I think some are too harsh on TS. Who are we to say they're not ready to have a kid? I mean, the very act of asking our opinions, finding out what's best for their baby is saying to me, at least, that they are serious about the care of their baby.

Oh ya, TS, another option, if you want and can afford to take a maid, get your mom to stay with you for the first few months. Your mom can train the maid and basically monitor the progress etc. And the option of leaving the baby with relatives brought up by some others is also a good one.

We are working professionals, not millionaires.
No, I don't hate you so don't worry about it. I leave emotions on the rack when I'm on internet forums

None taken.


I feel that the thread is getting out of topic and need to step in.
The purpose of this thread was to gauge different experiences with different types of babysitters. I have friends, colleagues and even relatives using different types of babysitters. I know of a few who hired maids, I have colleagues who leave the baby with the sitter for a week and I also have friends who bring their baby home every night. I have yet to hear any negatives from all of them, they're getting along fine with their babies.

They've shared their experiences with me, and I was hoping so see more shared here for parents to make an informed decision. I don't want this to turn into a 'Please judge me' thread. Thanks.

Well usually parents dont talk about the negatives so that other parents wont look down on them

I personally will go to the daily babysitter route, bring home every night (or maybe not even drop baby to be babysat if I'm around )

I was hoping the anonymity on the internet might help some reconsider and drop me a few gems.

I'm curious. Where can people get a maid since they've frozen intake of maids from Indonesia?

My parents are both working, my parents in law arent keen on taking care of the baby I dont know how to get a maid, so I'm left with either a babysitter solution or a nursery.

I have a couple of relatives getting maids from the Phillipines instead of Indonesia. No language barrier and according to them, better overall. Of course, they are more expensive and need to have a day off. Which is fine of course, getting locked up in a house 24/7 can't be good for mental health. Mine anyways.

They have a minimum pay of RM1200 a month right?

I dont think highly of maid as babysitters. In their forms or biodata they would have written "urus baby". That is so that they have better chances with potential employers. Actually they know next to nothing about urus baby. It always ended up you have to teach them. It would be harder if it was your first child as you are also learning.

Will need to get back to you on that as the closest I got on what they were paying was the vague 'Around 1k'.

weekend parents or i call it part time parents, and you wonder y ur kid doesnt like you or talk to you or bond with u. main reason, no relationship.

take ur kid home after work, everyday. it's really worth it when u r the FIRST person sees ur baby take FIRST step or sit up for the FIRST time or FIRST person to hear baby say PAPA or MAMA... those moments are PRICELESS - ur 24mths bonus wont get you those things & worst of all these moments only happen ONCE in u & ur baby's lifetime

imagine hear ur baby calls AUNTY xxx (baby sitter name) instead of calling MAMA or PAPA... so sad...

I had your problems too... end up we chose to send to bb sitter for day time only. Today is only the 2nd day we send her there.. already miss her much!!