pein, i believe you had a collection of those books as well...XD

you know, i think that your gf should be really proud and happy to have you as her bf, and yes,

i really wanted to be someone who can probably love the girl i like as who she is and understand her more as time pass

oh well, i believe the key role in a relationship is always communication, doing it the correct way, obviously builds the strength in it, but doing it in the wrong way destroys it

as what john gray stated out, men are from mars and women from venus, we started out our communication differently and hence when everything was right, we were loving and so on...and when something went wrong, we revert to our old ways on how we deal our problems and that is when miscommunication happens, right?

well, to be honest, i think i read and was told by my lectures on those ways of communication as well, but i seem to have forgotten it as time pass, and now get a grasp of my own medicine by being a martian, i guess...lol

to be honest, when you asked me to stop communicating with her, i really didn't believe you much...i was thinking that maybe if she just would talk to me about my problems, i could fix it and probably we could get together again...and yes, she told me, i tried to fix it, and she didn't reply me back...i felt like an a** now after reading that book and what i wrote to her...my sense of humor really didn't apply to the situation there, so yea...

i am now hopefully ready to redeem my mistakes and i don't really know is it appropriate by doing so, as i do know that time could probably make her forget, yet an apology makes it easier to heal, don't you think so?

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 21 2008, 09:01 AM

whee, i officially broke up 2 things with her
1st - my "friendship"
2nd - my choice to love her

i have nothing more to say about both of us here...

officially sounds wrong, but yea...it's official as in black and white, get it?
lol

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 22 2008, 08:19 AM

yea, i had that negativity in myself from that time...i was under huge emotional depression...sometimes, it is so difficult to control it, and we know that it was wrong to be drove by emotions...sorry that i disappointed you pein

seems like i just need to cool myself before starting to say anything, eh?XD

i hoped you read what i wrote to you in your pm already

mph books selections are wider than popular

popular might have it, but i doubt that this is the book that you want if you want to learn to be aggressive

this book teaches you how relationship works, and how to be a great partner in support to your other half, understanding them and how things work

if aggressive here means that you want to pick up girls, then get a PUA book, like the game or mystery methods

if you wanna be aggressive as in fighting, get a kick boxing book...just don't use those techniques on the girl...>.<"

i agree too...this book teaches you to be a sensitive guy, which girls wants in a relationship, not while "chasing" them...

3 things for being an aggressive PUA and some examples

neg - give less attention and if "target" interrupts, fire her politely (e.g. excuse me, but could you let me finish first?)

cocky funny - man, you are weird for being able to do that, however, it's awesome...=)...or, hmm, you've some taste in choosing your dressing...let her wonder, ambiguity...something like that (you don't want to humiliate your target, but just to make her laugh)

push and pull - you know, you're cute...(pause)...that makes you fourth on my cute list...if she bites, trying to qualify herself, ok, i'll give you 3rd place for arguing...

however, i really like the book mars and venus in a relationship...=)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 31 2008, 11:32 AM

thanks, i think...

well, to be honest, previously i was slightly like that, i just don't know the terms that they used...and also didn't know much about push and pull, i know i pushed...probably i forget to pull back my words...haha...even if i did, i did a minor pull, not like the one i wrote above...

however, lets just say that she fights for first place...then obviously, you can ask more (be creative here, i don't wanna let out so much)...and if she gets the first place, you can be cocky funny...probably like so now, you are on my first place...you could be my doll...i always wanted a doll as cute as you...=p

typing these are much easier than performing them out though...and yes, initiate kino as well whenever appropriate

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 31 2008, 06:31 PM

hey, pein, didja read also the book called if love is a game, these are the rules?...=)

i forgot...>.<"

lol...

but anyway, i googled it: Cherie Carter-Scott

haha, anyway, she gave ten rules...
and the first one is to love yourself...haha, i tot u get that from her...XD

the last rule...is you forget everything u learnt from that book i think...>.<"

well, most basically is don't neglect your own needs and dump everything to someone else...and in hope that "the someone" would fill up your "holes"...XD

hmm...ok, thx...=)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Oct 7 2008, 10:32 PM

if anyone of you know about albert ellis (the founder of rational emotional behavior theraphy, yes, a psychologist) says that:

men are from mars, women are from venus in his view are seen as almost sheer BS~...

he claimed that the book is written by some therapists who have no good evidence behind their allegations...

ouch to john gray...lol