Hi girls,

I just get to know abt this forum lately, and decided to ask some forumers for some advice.

Recently, I lost my virginity to a guy who loved me very much and I love him very much too. I would say I enjoy the process and we're more in love with each other ever since.

But, I have few questions,
1. Is it, the first few time of making out, will still bleed? Is it normal?
2. We played safe, used condom everytime, but I still worry abt getting pregnant, as I dun wan to be pregnant before marriage. So, its condom very very safe? As long as his 'ejaculated stuff' din get in contact wif my va****, there's nothing to worry abt right? I feel worried everytime after making out.

Sorry for being so stupid if I asked stupid question. Hope there's someone to solve my heart discomfort that bothers me for quite a period of time. thanks.

1. not all girls bleed. and even if u do, its normal, its ur hymen tearing.
2. the BEST protection is using condoms... or abstinence.

1. yes few days, 2-3? times, i mean lol
2. erm....

This post has been edited by myghimh: Jun 13 2010, 12:31 PM

girl, u should go google up and read more.
and i think condom is pretty safe compared to others.
or u can just check ur menstrual calender (or whatever they call it), and take note of which day is absolutely safe for sex - the not fertile period.

1. Perhaps normal due to excessive force and trauma~

2. Use condom, safe as long as properly applied and does not leak or some awkward accident happens

oh, what awkward accident might happen? o.o Im more calm now :-)

condom is safe but it's not 100% safe. anyway, you could consider taking birth control pill... but at the same time, use condom to prevent any STD diseases. good luck.

after a few more times you wont feel the pain anymore and will start to enjoy it...

Abortion is only legal if the mother's life is in danger.

I can say the guy is luckly. Btw, how old ru?

1. Is normal for the first time.

2. Condom is not 100% safe...If you play save, then sud not be a problem..

So don't worry too much..Just enjoy urself..Worry doens't solve any problem tho

Cheers!

Although condom is not 100% safe, if you use it correctly and use the right brand, it is near to 100% safe. If you don't do it during your fertile week + wear condom(durex extra thick/safe) + check whether there is any leakage each time(get morning after pill if there is) you're near to 100% safe.

To be safe, take the Pill, use condom, and next morning take morning-after-pill. Confirm no children

And before love making, make sure he masturbated at least 3 times prior to your session with him. By then his sperm count would be very very low.

This post has been edited by ayamkambing: Jun 14 2010, 10:46 AM

 

This post has been edited by dma0991: Apr 7 2015, 09:56 PM

And you know this... how?

enjoy it..no worries..

As a YOUNG guy, erection can always happen even after 5 times masturbation. Each ejaculating, semen and sperms becomes smaller in quantities.
After that, continue masturbating once everyday, consistently. It will keep sperm count to minimal. And with condoms, chances of impregnation is greatly reduced.

Trust me, I know, i have alot of girl friends at one point in my college years (of booze and girls )

The safest is after the 5th time. But 3 times is ok la. Doesnt take much energy, just a left or right hand. Helps in building up muscles.
But for love making, men need to excercise on cardio and stamina, arm strength, and pelvic/hip muscles for longer lasting sessions.

Anyway, for TS, dont worry too much. But if it PERSIST (bleeding), please consult your local gynecologist.

This post has been edited by ayamkambing: Jun 14 2010, 12:28 PM

nice advise.

but after 1 time u still got mood to masturbate a?

Or maybe a few decades later they'll have each other's grandchildren?

i don have few decades to see that.

what? how old are you? 50+?!

Condom is not 100% safe. As long as you guys are not too rough, then should be ok

condoms are safe ! just the " safe but not 100% safe etc bla bla shit rumour scares u all only .. hahaha . just do it! (nike)

OMG 3 times or 5 times? How long do u need? As i know, after 1st time u have to take 15mins above to 2nd time.

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This post has been edited by marsalee: Nov 8 2010, 11:25 AM

my advice is don't have sex and u will be safe till the day u marry......if not after u got baby the guy will COMFIRM dump u.....so if u don't have sex then all this won't happen and u no need to worry.....

dat is the stupidest advice i ever heard.

ya...

