Maybe you should take some time out. Maybe not to the extreme of 3 months on multiple vacations but atleast something. Your dad has been shouldering that burden for some time now, I doubt that a couple of months is going to make a difference. I think you should convince yourself that there is a job out there for you and that you should take your time in getting it and not panic too much. Afterall, the most elusive things are those we sought out the most and yet we can't seem to get them.

Then I guess that you must take a leap of faith. Sadly, I too am turning out to be like your dad. The hardworking nature in me has been twisted into a workaholic lifestyle. It is hard for me to resist and I've made several conscious attempts at resisting being a workaholic to no avail.

I think intelligent and well read people like yourself will always find their way because you have an asset that you can't cultivate overnight and it may or may not involve the field that you are studying but it'll help take you places.

Yeah, thankfully I am a single guy who lives alone and has nobody who minds him being busy all the time.

Ahh but thinkers think and that is their nature. If it is depressing, it is unfortunate but you can only be what you are.

Yeah that's very true, at the end of the day, I'm the person who cares the most if we float or sink so I will do everything in my power to make sure we float.

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Added on March 28, 2010, 2:29 amYeah that's a great way of looking at it. I agree.

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Who conned you into doing that?

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Added on March 28, 2010, 2:32 amUh oh, that means you might have the gene somewhere hidden inside of you waiting to pop out as soon as you start working...

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and very comfortable admitting it too. I like!

Oh then maybe I should ask "who introduced the idea" to you first? Or was it all you and if it was, what were you thinking?

Not religious per se but I do have a general faith in god etc which I hold on to very tightly so maybe religious in a way internally. Why do you ask?

This post has been edited by JeromeDubois: Mar 28 2010, 02:38 AM

That's a very odd thing to hate out of all the things you can hate in this world.

Ok I understand it now. That's a tough break and sadly it happens to most kids. It happens due to lack of proper guidance and yet why is it happening so much? Why are parents not guiding their kids more carefully? I would like to think that I can help my kid my decisions that will ultimately serve the purpose of happiness above everything else.

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Added on March 28, 2010, 2:50 amAre you religious?

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It's good that they've learned to understand you better now. Atleast something good came out of all that. An important part of parenthood is not to project our fears and insecurities onto our children and yet at the same time be aware and fearful enough to ensure their safety. It's a very tightrope to walk on I know and easier said than done for certain.


If that is what they thought they wanted then I will support it and if they make a mistake, I will help them overcome it with moral support and encouragement.

Naughty you, going against the grain like that. It bugs simple minded people that you think too much. Does it bug you that you bug them?

Just be sure not to treat your wife the same way.

Yeah well people these days are mostly that way especially the kids I know from rich families in PJ, Bangsar, Hartamas or any other high incoming places like that. They're just spoiled.

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Added on March 28, 2010, 3:03 am Very good. Keep questioning and finding answers and truths bro.

This post has been edited by JeromeDubois: Mar 28 2010, 03:03 AM

Sounds like you have a tight family there. Sounds good.

Gotta love it.

Atleast they try to hide their condescending tone.

Whoa, intense. That freaks me out. I guess I just like my own space and not have heavy relationships like these.

Nope I'm Malay.

Haha no it is just a nickname. I spent alot of time in the states growing up but I was in Montreal Canada for 2 years also. In Montreal they are mainly French-Canadian and I was new in school and so the teacher asked me to stand up and introduce myself and I did and I told them my name ans they all couldn't say it because they were unfamiliar with Asian names and so this kid joked that they should just call me Jerome Dubois because that was the name of the kid that just left their class and whose place I took in class and it stuck since then. People just called me Jerome and I got used to the name too.