Hi gals,

I'm new here and do need some advice.

I'm 22 this year and I have a bf almost the same age. But I've realized that my taste towards guys like my age is not attractive to me anymore.

I kinda start to fall for men at his age 30-40 like that. Is that normal actually? I don't know what to do.

Need some advice.

I suppose it's normal. Women tend to be attracted to older guys. They are more mature I guess.

If you find yourself falling out of love with your bf, then better break the news to him.

You sure is not because of their career and financial background ? at least thats what i gathered from my pool of gal friends which is in your shoes.

When you do meet someone you really like, does it matter anymore?

I knew him through my bf... somewhat they're related?

But i can say no doubt that guy is charming...

You sure it has nothing to do with him being (probably) more financially stable?

The 'maturity' argument is misinformed at best.

You're fit to be a mistress

I don't know

I just find him more mature and steady... Financially? He's working in a bank and in quite a stable position.

But overall, just thought would it be weird to really date a man over half of my age...

Later ppl think I'm a gold digger pulak

He's single la... He just broke up beginning of the year

wait until youre 35-45,

you will look for someone younger (20-28).

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This post has been edited by placenta: Oct 25 2013, 09:40 AM

It's quite simple actually, an older guy is like different from the people our age. People our age, when we see older guys, they are like more knowledgeable, full of experience, financially comfortable, confident, knows what he is doing and knows how to handle things in a proper way. Or maybe you could just be attracted to his charms.

But actually, that is only one part you see, every one has an immature and negative side to them.

Then again, I know many couples where the husband/bf is significantly older than them (at least 10 years). One example, my dad is almost 20 years my mum's senior. And usually these couples turn out great.

This post has been edited by munkeyflo: Oct 25 2013, 10:45 AM

Ya that's the thing.

But that's just one thing I don't get it is why isn't he married? I mean, since when he has a gf previously, with man that age, should be married edi.

Exactly. Like what I said before, everyone has a downside to them.

Well, it could be that he is single by choice. Not everyone dreams of getting married and starting a family.
It could also mean that there is a reason why he is still single. Why doesn't other women want him when he is so desirable? There has to be a reason if he is not single by choice. Maybe he just hasn't found the right women to accept him for who he is yet.

Over half of my age, plus he's a stable guy, how to approach him?

Normally guys with age like that would find someone more mature or on par with him right?

True. Older guys generally wouldn't want to waste their time being with a dramatic immature girl. And most girls our age are dramatic and immature.

I've no idea on how to approach him though. If he's not interested to get a girl also can't do much.

oh gosh...

If your bf is related to him it might not be a good idea to approach him.. it might trigger flags..

TS, what you want to know? I just hit 30. Ask me anything.

This post has been edited by Plant: Oct 25 2013, 04:31 PM

asking a forum on how to approach a guy which was introduced to you by ur boyfriend because ur romantically/sexually attracted to him

cheers for this thread

nice one..

You're not alone. I'm attracted to older guys too.

(Y)


no wonder juu so

no rush. i`m still single btw.

u leaving ur bf for older guy?

Not related also.

I'm also attracted to older men. Are you older enough?

old ol, cough

stop being those, dramatic immature girls

keep him interested with u.. so on n on. if not. just buh bye

http://lovesagame.com/a-womans-guide-on-approaching-men/

yup, i think it's pretty normal. i have the tendency to fall for older guys as well (25-35..i'm 23), probably due to the fact that they're more mature(mostly) and have less possibility to be clingy? ( i don't like one who is too clingy C: )

we older men ... in 30s will always attracted to mature girls

those type of maturity comes from your life experiences ... not your age

anyhow it cant be denied that many men also like girls younger then them

or pedo

Based on experience in what aspect? Mind to explain more?

It's not that I purposely leave him cause of older guy.

If there's situations that would leads to the ending of the relationship, my next approach will be on older guys instead of looking for younger ones already. \

But of course la, appearance is also quite important to me... not that kind of unker that look like apek apek kind. If you und...

I know many may say that "If the guy is really charming and good looking, do I have that same standard in order to match up with him". Try lo...

if all thick, but the guy dun like you..how? even u r so desperate for him.

Kidnap him and brainwash him

Just Joking.

Well all this depends on luck and fate I can say.

Belum cuba belum tau....

(omg) u sound like your tyrion lannister. but not as powerful as him well, atleast he did got the girl in one of her palace

Tyrion Lannister is smart in the movie. I rike!

But I like Jaime Lannister more.

tat player ==
ahaha.
so mean if he is shorter than u, u r also okay?

Nooooo... Tall ones preferable la...

oh waits, how tall r u?

