@merchant9
In 5 minutes. Really. She cried herself to sleep in my arms and couldnt remember anything the day after. This happened during her 2nd month

Regarding your baby, I dont think he's scared by the pillow - he's just having the fourth trimester. Do read this article - http://www.ninemonths.com.au/fourth-trimester/ . It really helped me tremendously in going through the toughest first 3 months.

I dont really think its due to your mom-in-law, as our baby also has this behaviour without anything similar hitting him.

Its not recommended to sleep the nite thru on the tummy, due to risk of asphyxiation (spelling?).

BUT its damned good to prevent baby from getting scared, as most of the limbs become sort of tied down, it mimics the tight constrains of the womb.

So sometimes when our baby gets fussy or wakes too easily, we will flip him over to the tummy. Then when he falls deep asleep we'll turn him over again. Major effort I know.

However if you're confident your baby won't suffocate facing downward its a great method to prevent the scares. What you can do is use a pillow that's a bit bouncy and will not easily fill up the gaps. Using a pacifier also ensures there is gap between the nose and pillow.

Another method to prevent scaring is to swaddle the child in a blanket or cloth diaper. We used this method from 3weeks to 10 weeks while the baby still weak at the arms. If done correctly it almost ensures our baby will be quiet for a few hours. Need to make sure they are not too hot though.

All the best and don't worry too much.

i think what u can do is give yr baby continuous assurance that u are there for him/her.

Once my baby fell on his back while trying to sit, and phobia for 1-2hrs from sitting, but we still encouraged him until he did it again...

Eye contact with a little smile towards the baby every once awhile. Give it a try. Have you tried "real pearl powder" (I'm not sure if my direct translation is correct from Cantonese) but you can get it from a Chinese sensei for about RM10 per packet at the Chinese herbal shop nearby. Apply a little on your finger and dab it around the lips of your child. Give some water to your child to drink after that.

Regards, Joey

One important thing if you're trying tummy sleeping...you need to pujuk the baby to sleep first...you can't expect the baby to turn over and suddenly fall asleep!

try making a small pillow for ur baby n put it on top of ur baby to make him feel safe again

the other way is to sew a small pillow (with small weight) and put it on his chest. these will help her to think, someone is there for there. it did well on my sister's baby and my daughter. so far so good....

Have you seen a doctor/pediatrician to ensure that your son is not suffering from any injuries?

less than a month is normal to wake up n cry and all. Should be colicky.....or just wanna be pampered. Dun think its the pillow at all.

BTw this reminds me, are you feeding him some chinese herbs to buang angin? MY MIL feed my baby dunno wat herbs to buang angin and he cant sleep the whole day n nite crying nearly every hour nonstop. We suspect that is the cause of it because be4 that no problem at all. After we stop giving him that, no more fussiness or crying except when hungry. Try to think if you are feeding anything besides milk to your bb? Or if you are breastfeeding, are you eating anything differently that may have cause this? Foremilk and Hindmilk inbalance will cause baby to be colicky if you are breastfeeding so make sure you are feeding correctly too.

And if u wanna do tummy sleeping, better get a latex mattress and pillow to prevent SIDS. Your newborn cannot turn his head away if he is suffocating.

OH btw.....baby kicking, not sure about yours....mine is a signal he wants to either Poo or Pee even in his sleep, then true enuf when we check his diapers, oredi soiled. Sometimes its also due to dreams he is having (read this somewer, forgot the link)

I am not too sure with your description of the sequence of events. You can judge better if the incident had caused any injuries before taking your son to a doctor. It could be colic as MissFrogy said. Colic is the most common problem for this age. It may have nothing to do with the pillow. It is just a coincidence.

below 1 year old better not take the risk, prone position can be fatal, dun play play yo.

My MIL actually tried to feed my daughter 'Chan Chi Fan' when baby was about 2 days old. I sort of told her off. Not that I dont believe in traditional medicine. But not really something that I want to do. Why? I dont know how clean the stuff is. What about contamination and etc. Breast Milk is the best. If baby is scared, try lying down and place baby on your chest. Comfort and talk to the baby softly. Your heartbeat and warmth will calm the baby down. When carrying the baby up from the tilam, make sure you hug the baby close to you then only rise. Do not lift the baby up just like that. Usually, they get 'shocked'.