http://www.mmail.com.my/content/71659-bull...member%E2%80%99

School bullying is nothing new. However everyone agree is not something not pleasant and certainly something that no parents wish to happen to their kids.

If you watch some American movies, they show school bullies as being quite extreme cases. However, I am not sure if such a thing actually happen in US. Even if it is real, that is US. We here in Malaysia is Asian country. Asians do not tolerate bullies as much as western people. They believe kids getting bullied will learn to grow up. I wonder why there are so many serial killers there and the Columbine massacre if anyone remember.

What can we as parents do? Some of these bullies are actually very smart students.

Why am I concerned? Because my son is one of the bully victim. He is just Standard One and is getting bullied by his female classmate. The classmate is even the class monitor. It is minor bullying where she tend to hide his pencil case. End up we thought he always forget to bring back his pencil case. Later only we found out it is because this girl always hide his pencil case. Problem is, my son suffer from Asperger's Syndrome. It is some sort of high functioning autism where he has problem socializing with people. Kids will see him as the odd one out and think he is weird and will bully him. He will not be able to fight back because his parents (me and wife) are not violent people. We are not those parents who like still living in the cave and shouting like mad. This is not serious thing. But as time progress, I am afraid it will eventually turned out to be like something in the article above.

Even teachers are ignorant to these kind of things. After enrolling my kids in school, I realize the public school teachers nowadays are REALLY lousy. I knew it wasn't good but I didn't expect them to be a bunch of useless people who only became teacher probably cause they can't get other jobs. I am not saying all are like that but good ones are only a handful. Like finding needle in a haystack.

Partially, I blame the parents for their bad upbringing of their kids.

So if you have a child, please teach them to respect others and not subject to bullying.

UPDATE:
http://www.mmail.com.my/content/71795-girl...s-yet-say-sorry

This post has been edited by abubin: May 10 2011, 01:04 PM

you mean PIBG? They are pretty useless and got no power over the school. Except when the school need donation.

I agree most of the blame is on the parents of the bully. I have seen some bad role models whereby these aunties act like inconsiderate b****es. Drive like a bull. They should realize they are indirectly telling their kids, it's okay to behave like hooligans.

As for teacher's role, I guess they should try to teach these kids better not only in terms of academic but also morale and as a decent human being. At least the teachers could have identified the rotten eggs and stopped them from harassing other students. Instead, they just let it be and think their only job there is academic teaching.

Please don't blame the person being bullied for not telling their parents. It's not easy for them to voice it out. Most of these kids are embarrassed of what happened and some of them even blame themselves. Most have problems expressing themselves due to problems such as asperger's syndrome. That is the reason why such kids are easily picked upon cause the bullies can get away with it.