guys and girls,

there's a fine line between being concerned & busybody. if you know what i mean.

example:

i asked a same question to my friend, some will say at the end of the conversation : thanks for ur concern.

some will just cut u short and say, y u so 8(busybody) for what?

applies to close friends n not so close friends too.



so how do you guys rate what is busy body/concerned?

This post has been edited by zstan: Jul 5 2010, 03:14 PM

both the same

he have to bzbdy if we ar concern

rule of the thumb in life. mind your own business and ignore drama in life, you live longer.

elehhhhhh..dun tell me u guys din concern about pretty girls before..

some peoples just don't know how to appreciate their frens' concerns .
so they will think their frens are busybody ...

err...havent met any one pretty before...
if for friends...his personal matter i dont really want to know (because that is called "8")
if his/her matters is related to me (IE: if we r both studying, so it is related to study matters) yes, i will 8/concern about his/her situation

you so busybody and concern yourself with others for wut?

Some people just showing fake concern, they just want to know more about what happen and then spread the news. In the end it still means busybody. Kepo.

this would be a great question to ask at /k/... lol!

EXACTLYYY!!!! there are more kepos than really concerned people.

so u all din reli concern ppl before la?

too much korean and japanese drama and tvb influence if you ask me.

This post has been edited by MistaDamius: Jul 5 2010, 03:53 PM

well depends on which person. those who really drama and love to have dramatic self inflicted emo, i'd better not show that much concern, LOL! there's a possibility when u concern, then the other person will think u have bad intentions ,etc.

being concerned and being a busybody depends on the content discussed and the closeness of the friendship/relationship

example?

I can define it a bit better for you

busybody = active
concerned = passive

A busybody is someone who wants to know, even if the person doesn't really want to tell, so they try to force the issue out, its really selfish. A concerned party will show their concern and provide support, but will not force the issue if you're not comfortable with it.

That's a simple explanation anyway, sometimes you need to intervene when your friends are in trouble otherwise they spiral to self destruction.

Besides, TS question is so very vague. No proper example or scenario to give an opinion. Most of the time, you should be concerned on the background. If they see you are concerned, they will approach you when they are ready. But they will push you away the moment you become pushy and busy body.

At the end of the day, it is your method of approach that will lead that person to believe you are actually concerned or just plain busy body. And pretty or not pretty girls should not make a difference at all if you are a true friend.

I can tell from your line of questioning, you are only concerned/busy body because she's pretty. No sincerity.

ermm..my question applies to guy and girl friends.

both are same. if you're concern about things that doesnt concern u, you're automatically a busybody.

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Added on July 5, 2010, 8:03 pmdont bluff. you're just excusing your own busybody behviour right there.


This post has been edited by teongpeng: Jul 5 2010, 08:03 PM

+1

If those who reply you so 8 for what...then you can ignore them as fren la...clasify them into unknown category la...

If those who have conversation with you which mean ppl treat you as fren.

Simple.

busybody, aka 8, is the exccessive concern about a person or something that has actually none related to u urself but u keep asking something more and more in depth due to ?????? (the busybody him/herself dont even know what its the reason).

Concern it a case where u like to care for someone, just wanted to know if he or she still fine, okay or not, etc etc.
When someone ask u mind ur own business, dont be 38, none of ur concern/business,
they just dont expect u to concern for them, regardless they know or appreciate ur concern or not, u should just leave them alone then

silverhawk's done it again

speak for yourself.

Busybody & concerned? Well, how to define those? When someone can open the mouth and say, hey I am just being concerned about you and bla bla bla, but when shit happens, flees away. But someone might be just busybody wanting to know what exactly is happening, you may even hate that person to be so damn busybody but that person will be there for all the thick and thin you go through, so tell me, busybody is better or being concerned is better?

Attentive.

thats deep...