Envy is one of the most forbidden sin in mainstream religions. People don't like to talk about it, and don't like to admit it, in order to save face.

Yet, suppression only leads to more confusion and anger, not to mention that one will evoke more negative emotions and even actions accordingly. It is definitely an unhealthy lifestyle.

Even the best of friends can become frenemies because of it. So, let's think about it for a moment, what causes envy and how do we resolve it?

IMO envy comes from the idea that we own things (and people) and hence everything must go according to our "rule" or "idea". This is a violation against personal liberty, even against science (because the world doesn't go by our "rule" or "idea").

For those who are feeling envy, the easiest (or the most difficult) way to lift that feeling (especially regarding relationship) is by acknowledging that everyone has their own free will and it is not our natural authority to command or determine other people's life. We can influence but we cannot force. To force is to ask for resistance and hence escalating the feeling of dissatisfaction.

The Christian God Himself displays overbearing jealousy, which itself is a manifestation of envy.

envy.....
occurs when others have something, someone or some quality which you wanted but lack it.

to resolve...
go get it or rationalise it by making excuse for not getting it, or you don't need it.


anyway, envy is not all bad....make use of it.

A very good method.

Thing got bad & good. depend on how u use it..how u feel it.

envy can cos ppl destro...
envy also can cos ppl advance...

simple & easy...is all up to u...

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This post has been edited by peace230: Jan 31 2011, 10:42 AM

Thats a one sided yet very negative mindset and mainly for negative thinker
If u look deeper, u could find ppl who become better using the power of envy

envy could get u moving forward, its good

Agreed on envy could make us go forward in order to achieve something. But it wouldn't be good if it turn into an obsession. Best is to control it with the mind not the heart.

envy is just another emotion. Sometimes we have to control it, sometimes we have to let it out. There is nothing "sinful" about it. There are a lot of religions that condemn it, but it's just another part of being a human being.

envy on the good things to improve ourselves..
like envy friends get good result,n try to bet it..

keep yourself low profile

Envy is also an emotion or feeling of insecurity of being inadequate, usually used in a comparision between the person having the feeling with the person that was envied.

So if you are not proud of yourself, you will envy other people. If you do not believe in yourself, you will envy others.

Insecurity.

Envy is something that other people have but you are lack of it. The best solution is talk to someone.

Envy breeds motivation and thats drive us towards more achievement and accomplishment. But always, always step one step back behind, look at the whole picture before keeping charging forward. You dont wanna turn into having compulsive obsession disorder.