I`m in dilemma right now.......

I have a gf.....we dated about 8 month now..... she`s nice. but the only thing really annoy me is she`s always sulking for a small reason ( for example text her late, not anwering her call ). sometimes for no reason at all...I knew it`s normal for a girl to sulking or merajuk but sometimes it nearly reach my boiling point. when she`s sulking she will silent for about a week no matter how many times I call or txt her.........when she`s finally respond ( many times when I have to start it first ) she will act normal like nothing happen........when I ask her what happen she`s not answering and quickly change the subject...........

there`s a time when I reveal my frustration about her attitude she became emotional and start saying lame things ( for example you`re too good for me ) and start threatening to end our relationship.....and what can I do is just silent, comfort and persuade her to continue our relatonship.........

she have a bf before this but she`s got dumped.....i began to think i maybe it has something to do with her always sulking attitude.........

I love her.......but now I became tired........ shoud I give her a chance. or should i break up with her and move on.........

only you can answer your own question.

break up. move on.

TS, I feel you bro, but think a for a moment are you ok living with this person?

If you intend this to be a serious relationship, you know whats best and as you typed, though you expressed your feelings she doesn't respond back to you in a way which is even rational. Hard as it seems, is it worth it?

The decision is yours, hang in there bro.

love her? imagine what her sulky attitude and face looks like after marriage. save the divorce fees and hassle. drop her now and look ahead. so many more out there that will bring warmth to your heart and happiness. look ahead not backwards. drop her and stop the pain

If she merajuk over simple things, no point continuing the relationship. Think of what will happen if bigger issues arises next time. Find one who is understanding.

Friend,

You don't think just because you date her for months, you both are forever together.

You may be under "probation" period.

She is just testing and checking you out to see if you are the right person. That is why she is not so open to you.

Don't read too much about her threat to dump you.

But if you both are not holding hands and she haven't confirm you verbally as her boyfriend, you still have the right to see other women.

You ask us whether you want to break up or not but you know the answer yourself, I can see that you are unsure because you still like her although she doesn't respond to you. So in other words, you don't have the guts to break off. Unless she is the one who initiates.

Just wait and see...

If things don't go well, just take this as a learning experience.

Yep, only you can answer your own question. But I have a friend with similar attitude with your GF and honestly, every time she pull that shitty act I soo wanna bash her face. It is annoying, even from a girl's point of view.

hurmm... perhps time for u to move on...

Move on

You have to ask yourself and solve this dilemma yourself.

1. Do you love her so much that you feel you can tahan going through with her sulking over small matters if you were to remain in the relationship?
2. If you choose to keep peace, can you be patient with her everytime she does this?

Personally, the relationship doesn't feel like a positive one and I'd end it and just move on.

This post has been edited by MysticShadow: Jun 3 2013, 12:31 AM

shit happens bro...sometime we dunno the ppl until we together with him or her~

She sulking again yesterday............reason.......I didn`t reply to her text.......hell it`s not because I meant to.......during saturday night she texting me around 11 pm but her sms only arrive to my phone at 1am and I already zzzz that time......only realize it after waking up the following day at morning..........but never in hell cross my mind she will sulking over this.....try to explain to her the whole thing but as usual it`s like talking to a doll.........no respond. maybe it will continue on for another 4-5 days if I didn`t do anything ( as usual I have to start all the talking first )......

mybe it`s time to make desicion....... really guys this is gone too far....... her attitude never matched her age ( 26 btw )

This post has been edited by bluraypirate: Jun 3 2013, 08:49 AM

Treat her like crap. That will brighten her day up for sure, instead of calling her and apologizing and trying to make up with her.

Let her deal with her baggage. Its not yours for the taking.

Honestly? Dump her.

There's no better cure than hard lovin'. You putting up with her attitude simply means you're enabling her misbehaviors.

dont you think you shud assure her more? i think she's insecure and worried.. i guess it's your job as a guy to assure her that everything's gonna be okay..

if you cant do it, then it's gonna be hard for u.. and for her

key to relationship is communication. talk to her about it. if after confrontation and she's still the same, then you can move on.

You're being too soft. Hell, i'll do the same damn thing. Cold shoulder back to her for a month.
Such simple understanding she can't grasp, I'm not sure how both of you going to discuss bigger matter in life.

