To those of you who have listened to Fly FM this morning will know what's happening, it's about the Fix-it.

There is this girl who cancels the wedding just a week before the actual wedding date, call off everything. Which really freaked the guy out.
So this guy stopped every contact and try to avoid this girl by all means.

So this girl seeks help from the 2 DJs, who got in touch and try reconnecting to the guy.

The girl's argument to cancel the wedding was she was not ready yet, and the involvement of her future mother-in-law was too much for her to contain with and therefore she decided to cancel it.

The guy, who sounded deeply depressed, says if so, she shouldn't have say "yes" to marriage that early. He decided to call if off for them and doesn't want to go thru all this for the second time even though the girl says she still love him and wanted to get back together with him.

In your opinion, does the guy make the right choice? does the girl deserve a second chance?
Guys, if you were in his shoe, what will you do? Discuss?

Disclaimer: Credit goes to the national radio station.

Guy : Running away isnt a solution
Girl : She should have discussed with the guy more. The guy is right in saying she shouldnt have agreed to marry him if she still have doubts/unready.

I'd say the guy probably needs time to put his thoughts back together. Getting a wedding called off 1 week before the actual date can hurt (no experience there though)

My lame thoughts...

This post has been edited by Xhiro: Sep 28 2012, 10:34 AM

for such mega-embarrassment, i think it's better they stay friends.

of course you people would say that the relationship should be severed, fickle now fickle later, all that bullshit.

I applaud her for cancelling the wedding when she had such doubts, because she did the right thing. If he wants to end all contact with her for this then clearly, he cares more about his face than the fact that she was worrying about this. She didn't bring the FMIL issue up before because she felt that maybe she could get through it for him, but it became too much for her and she did the right thing.

His loss. I can understand being hurt, but I think him wanting to end all contact with her goes beyond hurt, it's BUTThurt. She wants to work through this with him, as anybody in a healthy relationship of teamwork should, but he's too butthurt about his face.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Sep 28 2012, 10:41 AM

The problem is that she decided to cancel it. Its a marriage, decisions are not hers alone to make. She only cared about how she was feeling and did not consider how it would affect her partner at all.

Her selfishness destroyed her relationship. The guy is right in ditching her.

Agreed, of course the guy should walk away.

I'm surprised that you can applaud her for calling it off without discussing it with her fiance first.

Considering how selfish her actions were, and how she could not hold up the pressure of a wedding. I would said its more her loss than his.

Ohai hawky... after a few years i pop up again lol

The guy didnt really ditch her... he just ran away to save his face as what berry said o.O

Nope.

When you enter a marriage, you should have absolutely NO doubt from both parties. ZERO doubt. Doesn't matter to me whether it was the guy or the girl who had doubts - I would have applauded the one who called it off. What's even better is that she's doing the right thing by wanting to talk about it. What I don't agree with is how she apparently didn't tell him she was having these issues, and how he's handling it.

ohai there

doesn't matter whether its ditched/ran away, bottom line is they didn't communicate. They didn't work as a team. Her actions were selfish, his was stupid. Though his reaction to her actions is totally understandable and acceptable.

I can tell you this. If a girl really loves the guy and set her mind, she would have try to work something out with the husband rather than cancelling the wedding off. I suspect she's not into marrying him or maybe doesn't really like him that much, but she just agreed because maybe she couldn't find anyone better.


Or....since this is FLY FM the scenario is probably created for entertainment purposes.

lol u still remember me after being MIA countless times repeatedly?

Lack of communication = all hell breaks loose... yet it happens all the time

did you miss the part where the problem was the PERMANENT mother-in-law?

He took the right move . Don't be with someone who can be honest with you in the first place . YOUR telling me that , the girl said yes to him 2 weeks ago and decided to Merry him the following week . Come on , she's staring to play him out from the very start of the relationship . All this time , she didn't have the courage to tell him of his mother . Wait till the very last week ??? LOL ... just leave . There will be more stories of her soon .

The problem wasn't described. What did the Mother in law do that was so bad that she had to cancel 1 week before the wedding?
Also, what is it that happened now that she couldn't bring up like 10 months ago.



This post has been edited by Drian: Sep 28 2012, 10:59 AM

That's idealistic.

You're engaged if I recall? Wedding coming anytime soon? Weddings bring a lot of pressure onto couples, which really puts them to the test. So even if you had no doubts before, the pressure could reveal problems you've never faced in the relationship, which then causes doubts.

The mark is that you both have the courage and determination to pull through it. Only then do you know that you truly have what it takes. They both failed this horribly, but she holds more responsibility for this failure for making a decision without a discussion first. Completely and totally selfish. Not fit for marriage or a relationship.

I may not agree with how the guy is handling it, but I don't blame him for what he's doing.

The guy should not contact the girl anymore, even if they become friends, it would only be like a friend which say "hi" and "good bye" in the street.

the girl's fault = not discussing first.

the guy's fault = totally cut all contact.

think about all those deposits, gone already.. can go for thousands of ringgit, no wonder the guy pissed off

I heard that on radio this morning too.

She was not comfortable when it comes to the guy mom handling everything or in her eyes, taking over of everything. She mention on air to the guy that she wants it to be 'THEIR' wedding not someone else.

Guy defended, saying 'of coz, my mom excited bout it'

My take would be the girl panic, and in the midst of panicky mode decided to call it off at very last freaking moment.

And after all the drama unfold, only then she realise it was a silly mistake that she made by calling it off so sudden, hence she wants to make up with him back again.

Gosh.... She should have just talk to him bout it..... I thought all girls like to talk one? You know, heart-to-heart thingy, emotionally and all?