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TSjoyceanne
post Sep 30 2010, 02:16 AM, updated 16y ago

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Well. I will just make it short.
Me and my bf been together for like 2 years.
He is very into Dota. When we were back in Malaysia, when his mom and dad are at home, he didnt play that much.
And even if he play, im beside him watching or sleeping.
sometimes, i slept on his gaming sofa n he will carry me to room once he done playing.
To see him, to spend time with him, I learnt to play.
sometimes when i died or feed the game, then he is very unhappy.
most of our arguments came from his games.
His temper is not that good, that's the problem.

We came Perth. and now, its getting worse.
He woke up around 4pm, then eat then go campus play dota til 430am.
Sometimes i follow him. but sometimes if there are classes next day 8am then I will stay at home.
But i feel so boring staying at home.
and I dont like waiting the door to be opened.
I cried almost everyday.
I talked to him.
I tried to make him happy.
Things are still the same.

I even told him "if you continue to behave like that, Im sorry. Im not the girl suitable for you."
He continues playing.

I couldnt stand it anymore.
what else can I do? sad.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:09 AM

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QUOTE(singdreams @ Sep 30 2010, 03:01 AM)
I thought those who are going overseas are smarter?
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where got. this is wrong concept.


Added on September 30, 2010, 3:11 am
QUOTE(auto774948 @ Sep 30 2010, 02:59 AM)
so you should pawn him back by choosing love and leave him.
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but its a 2 years relationship. Its hard to let go and forget.

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post Sep 30 2010, 03:29 AM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 03:19 AM)
I want to ask, how did he celebrate with you in important happenings such as birthday and Valentines day?
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He forgotten our anniversary.
Valentines day? ermm.. we had dinner then back home dota.


Added on September 30, 2010, 3:29 am
QUOTE(Klemann C @ Sep 30 2010, 03:13 AM)
is ur bf started addicted dota since way back in high school life?
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Yupe. very very addicted.

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post Sep 30 2010, 03:32 AM

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QUOTE(coolie @ Sep 30 2010, 03:20 AM)
I doubt anyone can help you if you're reluctant to bring him back to reality. Games are really addictive and once he's stuck, he's really stuck ( just like me ) tongue.gif. Nonetheless, if you aren't taking any action, what we can do is just to comfort you. Think about it. You must talk to him and let him know games and gf are two different thing. He must have balance or lose one.

Two years relationship and he can start to treasure his games more than you? Does it look like 2 years relationship worth less than a game which will get outdated in a few years to come?
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We actually broke up many times. then he came n get me back.
Last semester, when i really didnt want to get back to him, he flew to perth and get me back.
I was touched then get back to him.
But things didnt change.
It get worse.
I treasure this relationship a lot.
you are addicted as well?
Then what do you choose?


Added on September 30, 2010, 3:35 am
QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 03:31 AM)
Doesn't seem to be healthy.

Dinner, then DOTA...makes things that happened beforehand looks insignificant compared to DOTA.

You must really talk to him about this.
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I did.
talked nicely, talked with tears, sms, talked on the pillow.
everything i tried.
He told me he loves me and I have to tolerate his hobby if I love him too.
But its really suffering.
If i dont play with him, im like no bf.
If i dont watch him play, whole night i wait at home.
If i dont let him play, he said that i dont love him.
If i follow him play, Im like wasting my parents money here in Perth studying.

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post Sep 30 2010, 03:41 AM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 03:36 AM)
You seem to have BF more in terms of "name" than function.  hmm.gif
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the term 'bf' is better not?
If i post his name later he lost his dignity.
I have to respect his face?
keke.


Added on September 30, 2010, 3:43 am
QUOTE(Klemann C @ Sep 30 2010, 03:36 AM)
well,hardcore dota kaki i must say....old habits die hard.....
try talk wit him....get things work out wit patience...
diversed him wit some other activity....mayb outdoor/indoor...

sry to say ur bf still not that mature yet... doh.gif
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Thank you. =)
I will try.
But whenever i told him to go shopping with me. His face so dark.
Its like we go shopping once a month ony.
He sleep til 4pm. how to go out oh?
Perth everywhere including supermarket close at 5pm.
fuhhhh......

