The problem is likely cause you've identified yourself as an otaku, and even you yourself seem to have a negative perception of "otaku". You need to change your perception of it first, if you keep thinking that women will not like you cause of your hobbies, it will subconsciously transfer to your words/actions.

Personally I know a quite a few people who are into these hobbies (i am such a person myself) and they don't have problem with women. If you have other hobbies, you might want to start with that first. Its highly likely she's not interested in such things anyway, so don't bring it up unless she talks about it. I believe the problem is that she cannot relate with your hobby rather than being disgusted by it. I would be quite turned off myself if a woman I'm talking to decides to talk to me about her hobby that I can't relate to at all and she just keeps talking about it.
There's some truth to what killdavid is saying here. Its okay to have your such hobbies, but don't lose track with the real world. If I recall your posts from around here you don't seem to be that sort of person, so its most likely you've revealed your hobbies too early or in a fashion that they deemed unappealing.


Don't be so close minded, porn in any form be it high budget, amateur, webcam, hentai, comics, erotic stories, etc all have their own merits. Its how you use such material that makes the difference whether the person is creepy or not.

As for spending money on toys, what's the problem with that? Any different from women spending money on shoes/handbags? Its what they want to spend on, as long as they can afford it why not let them do what makes them happy? Why judge them for it?

Men never really grow up, there's always a little boy in him still. That boy is necessary to keep a man happy and in a sound state of mind, and every boy in a man has their own thing that makes them happy. If a man losses that part of him, a huge part of him dies inside. Look at any man who is happy and successful, there's always some stupid boyish thing he's doing on his free time.