well, this would not happen if both of u can spend more time with the kids rather than letting the maid to fill in your roll as parents.
but what done is done.

now, maybe you can send the kids to your own parents hse or u might want to think of taking a less working hour job to accompany your kids and let them grow in a healthy environment.

i see kids hit their granparents in public.. and when the parents scold them, they ran to the maid for protection... these are not the scene u wish to see....

hhmmm...
we lose some to gain some...
or u wish to gain some and lose some...

it is still your choice in the end...
but for me, my kids will be my life.....
i rather to be humble in spending....
and spend more time with them, rather bringing them to oversea for holiday or buy branded items...