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post Sep 30 2010, 12:42 PM

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QUOTE(demyeme @ Sep 30 2010, 10:26 AM)
1st, from my perception, ur bf is rich kid.. even flew to perth to get u back.. that cost alot of $$ drool.gif  drool.gif
2nd, u were actually touched by his $$.. not i saying u love ur bf because of money, but , let say ur bf is not dat high class, will he be able to fly to perth and get u back? ? i think he wont right . . yawn.gif 

I xperienced many sad n sweet memories from relationship.. u shuld try to move on.. it just 2 years relationship, u r still young.. if u continue to stay with him, hw long are u willing to be patient with ur bf attitude.

girl, thre are alot of men outside their waiting for u.. even they will treasure u more than evrything.. i too, was a dota player.. vry2 addicted still same case like this, but, my gf left me for that reason.. im chnged for that..

i got 1 suggestion for u, u break up with him.. he fly to perth to get u back, just ignore him.. Ignore evyrthing about him.. yeah, i know, this is hard for u, but trust me, it will work!  nod.gif  just for 1 mnth.. if he still wait for u, that mean he is the man for u but if he doesnt, then move on ur life.. he is not the man for u..
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DENG!!!
the ticket i bought de lo.
and he stayed here in my place.
everything i pay.
This one i can say publicly coz ths is a fact and its real.
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:02 PM

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QUOTE(wInnIe PoOh @ Sep 30 2010, 09:39 AM)
I notice something here, so you wanting the attention from him also right? Well, to be honest, if he is addicted to it then let him be la. I don't see a reason why should you learn DotA at the first place. Furthermore, you can't compare like that. You already be with him for 2 years, yet now only complain? If he is such a hardcore player, you'd have already know about it since day 1 then why now only want to make a big fuss about it? So, either you leave it or take it. Either way, it's still you got to fix your own life first.
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Coz back in Malaysia his parents would stop him. But it's getting worse when he came Perth. In Malaysia he only play 6 hours per day. Now 12.
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:16 PM

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QUOTE(shinkawa @ Sep 30 2010, 02:23 PM)
me not dotard, me COD and SC2 tard
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You too good d. Too soft too.
Seriously, you should find better one coz you're a very fine girl. Can easily find new boyfriend.

Your boyfriend gonna keep playing till old.
Can't even pay for house, car and your marriage. You want that?
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Every guys would experience the study stage. He couldn't pay the expenses becoz he is not from a rich background. His parents can only pay his fees. So I pay lo. But I hope he can wake up from his game and realize his parents ane me work hard to give him a better future. That's why I need help to seek for solution.
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:46 PM

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QUOTE(blessingyu @ Sep 30 2010, 02:41 PM)
who said 2 years relationship is hard to forget and let go?
then hw bout those who have been dating for 6 years above n nearly to get married, but in the end still break off? so they should kill themself?
its obviously that he doesnt love u that much.
he would rather to spend time with the bloody hell DOTA instead of u.
see how important are u in his heart?
u should think properly whether its worth to continue or not lorr...
btw, did he treat u like a princess at the beginning? while u both jz started to dateee
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He loves me actually just now he loves dota too. I think. All these times I thought I should do something for him. But I'm very tired dy. Very very tired dy. I don't have the courage to let go. Coz he is the only guy I dated before. It's hard to find someone we really fell in love with. Love is not about money, not about the look. It's about the feelings. I think that's the reason I fell into him. I'm afraid if I let go, I wouldn't meet someone. It's hard. Anyways, thanks fr all the replies. I just registered in this forum yesterday and I found that this forum is really a nice place to visit when I'm very down. Thank you. I shall let go. He wants computer. Not a gf. Thanks a lot people. Thank you so much. Inreally appreciate all the replies very much. It's not only the words. It's all about the support and courage you guys gave me. Thank you. Once again, thank you so much.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:03 PM

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QUOTE(fujkenasai @ Sep 30 2010, 03:55 PM)
slipper guy? Definately should dump him, he should work part time to pay you back if he is a human being esp a guy and not play dota all day and night. I wanna see how he walks through the 1st sem?

Which uni is it murdoch, curtin, Nottingham or Edith Cowan. Definately not UWA.
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Curtin University.
Im in Mechanical Engineering 3rd Year 2nd Sem.
Any friends here?
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:08 PM

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QUOTE(yeohmaggie @ Sep 30 2010, 06:26 PM)
Don't walk out. Talk to him out of this.
you guys don't understand she got no friends and relative in Perth.
If she really walk out she'll be lonely.
I know she will make friends in no time but still she'll be loner and it looks pathetic
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Finally someone really understand my situation.
Thank you MAggie.
Thank you so much.
I have friends here but not very close coz different courses.
Im in mechanical engineering where all the ang mo and nerd guys.
They only stayed at home.
I only rely on internet and my books.
Even now, I just broke up with him.
I can only sit here crying alone reading all the comments.
Pity hor.
Thanks a lot MAggie.
I will move on and be very tough.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:18 PM

