sbux, no la... she give in front of me say it's good for baby... u think i rajin do this ar? i just hehehe oooo like that lo... wat can i say? if i say anything then say i stubborn lo etc... bb hasn't started on solids yet... it's the gao li sheng mix wif air beras... that's y got air beras... sigh... too heaty eh... she gives abt 3-4 tablespoons... mil n hb always keep saying me n bb is heaty ppl... then y give bb this mixture le? aiyo... btw i haven't told hb abt this... dunno if mil told him abt it... i dun wanna tell him coz scared later he'll get sandwiched or say i'm disturbing the family harmony, not being a good wife bb din sleep well throughout the nite... keeps waking up n not going back to sleep... usually he wakes up but i can still nurse him to sleep... yesterday kenot...

this is one thing to remember if living wif the inlaws... they'll b the one on the rite side coz we r first time parents ma... sure dunno how to handle a bb... sigh...

really you are such a patient and good DIL
i would hv complained to my hubby and also told my MIL off. I dont care if hubby gets sandwiched, he should stand up for the truth and not just some traditional beliefs. Disturbing family harmony? ask your hubby to stay in your parents house and see how he likes it...

I think yr baby might hv been having digestion problems thats why he could not sleep... no doubt, since u already gave him his first solid feeding indirectly... not sure if your baby's digestion is ready for any kind of complex carbo or not

as for today's air beras feeding, pls tell yr MIL abt the sleepless nights and how harmful it is for your baby's tummy

Your MIL is very lucky to have a DIL like you you and very very lucky we arent' her DIL as I would definitely wage a war!

I think it's about time for you to be firm.  Especially letting your husband know and saying that this is your child..not hers.

phythia, ya... it's painful yet i can't do anything abt it... it's not like falling out of love kind of ez... sometimes when i'm alone i'ld tell bb that is mummy treating u rite? sorry can't protect u... u always get to drink/eat funny stuffs...

qarezma, hb dun go to paed wif me anymore... so i go alone... actually i go to klinik kesihatan the last visit he asked me if i can handle bb alone... i said y not? my tots were funny ler... if i say kenot tomolo u take mc issit... wat u said r rite... i think i'll use ur quote next time... let's c how... coz i always gets accuse of toking back

all i can say is if i stay firm, it'll b either hb or bb... both r my hands... how? chop them off? chop one off? things will b as serious as separation coz when i stay firm i can b very stubborn... sigh... if u feel me gimme a pat on the back... i'm still lucky so far coz bb still bf

qarezma, will try to tok the other way round... i've always wanted to say we r born in diff era, our parents r born in diff era n our bb is born now... 50s there's no computer or washing machine n life is hard... 80s after merdeka, life is getting better, got tv n fridge... now 2011 computer, washing machine, LED TV, fridge, freezer... always ask me y i can't hand wash, cook, do house chores... then u give up all the computer n tv then i'll hand wash n cook properly n not face the computer anymore... but saying this will b drastic eh? hehe... last time we fight i emailed (yes email) him that me n bb will b fine wif or without him... if he wants bb to b like him then ask mil to take k of the bb... if he wants an obedient wife then find another wife... all i want is bb... no matter he's ugly or not he's my boy... he was inside of me for 10 mths... so i think that email got into him... but that din make things better la... i just sort of let him know my stand... if one day i kenot tahan anymore that email will b served as my last reminder bad huh? oh ya next time hope to hear from u that ur bf is a success~!

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Added on March 15, 2011, 5:46 pmso despite my protest mil went ahead wif the mixture... i already compromised saying just give him a bit... "he din sleep well last nite" she said "it's just air beras mixed wif it...  besides it's not the real thing... it's imitation/fake of it... just a bit... air beras is mild one... won't harm the bb... if i could i wouldn't give him drink... it's coz his heart is weak that he sweats cold... this will help him... if u dun do now it'll b too late... i'm not that rajin la..." i felt so helpless that i wish i could cry my heart out but only in silence... of coz i wasn't happy so my face wasn't happy... tonite will tell hb n c wat he says... but man, i soooooooooooooo... dunno wat to say... perhaps u can feel how i feel... no words can describe it... i'm his mum... can't i say no? u guys can say no n stop me but y couldn't i?

qarezma, mayb me n hb already biasa wif arguing n c who wins... that's y he say like that... sigh...

syd, at first i tot no harm la living his parents... then my mum warned me abt living wif inlaws... i tot nah... but then it's a diff story... last time i told my hb, ask our son to get a house before married... if live together better state the rules n wat i will n won't do clear cut from beginning rather than suffering at the end...

but i guess wat my fren say might b logically... i just married into the family n before we all comfortable or understood wif each other *bam* i got preggy... therefore becoming conflict after bb born... dunno how much of it is true but i'm kinda starting to eat it... coz it happened to her own sis

qarezma, my mum was saying how can two tigers live in one mountain? ya... nothing is like a woman's wrath...

phythia, cross finger lo...

