My Perspective, feel free to use:

1. Yes and No

Yes - If i know that he is single
No - He is not single and is my friend/ best friend's boyfriend

(U can find out from asking around, use your info gathering skill)

2. NEVER NEVER NEVER tell a guy that you like him, even though that you really really do and that u get chill everytime u see him. Being friend with someone is easy if your mind is clear, if you cant keep your mind clear, then do this:

Find a right time and make use of relevant topic and start a conversation, following is an example of a situation:

Take note: Right time = Anytime

You saw that the guy u like is lining up for movie ticket, find a way to get behind him (there are many ways, but you would have to figure it out yourself), you saw that on his jacket it has a logo saying "westcoast chopper", then start a conversation by commenting on that, "wow.. i dont even know a single ppl in malaysia know of this club <point on the logo on his jacket>" or "ohh.. i am a fan of the New York Yankee as well as u saw he wear a NY Cap" If he response with awareness of the club/team, then you are screw (only if u know nothing of them), but if you are calm then u are not (answer vaguely but mean it, the first question he asked related to the club or team) and then.... this is when changing topic is smart, move on to "which movie are you watching?" "ohh really... i will be watching that movie too" "are u here with friends?" "ohh.... me too... all my friends are busy (even they have put you in charge of getting the ticket for the movie you all agree to watch)" if he responses... "would u like to watch together?" then... you did it... u open the door to first step... also.. this way you could know that this guy is gentleman as he offers to watch it with you instead of you asking if he wanted to watch with you since that u both are alone. Meaning... this guy worth your time persuing further...

3. Dont judge yourself, everyone come to this world with a unique gift, U have to look at your goodness instead of the badness to boost your self-esteem up. The best thing to do in the begining of any relationship is to keep thing simple, dont judge yourself, and dont judge the other, think positive and most importantly... BE YOURSELF ...

Formula:

Be friends + Know each other + if that is what you want + go further more!!!

Hey thanks, i take it as compliment

Hmm.... i could come to a point where i said nothing and my best friend would know what i want or what i am going to say.... if you think u have already achieved that connection with this guy, then call him your best friend as it is true and u mean it and it's not fake. If this guy dont have much feeling for you yet, he would probabily think lesser of you. In addition to that.... why would u want to tell him u both are best friend anyway? First that will stop u and him from being more than best friend.... he might has misundestood you that u just want to be best friend. You need to re-evaluate your true goal here!

Show him that u care without saying it. Well.. i am not asking u to touch him, if he happens to be sick, then bring him an anime (get bleach) and watch with him (reason i said that most guy like anime, if you know any other thing that he likes, try your best to get it for him (not sex, most guy like), so while u both have fun watching Ichigo doing bankai... take a peak in his eyes.... you will see warmth in it.... his heart start to have a little chill too.....

Other thing.... just remember u can do anything.... but find relevance in it as it give u the opportunity to continue the plot naturally.

The reason as not to tell someone u like him right off or not too long after u know someone is to avoid freaking the other person out... then u might lose your chance of presuing further.... i had regreted doing it b4, as it freaked myself out too....

This post has been edited by Gametaipan: Oct 20 2006, 06:25 PM

Why kesian? And thanks, hope it helps.

Is the reason that you do not accept is that you feel bad that the girls is doing your job?

So, do you mean that girls should just stay as a comel little kitty and wait for someone to approach them? And that their feelings should be hidden and be useless?

Approaching someone you have feeling for is not "DESPERATE", at least not always the case. More modern woman particularly the younger generation are equipted with education at the university level, grow up in/with a more open-minded family/parents, surrounded by easy access resources and more.

We learn that, if you want something, you have to go after it. Waiting = time-wasting, also, we learn to express our feeling more. All-in-all, female has always been more expressive than male.

If you think that a woman approach you is due to desperation, you must feel happy that you could now rest your right hands, as one finally come forward to stroke your long buried ego.

Do you know the meaning of "rest ur right hand"? Thinking big? not really, i do think a lot, but mainly analysing the different perspective of a situation. It is fun to be able to see the same picture and comes out with thousands of story from it. That is how i grow instead of sticking my head inside the A$$ like so many did in the Religious country.

Nah, i like lots of religion, except I disagree with a few that i know of, due to the abuse that was bought into it and the way it is practiced after. I pity the one who first started the religion, as i am sure if he ever know how his successor continue his work... he will still feel intense amount of heat even hell is freezing.