Feb 25 2012, 01:22 PM
QUOTE(elimi8z @ Feb 23 2012, 03:34 PM)
I have known this girl, M for 4 years,she's was a student in a college in Damansara. When I was first introduced to her by my friend who came from the same hometown as her, at that time, I have no feelings and basically just treated as a hi-bye friend as she was already in a relationship and the bf was someone from her hometown.
She was usually alone on her 1st year in KL, being polite and concerned, my friend usually get her to hang out with us or include her in our gang's weekend outings or chilling sessions. Slowly the ice melt and whole bunch of us gelled well and i got to know more about her.
On her 2nd year, she broke up with the bf (reason nvr disclosed to us and we didn't wanna pry) and somehow I became her "rebound guy", she will always call me, ask me accompany her for meals and what-nots. We also have long phone conversations daily and etc (i guess stuffs that normal couples do) but nothing physical. Slowly I was attracted to her and thought to formally ask her to be my gf. When i finally had the courage to pop the question (not easy,I am apparently in the Stone Age in this love matters
), apparently I was 1 step late or whatsoever for her reply was she met a guy and she was about to break the news to our group of friends. I accept it as it is and contented to just being a friend again.
While she was with the 2nd bf, I noticed that she had changed, gaining self-esteem to take part in modelling shoots (she is one helluva of a beautiful lady),being more proactive in her college group,clubbing frequently and did not hang out with us that often anymore. She will only calls me whenever she is unhappy or need help or lonely.
She broke up with the bf after 7 months,I don't really know the details but i knew that the bf lose interest and slowly the relationship died off.I admit I was elated to hear that and I was looking forward spending time with her.Things was the same like the last time,we spend time with each other,I was there to help out everything and anything (her college assignments & thesis),fetching her around (her photo shoots,classes,her outings) and help her financially (Not often). I started buying her gifts for her birthday or special occasion like Christmas, Valentines etc or whenever I'm back from overseas traveling (it costs a lot). I display and gave hints i have feelings for her but she never did rejected nor openly reciprocate my advances.
Last year Valentine was the time I confess to her and her reply was she prefer the way things are and was not interested for a relationship but i have seen some of her sms reply to a male friend that were pretty mushy and lovey dovey.I, unfortunately, did not take the news well and I distanced myself from her for quite some time needing it to cool myself down. We usually just communicate by calls or sms but I always politely decline her request for drinks or hanging out. I still did shower her with gifts (couriered to her,not self-deliver). Early Oct last year, we started hanging out again and pretty much it all came back to the same pattern but I knew that she secretly seeing another guy (coincidentally bumped into her several time with the guy when she claims she was sick or busy). When I casually asked, she kept denying and said nothing is happening and I decided to take her word for it.
The last 3 months was pretty much a whirlwind for me,I spent a lot of my time with and money pampering her and I asked her the same question again on January. Needless to say, I got the same reply and I decided to just concentrate in my career and I stop contacting nor taking her calls. 2 weeks ago, she got a job at my friend's company (I introduced her to my friends company on December, apparently my friend decided to hire her on Feb), my friend had den told me that M told him that she have a bf and was in relationship for the last 2 years.
Can you imagine how disappointed I am that I got to know this from a friend who is not even a close buddy?and to be fooled and deceived for 4 years?the time i spent?the money i spent?the effort?my friends calls u a gold digger, a b*tch. I can't and don't want to believe that what they say were true.
I prefer to think that I am naive and u were not using me.
Added response @ 23.02.2012,11.56pm:- I think i owe it to answer some of your questions,some of the gifts are willingly given and some were requested.I don't keep tab on the items bought but I do remember some major stuffs like a Miu Miu bag,Iphones(yes,s is for plural) and a Oscar de la Renta evening dress(boy,the most traumatizing shopping experience in NY).
And to be honest,I am no rich kid,am not endowed with good looks,i weight tonnes in kg and apparently my IQ is lower than a police dog.
Let go and put down everything. You deserve a better girl... ^.^She was usually alone on her 1st year in KL, being polite and concerned, my friend usually get her to hang out with us or include her in our gang's weekend outings or chilling sessions. Slowly the ice melt and whole bunch of us gelled well and i got to know more about her.
On her 2nd year, she broke up with the bf (reason nvr disclosed to us and we didn't wanna pry) and somehow I became her "rebound guy", she will always call me, ask me accompany her for meals and what-nots. We also have long phone conversations daily and etc (i guess stuffs that normal couples do) but nothing physical. Slowly I was attracted to her and thought to formally ask her to be my gf. When i finally had the courage to pop the question (not easy,I am apparently in the Stone Age in this love matters
), apparently I was 1 step late or whatsoever for her reply was she met a guy and she was about to break the news to our group of friends. I accept it as it is and contented to just being a friend again.While she was with the 2nd bf, I noticed that she had changed, gaining self-esteem to take part in modelling shoots (she is one helluva of a beautiful lady),being more proactive in her college group,clubbing frequently and did not hang out with us that often anymore. She will only calls me whenever she is unhappy or need help or lonely.
She broke up with the bf after 7 months,I don't really know the details but i knew that the bf lose interest and slowly the relationship died off.I admit I was elated to hear that and I was looking forward spending time with her.Things was the same like the last time,we spend time with each other,I was there to help out everything and anything (her college assignments & thesis),fetching her around (her photo shoots,classes,her outings) and help her financially (Not often). I started buying her gifts for her birthday or special occasion like Christmas, Valentines etc or whenever I'm back from overseas traveling (it costs a lot). I display and gave hints i have feelings for her but she never did rejected nor openly reciprocate my advances.
Last year Valentine was the time I confess to her and her reply was she prefer the way things are and was not interested for a relationship but i have seen some of her sms reply to a male friend that were pretty mushy and lovey dovey.I, unfortunately, did not take the news well and I distanced myself from her for quite some time needing it to cool myself down. We usually just communicate by calls or sms but I always politely decline her request for drinks or hanging out. I still did shower her with gifts (couriered to her,not self-deliver). Early Oct last year, we started hanging out again and pretty much it all came back to the same pattern but I knew that she secretly seeing another guy (coincidentally bumped into her several time with the guy when she claims she was sick or busy). When I casually asked, she kept denying and said nothing is happening and I decided to take her word for it.
The last 3 months was pretty much a whirlwind for me,I spent a lot of my time with and money pampering her and I asked her the same question again on January. Needless to say, I got the same reply and I decided to just concentrate in my career and I stop contacting nor taking her calls. 2 weeks ago, she got a job at my friend's company (I introduced her to my friends company on December, apparently my friend decided to hire her on Feb), my friend had den told me that M told him that she have a bf and was in relationship for the last 2 years.
Can you imagine how disappointed I am that I got to know this from a friend who is not even a close buddy?and to be fooled and deceived for 4 years?the time i spent?the money i spent?the effort?my friends calls u a gold digger, a b*tch. I can't and don't want to believe that what they say were true.
I prefer to think that I am naive and u were not using me.
Added response @ 23.02.2012,11.56pm:- I think i owe it to answer some of your questions,some of the gifts are willingly given and some were requested.I don't keep tab on the items bought but I do remember some major stuffs like a Miu Miu bag,Iphones(yes,s is for plural) and a Oscar de la Renta evening dress(boy,the most traumatizing shopping experience in NY).
And to be honest,I am no rich kid,am not endowed with good looks,i weight tonnes in kg and apparently my IQ is lower than a police dog.
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