also leaves you room to leave.
And it's rare for friends who date to remain friends, but it can happen. It depends how you handle the courtship phase. You need to be tactful and tread lightly.
Go out with the guy. Spend time with him. It usually takes more than several weeks for a person's true nature to show. And remember, if the person pressures you to commit before you feel you are ready, then it's time to move on. You should never commit to something until you feel you are 110% ready.
Good luck.
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QUOTE(Casanova @ Aug 16 2006, 08:10 AM)
A girl added me in Friendster on random, so I have no idea who she is but she came from my hometown so I message her and say Hi, wanna be friends? Then she start telling me grandfather story about how she use Friendster to keep existing friends and not make new ones cause she has met perverts and that she had added me by mistake.
To be honest, she is quite pretty but then when she spoke of it that way, I start to think "You bloody moron, you meeting pervs is your problem! What has it gotta do with me? Who added who first?" Despite that, I told her off telling her to delete me off a list but a week has passed, so she is either too stupid to do it or she dont plan to.
Finally, she said I am insincere because my Friendster dont have my pict. Only got 2 lenglui pict - sister and girlfriend. I was like WTF?! A bit shallow dont you think? Then she kept on rubbing the fact bout how she bump into pervs. I wanted to tell her off by saying being cyber-friends, why must she bring it to real life? If she maintain a cyber-friendship, I dont see any harm to that. So finally, I told her off saying one of those pict are my gf and I'm done deal with psychotic girls like her.
Nice story, Casanova. I think you did the right thing. She is really immature. There's so many ways she can handle perverts, but she seems to be using that as "a story" to get something. What that is.. is a mystery. To be honest, she is quite pretty but then when she spoke of it that way, I start to think "You bloody moron, you meeting pervs is your problem! What has it gotta do with me? Who added who first?" Despite that, I told her off telling her to delete me off a list but a week has passed, so she is either too stupid to do it or she dont plan to.
Finally, she said I am insincere because my Friendster dont have my pict. Only got 2 lenglui pict - sister and girlfriend. I was like WTF?! A bit shallow dont you think? Then she kept on rubbing the fact bout how she bump into pervs. I wanted to tell her off by saying being cyber-friends, why must she bring it to real life? If she maintain a cyber-friendship, I dont see any harm to that. So finally, I told her off saying one of those pict are my gf and I'm done deal with psychotic girls like her.
Psychotic women are scary. No one knows how their minds work.
This post has been edited by altie: Aug 16 2006, 08:19 AM
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