seriously nid 2 ask gf read it..haha
anyway,any1 can understand their opposite sex if they wud juz think out of d box n try putting urself in their shoes
advice 4 d guys..
sumtimes in d relationship when she gets u mad n when u feel u dislike her so much,
control urself control wat u planned to shoot at her when u r mad,juz tink 4 a moment,how much u love her
how much she means to u b4 n not when u r mad,coz when u r mad u tend to say hurtful words without tinking
juz pause,n b sweet when u shud b furious..

e.g from my experience
she suggested A while i suggested B
while in fact B is d best way
i was mad coz by doing A is more troublesome
i juz did wat she insisted
after doing A only she realizes she was wrong by asking me to do A
she felt she was so studpid tat time
i was so mad at her n wanted to say hurtful words..
instead i tot of how much she really means to me
and i erased my typed reply,n retype "its ok baby,i noe u were anxious and therefore made a prompt decsion without thinking,
i nvr blamed u=)"

although i so wanted to vent my anger by sending my planned msg,i felt so good retyping it to a sweet n understanding.
she was so happy although feeling guilt,but i guess her happiness is my hapiness as well.

when she realized she was wrong,she said "sorry,i didnt tot of tat,y r u not angry wid me,u have d right to be mad at me"
she was confused by my sweet msg instead of fury..but i knew tat she was glad i 4gave her
n after tat she keep saying sorry n i keep saying i nvr blame her(although i almost did,but tis technique is sumkind of anger management) haha
i tink if evry man use d power of love to cool anger,there wud b more happy cpls n less break ups=no heartbreak,no hurt

Your such a sweetheart 

Sure worth a read if at least to see that he promotes the sex-role theory and a patriarchal society.

The New Male Female Relationship by Herb Goldberg makes much more sense but then again, that's just me.

yes you're so rite~ I had read 
tat book is a good book~

pein, i believe you had a collection of those books as well...XD

you know, i think that your gf should be really proud and happy to have you as her bf, and yes,

i really wanted to be someone who can probably love the girl i like as who she is and understand her more as time pass

oh well, i believe the key role in a relationship is always communication, doing it the correct way, obviously builds the strength in it, but doing it in the wrong way destroys it

as what john gray stated out, men are from mars and women from venus, we started out our communication differently and hence when everything was right, we were loving and so on...and when something went wrong, we revert to our old ways on how we deal our problems and that is when miscommunication happens, right?

well, to be honest, i think i read and was told by my lectures on those ways of communication as well, but i seem to have forgotten it as time pass, and now get a grasp of my own medicine by being a martian, i guess...lol

to be honest, when you asked me to stop communicating with her, i really didn't believe you much...i was thinking that maybe if she just would talk to me about my problems, i could fix it and probably we could get together again...and yes, she told me, i tried to fix it, and she didn't reply me back...i felt like an a** now after reading that book and what i wrote to her...my sense of humor really didn't apply to the situation there, so yea...

i am now hopefully ready to redeem my mistakes and i don't really know is it appropriate by doing so, as i do know that time could probably make her forget, yet an apology makes it easier to heal, don't you think so?

whee, i officially broke up 2 things with her
1st - my "friendship"
2nd - my choice to love her

i have nothing more to say about both of us here...

officially sounds wrong, but yea...it's official as in black and white, get it?
lol

Erm, I thought of buying this book. At least it will help me playing a better mindgame style (I'm not aggresive).

But I wonder if its popular enough to be sold in Popular (penang, seberang prai)?

No... I mean, I don't like aggresive style. I prefer mindgaming. This book should teach me women way of thinking a bit.

Being a "nice" jackass is what women want. It resembles me.

Can I say you are more of a gentleman Pein.

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Added on August 4, 2008, 1:18 amIm in TTDI Jaya S.alam,,,youre a local here ?

hey, pein, didja read also the book called if love is a game, these are the rules?...=)

haha, anyway, she gave ten rules...
and the first one is to love yourself...haha, i tot u get that from her...XD

the last rule...is you forget everything u learnt from that book i think...>.<"

well, most basically is don't neglect your own needs and dump everything to someone else...and in hope that "the someone" would fill up your "holes"...XD

its for single, in-relationship as well as married couple. Its actually a book to improve understanding for both men and women when comes to relationship.