You're giving into her "emotional blackmail" which matured relationship won't do and doesn't exist.

aiya, she just pattern so you will break up with her cos she wanted to.

its takes two to tango. sometimes a couple went thru a few breakups before they understand how much they need one another.
but if u break up with her and she doesnt care...go figure..

You are already complaining after 8 months think about what will happen if you are together for 8 years. Do you want to feel stressed and pressured all your life, we only have on life to live so dont make this wrong choice of thinking that this relationship can bring you happiness, having ups and downs is normal but this is too much when youre frequently feeling down all the time which shows that she is always sulking,soon if you dont leave her then she will leave you for someone else because as i see it,the reasons he is sulking whether small or big seems to be caused by your small mistakes and she cannot even accept that.

Not all girls are like that.

You should find a more matured girl who doesn't sulk over small issues.

dump her, if nt u will suffer more

u said sulking for a weeks?ignore u for a weeks?well what she doing when not contacting u a weeks.IF U KNOW WHAT I MEAN.so just break up and find new 1.

to me, she behaved so, must be some reasons behind.. maybe her ex hurted him badly before, hence she is insecure toward relationship now..thats why when there is delay in replying call or msg, she felt that you have someone else or doing something enough to make her worry...

try to bear with hers, if cant, let her, let both own you get a better one...

merajuk tu tandanya cinta..
if you think she is dragging you behind, you can always have the option of finding a better partner..

TS's gf suffering from Bipolar?

HOW OLD R YOU????

1. How can one person be nice, and yet be a complete a$$hole at the same time? (sulking for small reason.

2. Notice her behavior, threaten to end the relationship unless you do X Y Z is a manipulation tactics. You'll just jumping through hoops and she'll never be happy.

3. Stop looking for excuses for her poor behavior as grown ups accept responsibility, either ask her to woman up or gtfo from your life.

Dump her, move on. Nuff' said, a lot good one deserves your attention

If you were to marry her, can you bear this sulking attitude she has for the rest of your life? Cannot? Move on bro

A girl that got dumped.....find the source and you will be enlightened

my ex used to do that too.. i'm a grown up working person... i cant always reply her sms immediatly .. so i hard to tell her.. inform her.. explain to her... well we broke up in the end cause i couldnt stand it... Been together for 2 years ~~~ haiz..

dun ever late reply her message. before sleep you need to call her and say good night.. then no sulking or anything will happen le..

how to maintain... sure cannot maintain one like that.. no freedom..

errrrrr so childish.?

hahaha.. the one that are immature is the one that dunno how to resolve a problem with his own girl friend.

girlfriend angry because you didnt reply her message but the reason behind is because the message was deliver late and you already zzz. so, in order to solve this problem, just make a call to her before you zzz so that she can know you already zzz instead of getting angry because you didnt reply msg.

up to u if you want to make it a habit for your partner to get used to.As such you need to keep on doing the same thing forever otherwise your partner will question you.

hey TS... if u be together with a girl u love and not be yourself at the same time... How is that Call happy... Just Be Yourself Ts... Garyao~~

update.........ha3 soo late..........

dump her january last year.........twice shes`s asking for breakup becoz of well........simple misunderstanding and twice a week later she said sorry & regret for being an asshole and want me back........

2nd time she repeat that cycle I have enough...........two middle finger for her.....wish I never knew her in first place..........nothing but depression during our time together.........

okay that`s all......currently still single and have no plan to get gf for a moment......

single life is soooo peaceful........

This post has been edited by bluraypirate: Feb 10 2015, 10:15 AM

A gal who do not appreciate and abuse her power must be dump asap.

Good job. Still got many gal around .



This post has been edited by wangpr: Feb 10 2015, 11:32 AM

as the relationship gets closer they tend to be more sensitive towards u .. so abit abit will merajuk.. worst case is when they are pms week that time... all hell break loose

lol, such respond given in this thread irk me at some point

Dear TS, women behaviour CHANGE right after marriage
either in a single particular way or right after having a baby, the tendency is higher on different occasion
The question is either ure willing to guide her down the road as a life partner or not

On the other hand, its a bad practise to be control by them in a devious way
The act of saying "ure way too good to have me"is a sign of confidence lessening or crack in your relationship

HAVE.A.TALK

dear me, :faceplam for not read through your thread till the end
anyway, keep those exp uve gotten for future guidance

move on... pass her to me...

a week? that's too much lah bro

i'm guessing she learned this weird attitude from her parents.


