Well, let me chip in my view,
I started off with D5100 with kit lens, kit lens great, but the moment i try 50mm 1.8g, i get hooked with the 1.8 and bokeh, so much so i naively believe that 50mm will be sufficient for everything, which prompt me to sold off my kit lens 18-55.
Then one fine day i go company outing, im being ask by my boss to take group photo because i seems to be the one with DSLR. With only 50mm, i blush so hard and in the end, i use my fren Nikon Coolpix to capture the photo. From there onwards i understand, 50mm by itself, cannot fit to every situation.
I bought 17-55 2.8 soon afterwards.
Then im being ask by my senior to help cover one of the company sponsor sport event, i realize i need a longer lens, so that i can shoot them from far.
Then i bought 105 f2.8 after the event.
Then with anticipation for FX camera, i sold off my 17-55 and bought 16-35mm F4 instead.
Then i complaint my DSLR too heavy for all occasion, feel like wanting something lighter so that i can carry everyday and for street photography, I bought Fuji X100 soon after that.
The Moral of the story is: Photography is a never ending, non satisfy, egolistic hobby, understand what you want, get what you need, and spend what you can.
Lolol. So I'm still.confused
Buy d5100 together with what? 50mm or 35mm?

and should the 18-55 kits lens be taken?
,go this n hurt one time.
3rd option - get a used D5100 or D7000, look around n you will find out a lot of good deal.