Heheh..no no...not expecting.  I don't think I'm gonna try for another one.  Everything is getting expensive and I want to provide the best for my child..so if i get another child, I doubt i can provide the best....unless it's fated lar

On the other hand...i do wish i can get a girl..but looking at my husband's genes...the chances for a girl is pretty low.  I scared if i get another boy..i die..and my mom already warned me..if i get another one..i have to quit (hence the providing best reason).

(I once dreamed that I have 4 boys! 4!! gosh! hahahah)

I also worried..if i get outsiders..scared will ill-treat my child..too many horror stories lately.  If i get maid..no privacy..coz living in apartment..wanna walk in my panties also susah

hahaha..yeah..not to mention..if we wanna get adventurous.. kekeke.  if got maid..really really susah.. LOL

YES YES!!   

OK to be frank I didnt buy anything for her yet. Am thinking avocado

nicKit..even though baby is on solid, they still rely on milk for most of the nutrients.  Coz their solid intake is lesser than...say a 1 yr old toddler.  Hence, milk is still their main meal. 

Now..i pump once a day..just about 4-5oz.  My son is slowly taking FM but I try to give him other source of calcium like yoghurt and oats.  Fresh milk..he used to like it but after 2-3 months..he rejected it.  I used to give him Dutch Lady Fresh Milk.  I know some moms gave the Australian Farmhouse...never tried that.

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Added on March 23, 2011, 9:43 amIn case you were wondering, before 6 months, i'd usually pump 4 times a day (once before I go to work and 3 times at work) on the dot.  After 6 months, i cut down the pumping session about 3 times (1 time at home and twice at work).  After 1 year, I cut down to once a day (I would normally bf before i go to work, and pump 1 time after lunch).  Now, still at once a day but at a later time after work (coz breast is slightly full).

phythia, will u still feel ur breast full during the early morning? if u pump after work still got milk for his before sleep n nite feeding?

sbux, it feels such a let down huh? i know how u feel... been there when me n hb first argue abt the bf n pumping part... well, do wat u feel rite... me... i've been standing by wat i've think it's rite for so long n will continue to do so coz i really dun like the idea of funny funny things going inside baby's stomach... it's a lonely journey but hey we do wat's best for baby... in case u can't bf dun blame urself... u did wat u could...

wat else i could give other than oats, cheese n milk after 6 mths in case i had to stop bf?

qarezma, i tot oats should wait till at least 1yo?

phythia, i was wondering la... now we've temporarily moved out... i can bf whenever n wherever i want... without interference but when we move back i scared i could no longer bf

phythia, yaya abt 1-2 mths only... that's when i just started the solid food... i scared when move back then more funny funny food for bb... coz how do u tell ur in laws that u wanna prepare ur own baby's food?

...uh I'm not quite sure what you ladies(?) mean by fresh milk, or your babies' ages, but just as a reminder to all, parents are not supposed to give fresh milk to babies under a year old... if it's processed cow/dairy milk, then it's okay e.g. cheese, yoghurt but definitely not plain dairy milk... forgot the reason though.

again, sorry if I missed the details, just a reminder to all of us 

qarezma, y boil the milk ar? i tot it's hard to clean the dish afterward... sorry noob in cooking... stay away permanent? kenot la... it's my parents' house, not ours... no reason to stay permanent here... my MIL is fast one >.< hope n pray i dun offend them again... sigh... later they must have think this DIL very ma fan~!

phythia, rite on abt the porridge~! last time mil mentioned abt it... i just dengar saja lo... but really i oso dunno wat to prepare for him... potato? sweet potato? carrot? apple? but one thing for sure that i could imagine... must give baby eat full... no need to bf liao... he's big liao... u can keep ur milk... y u need to cook separately? baby can eat wat we eat liao... something like that...but i still hope that this situation won't happen... cross my fingers, toes, arms, legs n eyes that my solid food journey won't b as rough as bf journey...

btw should i get an electric warmer for the food? baby cubes for storing? 1oz or 2oz? wat else i need to prepare?