I’m in a dilemma right now.

I’ve been working in KL for 2 years. The only one in my family who’s working here. My parents are still in my hometown. They’re old plus my mom is not well. It’s just the two of them living in that house. My siblings are all married and living in different towns.

I’ve always been free-spirited and independent. Been in KL since my uni days. Two reasons why I chose to work here:

1. It’s difficult to find a job in my field since my hometown is small and not very developed. Yes there are a couple big companies but you need to have connection to get in, if you know what I mean.
2. Obviously the pay here is bigger.

I’ve been thinking of going home for good and be a responsible daughter and take care of my parents since I’m the only one not married and don’t have commitments. But I just can’t bring myself to make that move. On one hand, I pity my parents. On the other I want what’s best for my career and dreams.

Am I selfish? If you were in my shoes what would you do?

1. What are the negatives of you going back?
2. What else would you miss (out) on if you moved back?
3. How old are you?

hi,
if they still can help each other, i mean if they are not totally very weak, then give yourself another 1~2 years to work hard, really hard in big town.
or, just switch profession, it's very common of ppl study and what they work is totally different, and settle down in you so call small town.
Big company is not always best, there are politics, small groups and other things which is not advertised in the job seeking column.
and remember, your sibling is out there, they are, like you, have responsible to their parents too, not just because they have their own family and they can have less responsible.

We're in the same situation.

I had to let go job offers from KL/Selangor and now searching job in Batu Pahat area.

It's hard, but for the sake of parents, who else going to take care of them?
They sacrificed for us so much. It's time to take up the responsibility.

I've been thinking, it's always good to start a business. Slowly expand, good life, good pay (hardwork), and most important, you're satisfied. Yu won't feel guilty as you're away from home.

We can't compensate the time we have lost. So, TS value your time with your parents. They didn't want money, it's just a tool for living. All they want is someone to concern and care about them.

All the best.

You need to be filial but also you need to work to earn a living to support your future. I believe your parents would not want you to jeopardize your career and future. Concentrate on your job, visit them at hometown more. If one day you're more financially sound, request your parents to move in with you.

i've been thinking about starting my own business too. but it's not easy as it requires quite a lot of money. my initial plan is to work in kl for a few years until i make enough but as i said i feel guilty for leaving my parents.

Your money give birth to you rite?

easy to answer...

my father is still strong for his age so he's the one who's taking care of my weak mother. i don't want to talk bad about my siblings but i'm the only one who's more reliable. all they care about is their partner and in laws. even my parents complain about them.

i quite enjoy my current profession. jumping into another profession i think would need another set of requirements,skills.

easy for you to say since you're not the one facing this situation. i'd suggest you thank your lucky stars

you father still working? your mom weak till only lying on bed only? or still can walk around doing some house chore?
i understand, some family like that, parents is their burden, not someone to be appreciate. and i believe your parents is not those who abandon their child type.
changing career is tough, but not something un-do-able.
my experience, it's easy to cope/learn the new job, but it takes more effort to cope with the environment/people around you. so if you really want to do so, you must be prepared for it, and don't regret.

Discuss with your parents.

I dont believe they want to force u to go back to small town and screw up ur future.
Even if they might be sick or inconvenient they probably wont want to kacau u too.

You can always go back and be a filial child, or dont go back and if something happens to them then you will regret.

At the end of the day, i still think they want the best for your future.

So talk to them, see what they want.

care to share where is your hometown and your field?
tried asking your parents to move to kl instead?
is your dad still working?

of cz it easy, me also abandon my past job that make 4k per month for taking car my parent...

better funding for afterlife than on this world...

ive been there... to me family 1st no matter what

You can always visit your parents during weekend or holiday ~ well...don't just stuck in KL ..visit them frequently