160cm

late 20s to late 30s =)
i like how theyve gone through much more than me in life
and in a way they are wiser n better in carrying themselves.

Yep. I agree! And the way they view things / situation are more different.

160cm consider short to me.

owh ic, how to get them then?

(okay)

seriously, you are not alone. Even for me, I fall for guys much older than me. For me, they are more matured and at least they are not playing around.

More over, older guys tend to give more sense of security and advise. They have more experience compared with guys same age or older slightly.

Even for myself, I'm looking for guys around age 30++.. But sadly, most of them are married. hehe

29-35 men attractive to me.

i'm a guy like u described.

bear in mind :

older guy- got career/financial, more experience, wiser and so on.
but may be less energy + dont wana entertain childish stuffs

younger guy - grow wif u along ur journey, poorer or less financially steady, but accompany u all along. more energy, more adventurous.

both have pros n cons, depends on what u want.

+1..

so for guise 25-29 like me, guess have to start looking for post graduate SPM ones alrdy

d same concept applies to gal:

- young gal : naive, less mature, more active, less demanding, less financially ready, will go thru life's journey even at difficult time, etc

- older gal : more demanding, more mature, financially steady, less active, just wanna settle down, etc

rmb, guys will look at u d same way too.

SPM? PMR la more suitable for u...lol

ohwai... that's too.. underaged!

U aim first la... then when they have reach 21, barulah u melaksanakan tugas anda

Plus, by that time u ngam ngam become unker edi, got money edi... so no problem on being a girl magnet

This post has been edited by JY222: Nov 8 2013, 04:25 PM

so i put deposit first can? till "tarikh matang" i can withdraw my benefits got any PMR girls to intro?

Lol Desperado spotted

OMG what did i just read

kakaka.. that's what my fren use to joke about..

16 then legal edi ma. So techinicall PMR graduate = generally above 15 y o.

seemed experience

I agree

wat u agree?

Get young girl then you can mold her into your preferred gf/wife.

That is if she's the type who will listen to you and not rebel against you with her own wishes.

PMR girls considered legal edi... Young, wild n fresh some more...

This post has been edited by JY222: Nov 8 2013, 05:14 PM

Oh yea, TS is right. Fresh some more. For those who always want it fresh.

erm, duwan la.. i don't like to mold ppl.. i prefer like her for the way she is, as long she is understanding and willing to put effort for relationship can alrdy

now hardly find fresh one alrdy even before PMR age

ai....during school r lovely doggy..once they graduate, (male or female) & start to work, not many of the couple still can be together due to their experiences & surrounding.

MOst of the gal (school flower) endup married with normal or fat guy who have financial ability.

good luck in your hunt.

unker this year 40......wonder can get or not

Why hello there...

Aiyah... I just missed the mark by a bit, still acceptable ka?


You like fat, ugly 30 year old men too ka?

How ugly? Fat? I dun like, prefer muscular, too slim I dun like too.

Ohh... so it has to be mature and muscular and non ugly la... not too high expectation i guess.

Wanna hook up?

ok

so easy to hook up?

haha since when this has become flirting club

I prefer older than me not more than 8 years. Younger 2 or 3 years is still acceptable

30 to 35

27-35 for me

5-7 years older than me

While drinking, socializing etc it is easy to talk and enjoy every moment of it in the company of an early 20s lady but when it comes to non social gatherings and meeting up everyday, I wonder if I can sustain much conversation with them.
When you are in your 30s and 40s, the accomplished and successful males are usually more interested in business/finance issues, our work, maybe some politics, sports, cars etc which I am guessing that the younger ladies will have no interest in.
For long term relationship there must be some common interest other than just drinking.
Just my 2 cents.
And I am above 40, successful I guess, married, still go out drinking now and then

I would avoid using examples from our parents' generation and prior. Things were different then.

people will never get satisfied with what they have in present. will keep on searching for perfection even though they own one.

Oh, my girlfriend left me for an older guy. She's in her early 20s while he's in his mid 30s.

I guess girls are easily charmed by older men. More achievement, more financial stability etc etc. Sometimes I wonder if "growing old together" ever applies. Many girls just want to jump straight to older men instead of growing together with someone closer to their age group.

As for your situation, it's usually easy to attract his attention. Speaking as a man, there's a certain "novelty" in dating a younger girl. How long this "novelty" lasts depends on how long you can pretend to enjoy the things he enjoy or act the way he expects of you or vice versa. Unless, of course, you really do enjoy being with him and vice versa.

I like guys between 28 to 30. With some sense of maturity and stability.

i like girl between ur age