Hmmmm... what happens if you dont help your mother with 3k? She'd still be working as a vege seller?

Yeah, i do agree too. Actually both hav its pros n cons. If you want to send to babysitter, make sure you find a good one (even if not the best). At least someone u trust and will not ABUSE your baby. It is a pity that we often see in papers babies being abused.. :'( However good thing for sending to babysitter is, you and your wife will have time on your own to do more things. I believe if it is your MIL who is taking care of your baby, you and your wife will be responsible to take care at night? And in the event you both need a break, you can always ask help from the babysitter. Good babysitter will also give you lots of advices on how to take care of babies and there will be lots of things can be shared. Now comes the bad part.. it is hard to "open ur mouth" in the event you are not OK with their ways of doing / take care of your baby. The feeding part may become a concern when your baby is older in future. What if they feed him sweet, fried stuff that we parents never want them to try at such tender age??

If you MIL can take care, it is good but to pay RM3k honestly is really costly for me. Good part is, of course she will be able to take care of your baby the way you wan it to be and you can comment easier too since it is your mom. But mind you, grandparents tend to pamper the kids. This happens in many cases. So concern is that your baby will be spoit (but of course this is not CONFIRMED will happen. is just in case only). And ur time will be more restricted. Your life will be revolving ur baby all the time cos you can't expect ur MIL to take care from day til nite right? Cos she will be tired too.

Having said all that, its still up to u to judge. I personally go for babysitter (my son is now 1 year). i feel it is best for my husband n i as he needs to work late most of the time, while i need time on my own to handle the house, grocery, cleaning, cooking, and not to say rest after a hard day at work. Most importantly, ur r happy with ur decision and don't make urself stressed up. Taking care of a child is a long process. Not a day or two. You have to consider it in long term.

perhaps rm3000 is alot.. but if you say she will cook for your family and to take care the house i think its good with it. but provided the grocery is included in the rm3000. assuming she is taking rm1000 for babysit, then another rm2000 is the grocery for meals n household. at least it is someone who is close that take care the kid. though i agreed that grandparents tend to spoilt the kid hwoever as parents will also teach them.. not that you will leave the kid to MIL 24 hours or only see the kid once per week. if youre still staying together then i think you can still teach the kid well.

PS: one month 2 boxes (600g) for milk is definetely not enough. unless your wife is breastfeeding then can. otherwise is gonna be like at least 5boxes (600g).

beofre i had my baby here, i assume less than rm200 for milk powder every month but it is not sufficient. my baby milk intake every month 800g x 5 boxes.

RM3k to mother-in-law seem really a blood sucker just bcos she owned loan shark...

for mine, at the moments we paying to my mother-in-law RM850 per month for 24X7 except saturday and sunday and excluded pamper and milk expenses... but sometimes my mother-in-law will cook some porridge and other food to my kids and sometimes prepare our meal for lunch and dinner by mother-in-law when saturday and sunday...

anyway, do your mother-in-law have other children? she may ask her children to pay some of her debt and reduce your burden to pay her debt only, a family should help each others no matter how...

Do you know why your mother owed money to loan shark? Because if you give her 3K and she still has the old habits (maybe gambling?) .... it will be a worse of both solutions.....

RM3k to mother-in-law seem really a blood sucker just bcos she owned loan shark...

for mine, at the moments we paying to my mother-in-law RM850 per month for 24X7 except saturday and sunday and excluded pamper and milk expenses... but sometimes my mother-in-law will cook some porridge and other food to my kids and sometimes prepare our meal for lunch and dinner by mother-in-law when saturday and sunday...

anyway, do your mother-in-law have other children? she may ask her children to pay some of her debt and reduce your burden to pay her debt only, a family should help each others no matter how...

Does your babysitter have any other helpers? Some babysitters I know also taking care of 7-8 kids but have other relatives helping them out + got maid to do the cleaning.

3K is a lot of money. How about finding a different babysitter? Where you live anyways?

Are u from kepong? sounds like the bbsitter nearby my bbsitter's place.

personally i prefer MIL to take care of my baby.....cuz ppl will lose patience, so i really dun dare to put my baby with outsiders.......luckily my husband n i share the same thought n my MIL is very willing to help us take care of our baby........n v dun hv to pay her too excessively oso......

i also opt for this

How bout other option,  get ur wife to take care? 

Previously v tot of asking my MIL to look after our baby....but something happened which i got no idea wat it is, n my husband suddenly got the idea of asking me to stay at home take care of our baby...