RM3,500 is for day + night or day only? If day only is super expensive leh....Market price is around RM2,000-RM2,400. Don't spoil the market leh...

Dear all expecting parents,

I would like to share my experience of my confinement lady with you. We engaged her because of the good comments from this site. Her name is Aunty Michelle. BEWARE!!! She is not even half as good as what she was described to be.

First of all, she is very "money face". Her current fee is RM4000 for 28 days, excluding angpow which is RM300 (she actually told us that we can give her more if we want). What upsets me is that, less than an hour after arriving at my house, she asked my hubby to bank in the full amount for her! Of course we declined because payments are usually due only AFTER job is done! 

Secondly, we feel that she is not that experienced in confinement care - both caring for mother and baby. She can be quite lazy and not very creative when it comes to food. I only got my 5 meals on her first day here. After that, my breakfast, tea & supper are the same everyday - Milo with biscuits or bread or whatever she can find ready made in my house (as long as no cooking is required). Plus, she won't prepare them for me unless I asked. After the first week, instead of she preparing breakfast for me, my hubby had to tapau breakfast for me AND her every morning!

In one week I can be eating the same dishes 3 times. Instead of giving me 2 meal options to choose from a day before, she will ask what I want to eat. But when I asked her what dishes she knows how to cook, she tells me that actually she is not a very good cook.   Therefore, my husband had to cook whenever he is not working while she sits and watch TV.

Also, she likes to prepare food way ahead of time (to make things easier for her) like the red date tea. She keeps it in the fridge (only heat up in microwave when I want to drink) so she doesn't have to boil it daily (which she was supposed to). When my mom saw this she was furious as it will give me even more "wind" when it is kept in the fridge. When questioned, she had the nerve to put the blame on me. She told my mom I was the one who told her to boil more and keep in fridge!

In the first week, she used to sleep till 10am. Only when my mom came over and stayed for a few days, she wakes up earlier. Even though she sleeps in the same room as me, during midnight feedings, I will be the one to feed my baby and burp and put him to bed. She will only help in changing the diaper then she will go back to sleep. If baby doesn't want to sleep or cry, she will pretend not to hear, roll over and sleep facing the other direction like the photo attached. And worst thing is, she snores - so loud sometimes I find it difficult to sleep.

When it comes to taking care of baby, she is very "chin chai" & not hygienic. I've found stains of poo on my baby's face, clothes & changing mat. She also doesn't wash her hands after changing the diaper and sometimes she will wipe baby's eyes and mouth using her bare hands! Also, when applying powder, she doesn't apply to the neck folds, behind ears, armpits etc. This is very important as rashes tends to form in these areas!

It was so stressful and tiring for me as I had to do most of the job myself during my confinement. And worst thing about this aunty is that she is very good in pretending and cut corners. It is really hard to find a good and honest confinement lady nowadays. That is why I am writing this long comment so that other parents don't get cheated by these types of inexperienced CL. That said, I am blessed to have such a supportive hubby and seeing my baby smile everyday made it all worth it!

Best of luck to everyone in finding a good CL! Happy parenting!

Dear all expecting parents,

I would like to share my experience of my confinement lady with you. We engaged her because of the good comments from this site. Her name is Aunty Michelle. BEWARE!!! She is not even half as good as what she was described to be.

First of all, she is very "money face". Her current fee is RM4000 for 28 days, excluding angpow which is RM300 (she actually told us that we can give her more if we want). What upsets me is that, less than an hour after arriving at my house, she asked my hubby to bank in the full amount for her! Of course we declined because payments are usually due only AFTER job is done! 

Secondly, we feel that she is not that experienced in confinement care - both caring for mother and baby. She can be quite lazy and not very creative when it comes to food. I only got my 5 meals on her first day here. After that, my breakfast, tea & supper are the same everyday - Milo with biscuits or bread or whatever she can find ready made in my house (as long as no cooking is required). Plus, she won't prepare them for me unless I asked. After the first week, instead of she preparing breakfast for me, my hubby had to tapau breakfast for me AND her every morning!

In one week I can be eating the same dishes 3 times. Instead of giving me 2 meal options to choose from a day before, she will ask what I want to eat. But when I asked her what dishes she knows how to cook, she tells me that actually she is not a very good cook.   Therefore, my husband had to cook whenever he is not working while she sits and watch TV.

Also, she likes to prepare food way ahead of time (to make things easier for her) like the red date tea. She keeps it in the fridge (only heat up in microwave when I want to drink) so she doesn't have to boil it daily (which she was supposed to). When my mom saw this she was furious as it will give me even more "wind" when it is kept in the fridge. When questioned, she had the nerve to put the blame on me. She told my mom I was the one who told her to boil more and keep in fridge!

In the first week, she used to sleep till 10am. Only when my mom came over and stayed for a few days, she wakes up earlier. Even though she sleeps in the same room as me, during midnight feedings, I will be the one to feed my baby and burp and put him to bed. She will only help in changing the diaper then she will go back to sleep. If baby doesn't want to sleep or cry, she will pretend not to hear, roll over and sleep facing the other direction like the photo attached. And worst thing is, she snores - so loud sometimes I find it difficult to sleep.

When it comes to taking care of baby, she is very "chin chai" & not hygienic. I've found stains of poo on my baby's face, clothes & changing mat. She also doesn't wash her hands after changing the diaper and sometimes she will wipe baby's eyes and mouth using her bare hands! Also, when applying powder, she doesn't apply to the neck folds, behind ears, armpits etc. This is very important as rashes tends to form in these areas!

It was so stressful and tiring for me as I had to do most of the job myself during my confinement. And worst thing about this aunty is that she is very good in pretending and cut corners. It is really hard to find a good and honest confinement lady nowadays. That is why I am writing this long comment so that other parents don't get cheated by these types of inexperienced CL. That said, I am blessed to have such a supportive hubby and seeing my baby smile everyday made it all worth it!

Best of luck to everyone in finding a good CL! Happy parenting!