Many girl as well as guys in late 20's is also single nowadays. Mostly break up d and not looking for anyone currently or near future. Depends on fate whether they're gonna meet with anyone more right or Ngam with them or not.

People in their late 20's, early 30's, who've experienced break up b4 will have certain standard/requirements. Some just dun wanna get together for the sake of getting together or having a partner. They're just not desperate. N also dun wanna be together again with someone with about the same characteristics as their ex. Dun want repeat the past mistake anymore.

As long as being comfortable/happy, being single/married/dating/divorcee is acceptable, is okie. Better than being in an unhappy relationship.

I think an important mentality to be changed among some people is, just because a girl is still single in their 30's or late 30's, automatically some people will say 'Sure the girl have some character/attitude problem'. I just think it's really unfair for the girl. But if the guy is single and above 35 yrs old also, others dun find it a big issue compared to a woman.

I'm replying to Drian's question on there's this mentality that guys have to pay for everything, which I think can't be apply on nowadays d.

In today's world, where cari makan is not easy for an average income earner, i dun think this mentality is entirely true. How much an average worker earn a mth? The guy certainly dun pay for everything and the gf certainly have a job, where they share expenses together. If u saying about our father or grandfather era, yes, mostly man pays for everything coz the woman will be the hsewife and stays at home care for the family.

But now, most ppl guy or girl will have their own job, n this mentality doesn't really apply anymore. Many of my girl frens share to buy hse with their husbands, share for renovation. How can a man afford to buy a hse by himself w/out sharing wth his wife unless he himself is a millionaire/businessman or earn a lot in a mth. If the guy fork out the monthly installment 4 the hse, then the wife maybe have to take care of other expenses.

My brother's salary less than rm3K, he and his wife can't afford own home after married, then he n his wife stay at my father's side hse lorr till both of them can afford share a hse together. I think it really depends on what type of girl a guy meet, very important. I've seen cases where the guy is rich, then he willing to pay everything for the girl, no problem.

I've seen cases where the guy not that rich, he keeps paying for the girl but dun get the girl, then the guy complain. I think the guy shouldn't keep using $ to atrract a girl in the 1st place, this may attract the wrong type of girl for himself.

This post has been edited by 4everlove: Mar 16 2011, 02:41 PM

Can't rely on anyone financially/emotionally 100%. Better to be comfortable/happy with ourself 1st, if love comes, good, we can share love together. If no fate yet, then we still can be happy and contented on our own.

Being too dependent on others, can really wreck a person if the other half decides to break up with us.

Really not easy to find a nice loyal guy. Some of the guys just have many bad habits/vices (gamblers/smokers/frequent clubbing/one leg 2 boat type/ finding hookers). Guess girls also insecure and lost confidence in love d. Rather be single than being in a relationship 4 the sake of being in 1.

As long as people with too much bad habits/vices, it's a real turn off. Their lifestyle is such that they dun even take care of themself, how they want girls to be attracted to them? Guys who frequent prostitutes/heavy drinkers/gamblers, but themself want nice decent girls, I think it's better to reflect on themself 1st, improve on themself 1st b4 they want any good or decent girls.

When fate arrive, even if u not ready, maybe wanna give it a try also. So, maybe just be happy ourself 1st, and wait for fate.