come i help u to challenge him 1 on 1 me, after he lose d must gold pan wash hand and quit dota forever... haha then u two happy d

Actually i can understand his situation also la... Dota is really fun and addicting...  Dota clarifies, cuts through and captures the essence of the adventurous spirit.

Moments like these are only found when there's a close and tight battle between winning and losing. It SURELY gives a very good and memorable feeling when 5 bunch of guys(usually with friends) achieve this together by winning. It's very rare, so if you EVER interrupt them middle of the game to achieve it, they wont give a F about you.

You should see more of his good side and encourage him instead of scold him and perceive this as a barrier in your relationship. I suggest you try to talk to him more of his games(after game or eating meals) like how it goes and what heroes he use or how other teammate plays and i promise you he'll SHARE all kind of stories (you dont need to understand completely, just listen and ask more question) and open his heart more. When he's more open to talk in a good mood, enter into more serious issue with questioning type question. For example, "Wah, you always win your game why not you become pro gamer as job and take care me?" Obviously he knows dota is just a game and it wont last forever and viable to make money, atleast you will make him think bout you and the future more. Never talk to him in a command or statement type conversion. He will be very defensive for his guy ego. Just persistence then one day he'll "wake up" and play less dota and be more realistic to the real world

If you play with him sometimes, he'll appreciate you but of course sometimes if you feed too hard, he'll get frustrated since it's much harder to win the game. If this happen, challenge him back by saying, "I increase the difficulty for you guys ma since u all always win, or is it you not good enough?" then he wont so upset bout you feeding and concentrating to win the game or improve his skills.

And yes, it's my personal experience with my girl and we solved the issue and i'm able to balance work life now.