perhaps rm3000 is alot.. but if you say she will cook for your family and to take care the house i think its good with it. but provided the grocery is included in the rm3000. assuming she is taking rm1000 for babysit, then another rm2000 is the grocery for meals n household. at least it is someone who is close that take care the kid. though i agreed that grandparents tend to spoilt the kid hwoever as parents will also teach them.. not that you will leave the kid to MIL 24 hours or only see the kid once per week. if youre still staying together then i think you can still teach the kid well.

PS: one month 2 boxes (600g) for milk is definetely not enough. unless your wife is breastfeeding then can. otherwise is gonna be like at least 5boxes (600g).

beofre i had my baby here, i assume less than rm200 for milk powder every month but it is not sufficient. my baby milk intake every month 800g x 5 boxes.