i found going in with confidence really help. often in clubs, i see a girl or two girls dancing, and then 10 more guys just dancing around her. It is obvious that these guys are interested in her, but have no balls to push forward.

I would just walk straight to her, tap her at the shoulder, and yell at her ears 'Hi, Im XXXX. I am keen to buy you a drink. Would you join me and my friends? we dont bite!'

often these girls would say yes, after looking at my table - usually a mixture of guys and ladies, at working age. Once they are over, its talking and 'get to know you better' time!

why? not all of us approaches girls with bad intentions.