Dude,

Regarding your OCD, I've got no say in that. Pray for a miracle cure? Anywaay, your addiction to porno.....I'm glad you actually brought up this topic because every single freaking church will just say that it's a sin and one ought to stop and pray yadee yadaaa blablabla...and yet, never have I come across a pastor/elder/leader who actually gave a effect-on-life point of view or rather a rational/mental ways to stop, only spiritual and by that it means "you go to hell because you watch porn, so STOP. Just pray and case closed". So really, thanks for your honesty.

While I can't really help you out here, I suppose I can help you pinpoint a few things that could help you with your bad habits. First of all, I am guessing you are in between 16-23 years old dude and still a student. I would say it's quite normal especially when you're at that age......and single.
Of course I have more to say but first let me ask you these few questions:
1) What is YOUR OWN personal opinion of sex before marriage? Is it okay to have one night stands? What about couples who are madly in love? (I don't want to hear repeated stuff from your pastor or stuff you have read, I want YOUR VERY OWN opinion)
2) Do you approve of it especially with all your friends and everyone else you know doing it? It is so normal and a huge achievement that you're a sad pathetic loser if you're still virgin? Would you be like everyone else, just for the sake of not being called a loser?
3) Do you intend to get married some day?

Hi Sophiera,

How r u? Sorry took awhile to reply, was away for few days.

The thing about being a Christian is not to be sin conscious all the time.

Hebrews 6: 1-2
1 Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death,a and of faith in God,
2 instruction about cleansing rites,b the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.

Hebrews 6:1 means don't build your life (laying again foundation) on repentance over and over again. Don't be Sin conscious.  Doing this, will only impede your spiritual life. God calls this elementary or very basic kindergarten. But be Christ conscious. And I can prove this in the following verse.

What did the Apostle Paul wrote?

Philippians 3:12-14
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Here Paul is saying in verse 12, One should always cultivate an open mind to learn and press on. FORGET the past, the wrongs, the sins, yes FORGET it, don't focus on it but press on towards the goal and our GOAL is heavenward in Christ Jesus meaning, always be Christ conscious.

And WHAT is Christ conscious? , when you fall into sin, God wants you to be Christ-conscious. This means that when you have missed it, God wants you to be conscious that in Christ, you have forgiveness of sins through His blood. God wants you to be conscious that Christ was wounded and bruised for your sins, and that the chastisement for your peace was upon Him. (Isaiah 53:5)

When you are Christ-conscious, you will have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 5:1) You will know that you are the righteousness of God in Christ because He who knew no sin was made sin for you. (2 Corinthians 5:21) He took your sin and now you have His righteousness.

So when you fall, don’t be conscious of your failure and feel bad or condemned. Instead, be conscious of who you are in Christ, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and continue your walk with God.

Hope this helps you in your spiritual walk with God.   

Here are 2 more verses for you to ponder.

1 Timothy 1:19 - holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith.

1 Timothy 3:9 - They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. (not works of sin or iniquity)
Hi ik3da,

Hope you caught hold of what I've just explained to Sophiera, it is what I meant. So don't worry about your son doing what wrong, keep on confessing the promises of God. Be God conscious rather than Sin conscious.
Hey Bro, good suggestion and I know how to use google docs but I prefer to keep it here because at least the word of God can reach a wider audience of bro n sis.

Good to know you have your own principles. Be sure to stick to them. There can be times when relying on bible verses and prayers won't be enough, so having your own principles will really help. Remember that "the flesh is weak". My hubby recommends distracting yourself whenever you feel the urge by doing something that will really occupy your mind and requires focus, such as playing an intense game, read a fav book, talk to your parents, call up a close friend and have a meaningful discussion, go for a workout/run, as long as it keeps you focus long enough to rid the urge. Yes, it's the wife replying you this time, he's too busy with work and feels bad he can't reply you directly so I'm doing so on his behalf if you don't mind
So whatever you read here will be his and her opinions, the best of both worlds about a habit that be rather self destructive.

Now, the worst thing about porn is it doesn't affect you presently, but it affects your future. Think about your wife, I assume you are reserving yourself for her, because you already love her even though you haven't met her? Remember, honor your wife. If you love God, love your wife, if you love her, honor her.

Now how does it affect your future? Well, you will probably end up going for physical features when looking for a partner in the future and not emotional/intellectual features. Even if you can coax yourself to go for the latter features, when you're married and it's time to get to "know" her you won't be able to feel the feeling of fulfillment or satisfaction, like as if she is not enough. Why? Because she does not have the body of your ideal pornstar, therefore you find her unattractive. In the long run, this can really run your marriage to the ground especially when there are so many external influencing factors out there.

Secondly, watching porn is sort of like a visual training. The more you watch it, the more you will want to try out the nonsense you see in it. At this rate, you might even break your precious principles and when that's done, there's no going back. Somethings, once lost, is forever gone. FYI, all that stuff you see is fake, think about it. He hasn't even touched her and she's already moaning away. I remember watching it in uni once back with some of my friends (I'm a psychology major, we were doing research and yes, really research, not "research"  ) and the first question I asked myself "Why is she so noisy? The guy didn't even do anything..."  Some people find porn disgusting and disturbing, I find it stupid.

It sets a fake (and incredibly low) standard about how girls react. You try any of that you learned in porn in the future and you're going to have a bad time. You lose your own sense of originality and end up just copying the nonsense you see.

So if you really want to stop, think about your future. Is that 5 minutes of lust satisfaction worth a lifetime of regret? and it wont just be your own, your wife will be affected by it as well. She would feel insecure about her physical appearance and end up doing things that she may regret eventually.

That's about all I have to say, hope it helps. There's a pretty good movie that depicts the life of most men out there and it's called Don Jon. Check it out