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Thank you everyone. I talked to him like 20 mins ago. Telling him I wish he could study harder and not playing 10 hours per day. And I told him I hope he can change his temper. He replied me "Every guys like to play. Im one of them. since im not the type that you want, lets break up." He said it with anger. very angry. I said okay then burst into tears. He walked out of the house. 2 years of relationship just ended. I dont know what else to say. Thank you guys for the replies. Thank you so much. Thank you. Im not a hot woman. Not someone who thinks that im very valuable myself. Its just that I appreciate the relationship and the memories and thats why Im trying my very best to hold on. I dont have much friends here in Perth. Hopefully everything will be okay. Thank you so much for all the advise.

anyone wanna play dota with me? Im very very down now.
lets play gg.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:19 PM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:17 PM)
Do you consider to go out alone, travel alone?
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Ticket very expensive bah. somemore no break. Summer break I have to do internship here. CNY probably can only go back home for 2 weeks.
thanks a lot for all the concern.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:31 PM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:25 PM)
I see. However, are you the one who always stick with someone when going out?  smile.gif
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Ermm... not really.
When i got back to malaysia, my friends are not at kk, n my family is busy, then i go out alone.
I used to stick my 'ex bf' a lot. like super glue. When he play basketball, then i sit beside n watch.
Is that sticky?
Then after he told me he doesnt like it, then i stay at home play with my dog or play some uplevel online game.
Last few weeks, I keep going out with my friends.
He told me he doesnt like it and he feel secure with me sitting beside him while he was playing game.

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:33 PM)
It is definitely very "sticky", i wouldn't say it is necessarily a bad thing, because different guys have different preferences. The only thing, would you be bored, on yourself?

Hah, i am Sabahan too  biggrin.gif
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bored? ermm..... sometimes? if bored then play some games? chat with my friends and do some assignments?

hi Sabahan! im from kk. graduated from all saints 2006.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:43 PM

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QUOTE(whuffy_aniki @ Sep 30 2010, 09:37 PM)
Try leave him for awhile,if he really love u,he will come for u,if not  its time to get a real bf..
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Thank you.
I really hope he will come back.
If he wont, then I really have to move on very tough.
Thanks.
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post Sep 30 2010, 10:00 PM

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QUOTE(Cheesenium @ Sep 30 2010, 09:50 PM)
Hmm, same batch as me, but different uni. laugh.gif
Go get Steam and play some real games man.

DotA is just 1% of what PC gaming could offer you.
Well, just be strong and move on then.
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you are mechanical 3rd year sem 2 too?
ahhh!! so happyy! finally met someone closer here.
Which uni are u in?
I got mid term exam next week.
electrical plant and fluid flow modelling.
Do you have these units in ur uni too?
Thats why im trying my best to overcome my sadness.
I have to study.


Added on September 30, 2010, 10:02 pm
QUOTE(quest_5692 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:48 PM)
joyceanne, dun go back, walk out of this. i recommend you to join lowyat forum kopitiam, will give you alot of laughter. just be careful dun kena bash. if just reading, can be really fun and time consuming haha. =D

although i quit dota long time ago, if u really want i can play wif u later.....

just get out of this shit.
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how to join that kopitiam?
I dont knwo what to click in this lowyat.
i just registered last night.
what to click to join oh?


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post Sep 30 2010, 10:05 PM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:44 PM)
I see, surely you do shopping as well  hmm.gif

You were in KK, much easier for you than in my hometown.

SM All Saints......well, i am from Sandakan....also graduated from school in 2006.
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I know few sandakan people here in my uni.
They are very smart.
you must be very smart too.
shopping? errrr i dont shop in Australia.
white people size are very diff from asians. they like to wear showing their boobs.
and things here very expensive.
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post Sep 30 2010, 10:41 PM

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QUOTE(Cheesenium @ Sep 30 2010, 10:05 PM)
Im doing civil engineering, 3rd year, 2nd sem.

I wont call it closer to you, cause im on the other side of the coast, Sydney. 

Heard of these subjects in my uni, everyone says its hard. laugh.gif

Anyway, nice to meet you and welcome to LYN.
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Nice to meet you Cheese. Sydney... 5 hours flight from Perth.
Civil is hard right?
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post Oct 1 2010, 07:07 PM

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QUOTE(LiLFreaK @ Oct 1 2010, 01:52 PM)
dota b4 hoes =)

i think u not understanding your boyfriend enough .. give him some space , its his hobby let him be.. u cant expect him to be around u 24 7
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12 hours dota not much space enough???
I only need 2 hours per day AND when im crying just talk to me and hug me not slamming the doors.

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