this is how a normal healthy girl will confront you:

normal girl: hey, how come last night you did not reply my text massage? I was kinda worried.

you: oh I was asleep that time, I received your sms at 1am ler *show your handphone to her*

normal girl: oh i see. I was about to ask you what you going to plan for today.


usually only married women will choose not to confront, not to ask for explanation, but kept all her anger by herself. Because she couldn't possibly lose her husband, both side clearly did not love each other, but using this attitude to protest this lousy relationship.


your gf probably still not mature and living under the shadow of her parents. she dunno that in actual love life, everybody can break up if not match, everybody can ask for explanation, and everybody can express their doubt and unhappiness (in a mature way). she thought every couple in this world is like her parents ... eternal cold war and not talking to each other, will never dare to ask each other for the questions they really wanted to know.

How old is TS's gf???

Girls need time to grow matured n change ok

been in the same dilemma...i ended up leaving her... lesson learnt..a good one

Even my ex gf also change behavior after dating for few months. Luckily she is my ex now.

Couldnt stand her sudden change of behavior like changing clothes, so many pattern and so frequent.

Piap then dump bro
So sulk
Very girl
Much boyfriend
Wow

Physical tired and emotional tired? It seems like you're beginning to feel the emotional tiredness which is bad. Your call on either to continue or to let it go. A girl who drains me will also go down the drain.

You guys didn't read the update and just reply to a post 1.5 years ago... fail

Thread op already dumped the gf for more than a year already laaaa

This post has been edited by s2peMocls: Feb 12 2015, 02:53 PM

gud decision then...so case closed

missing one week..... no reason.....

maybe she dating outside for a week ?

look for new gf, but dun end ur relationship with the "little miss sulky"...
then compare between the two or maybe more..
then choose the best one...
(even i can assure, u will still regret once u have married by making a wrong decision)

"start threatening to end our relationship"

solid sign you should bro.

who the eff resrrected this?

Love is suffering. If u still love her. Be patience with her. She just too love u and make her sulking u.

it depends on "merajuk" is to catch your attention or she do it automatically that becomes a habit. If is a habit, change her, if cannot.. stop.. and look for another one.. love is love, but marrying the wrong one will ruin your life.

This is actually hidden signs that the gal already wants to break off....just they dont have the balls...errr..i meant tits to say it straight on the face...

BREAK THE FUCK UP BRO...women who compulsively sulk are crazy bitches. They will suck all your energy..make you wonder pointlessly over "what you did wrong" and basically make you feel upset at all times. It is a form of punishment to take revenge on you....i had GF like this before..never text for a while..terus merajuk...i dumped her..

OMG. TS already breakup with the gal in January 2014. And you ressurected old thread from 2013. Wow

Hahaha..i googled something on girls sulking..this thread came out..i had to give my 2 cents haha

Every human have their own pattern. Those more extreme type, can be tune depends whether their partner find the right way to hit it back.

Merajuk is quite common, but if she merajuk to someone that don't feel it. After some time she will get used to it and no longer like that. Let her merajuk, don't try to pujuk.. behave as if you don't feel she angry at all. She wanna ignore your call, quiet or whatever, let her be. See who can tahan longer (make sure you must tahan). Until she come to you and throw tantrum complaint you don't bother even she angry. Then you say "You angry, I lagi tak mau kacau u. Til you ok, u will recover yourself". Since you already have the thought to give up, who cares? If she still cannot get over it, let her leave. Otherwise, after some time you behave like that.. she will know her behavior not works to "ctrl" you.

Then I think I am originally not the normal kind. I also will keep quiet and show not happy. But my man also no pujuk until I too tired of show that angry face and cannot tahan, talk to him again.

It started simple such as he travel to a place, I told him to call me so that I know he safely arrived. But he didn't call. Then I angry.
Yet, his this behavior never change. So many years past, I already don't bother.. he wanna call will call. No point I wait and feel angry as he won't change and he don't seem to understand why I angry. Waste my energy. Hahaha.

Quote for reference purpose

dude...see the date b4 u post...

Yes... Spoilt brad n golden child princess... Ur life will suffer..

Its difficult having a sulking GF

Imagine being married to one

Cut your losses and move on

The one thing I can't tolerate is her showing me that shit face.

Want to scold, then scold. Got something to say then faster say your piece and STFU.