One in morning after you wake up
Second in afternoon, office toilet
Third at home when bathing.
Fourth is the action time with hot chick. Confirm no more sperms then.

just spend 6.50 get a extra safe enof la, why so hassle ?

oooo, i tot they say 3-5 times in once.

Be prepared for a marathon at a slower pace!

Siao meh, not all in once. But its good for hormonal balance in a guy. Release stress too.

Not really. No effect at all.

if ur only concern is pregnancy.. then u can either use morning after pill (if its a one off thing.. dont take it too often if u're having consistently), birth control pill (1 month cycle) or birth control injection (3 months).

condoms are more important to prevent HIV and STDs. its not 100% safe, only bout 98% save, but hey.. at leas there's a precaution rite? if u still get it.. then i guess that's just luck. after all, who ask u to be itchy?

wow. thanks for the overwhelming advice.

Yeah, I think I should consider reducing freq. of sex, maybe once a month, to reduce the risk. And I believe he wun dump me bcuz of pregnancy. And, abortion is definite NO NO for me. thanks for advices guys and girls. Some kind forumers even PM me to advice me, thanks for the concern. Have a nice day~

Use three layer of condom. Bluff your Bf saying u r pregnant see what is his reaction...

if u would hav pay attention in biology class, u'll learn dat pregnancy is not as simple as sperm + ovum.
there r few more process to complete b4 can b considered pregnant.
& those process ain't ez.

if u would hav learn the truth about pregnancy, u'll wont b so paranoid about dis problem.

She could have been in Arts since Form 4. Form 3 Science is about reproduction system. Very very very very basic. and she asked about condoms, not bout how babies came about.

Just like buy lottery, every day buy, one day will kena also.

When the least expected, it came. Those that want it so badly, never had it.

Life is just sucks

if wit condom & pills also kena......really can buy jackpot edi......
sounds like u wanted baby.....

Just ask the bf to pull it out at the last minute and ejaculate outside.
That's what all the porn actors do, to prevent the actresses from getting pregnant.

Use two enough. Apply minyak cap kapak on top of the first one then put on the second one. If your GF feel hot inside during ML then the second/top one torn. Still safe though. To be really safe use another one on top of the first one. Don't forget to apply minyak cap kapak again on top of the first one.

Just my professional opinion though.

My first time was real skin to skin contact and it was wonderful. Only GOD knows.

No use condom still the best, what to do need to prevent all kind of thing...

the guy is lucky then..

Hopefully he wont dump you after this..

coz

mission accomplished!

please stop giving wrong advice.

it's bad to use multiple condoms. the low quality ones will have higher chance of tearing due to friction. just use 1 good quality condom when you do it.

people seem to be more worried of pregnancy than STD. never think if you don't use condom, can get AIDS? but i'm sure people think it only happen to other people. please avoid those shoot outside method cos sometimes if the guy cannot control, then have to take the morning after pill.

if want to make love, be responsible and do it safely.

You should tell him you are pregnant one day as a test. Otherwise you are just guessing that he won't dump you. You don't want to be pregnant, you don't want abortion. Tsk tsk, young people these days want all the pleasure but don't want to accept the risk that comes with it.

Scared, don't do lah ....

Have a life buddy... people is not asking weather is it pain or enjoying it.... she is trying to ask a simple question and you are talking crap....

1) my wife did bleed for few time when we have sex the 1st time.
2) condom can say is the safest on every product. but i cant say its 100%... maybe 95-98%. Its hard to tell really sometimes it might break while u are having sex.... but that dont always happen..... maybe once in a blue moon

Hope this info calm and help you.

heard people said the safest is the still the pill, have to take daily for 28 days a month, second safest is condom =P

condom protects against std as well. pill only protects against pregnancy. i think use both is safer.

no condoms?? its a big no for me. but i wonder how it feels if not wearing one. afraid of std. well durex gives u d best

more warm & soft as u can feel real flesh.
& if cum inside, u can feel the warm of the cum.

oh u can feel the frictions...

i find only very slight difference. when got condoms is like got a layer of something compared to going bare.
i still prefer no condoms.

so lucky all of u. my partner dont wanna doin it without cndm. i oso afraid of getting pregnant. hehe tats d truth

This post has been edited by nina bo: Nov 10 2010, 11:34 PM