The worst is when she shows a shit face at what is supposed to be a happy moment or occasion. Oh well she is only human I suppose.

communication is the key? face to face.?

If it is not clear that you should dump this childish girl, you wouldn't be posting here in the first place.

Dump. Her.

Err..necro thread?

This post has been edited by tomato people: Nov 22 2019, 04:02 PM

Why necro thread, have some ethics... sigh

Because why not? Lol

she have a bf before this but she`s got dumped.....i began to think i maybe it has something to do with her always sulking attitude........


your answered your question. Leave now or regret later.

Lolzzz

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Before marry, bad gf sulks and sulks until bf lets her win; ... after marry, she will nag and nag and nag softie husband to continue winning/dominating.

Why bad women have the habit of sulking and nagging.? = because gf/wife has a natural fear of directly confronting the bf/husband to get what she wants, eg to get the bf to report his whereabouts daily to her, in order to eradicate her insecurities and doubts. This is similar to animals having a natural fear of humans.
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hahaha

I totally agree. Sulking is very immatured and it's how children behave to get their parent's attention. It is also a passive aggressive way of punishing your partner. End up I used to be so upset and down thinking about "What did I do wrong to make her angry?". I think this sulking is a universal problem..both men and women do it..but mostly women. This is one thing I hate about being in a relationship. Why can't we just be matured and stop this sulking that simply destroys lives and peace of mind..

if your not interested, may introduce to ktard..since so many is 4ever alone..

Yes very well said @lurkingaround. Women these days really want to have QUEEN CONTROL. Gone are the days when men used to be real men. Now I so sad to see so many men in the malls carrying their GF/wife's handbag..hen pecked husbands. Always having their tail between their feet. Women are very smart at being manipulative and blackmailing men, especially on sex, i.e. if you don't give me this and that, I won't let you have sex with me. Really sad la...

Who necroed this? I've to add on this this sulking thing. Sulking is one. The other to avoid is negative/pessimistic. Always living on fear of something. Everything you try to do, they'll give you 101 excuses why it won't work. They can bring down your high and happy into how their low. It's why it would not work rather than how can we try to make it work thing.

But usually these sulk and negative traits comes together.

so hows TS life now??

Hahahahha same here!

Only time will break u guys up anyway...better now than later. Sien to always facing a sulky pokey.....and yea from a girl's point of view here. Duno y guys just like to loh foo lei san.....seen many guys lOoooove these kind of girls and then complain later on or have affairs later on....i mean hello, not like u dunno right from the start tat your gf is like this? Then still wanna get married and cry over spilled milk later :/ really wh4 :/

This post has been edited by mIssfROGY: Nov 26 2019, 07:07 PM

wow, really old thread brought back to life.

Opssss didnt realised. Qonder if TS finally dumped her then? Or still hanging on the cliff?

Im curious too. hanging since 2013 or long gone already the gf?

Me three

LoL!!

Quote for the truth

Okay found it.

I do carry my wife handbag because i could and not because she told me to. By carrying her handbag, she can rest and the arm wont be so pain. I also do carry my mom handbag if i can.

Wow. /k going towards necromancy starting with this thread now?

I don't think sulking is the real issue here. The problem lies in communication.
Guys will always find reasons to justify that he no longer has feelings towards the girlfriend. When both people get together, initially during the honeymoon period, the guy would just accommodate the girl's demands, pampering the girl and saying the girl is cute (liking that the girl being jealous) etc.
But as time passes by, good feelings fade and not-so-good feelings appear. Both people refuse to communicate and would start finding faults and more disliking, but not to remediate the issue, although the issue could be minor.
Once the feelings (spark) fade and the excitement is gone, one would just initiate the breakup; and the technology makes the process much easy. No need meetup, nor talking through phone, just by using the text messages through WhatsApp.

Being an adult with maturity, there will be no scene of quarrel and fight. Probably tears and a tinge of heart pain while swallowing those words.

But eventually life moves on. Time will be the best medicine.

No matter one is at the initiating end or at the receiving end, I wish everyone of us taking it easily, since there is one saying, "Every happening is the best happening". 一切的发生都是最好的发生。

Another advice, the ball is always in the court of the initiating end. Hence if one would like to reconcile, the ball would have to be passed to the other end, conveying the message and making sure the communication is ongoing. Only the continuous two way communication would keep the game going. Cheers.