Luckily I managed to called out the girl of my dreams to a movie..
Maybe preparing for a second date..

22years old.. 178cm.. Obese but i trying to lower down my weight slowly
I'm Noob when comes to love.. No gf at all.. thanks to all-boys school..

I'm graeful to Noob13 for givng me tips through ur thread (5ways to let her know you're Interested in Her)..

I want to have a girlfriend..(Not desperado)
When should I hold her hand? Walking when shopping? In the cinema?
When? Second date? Third date?
Please relate ur experience.. Thanks..

i think its best when ur gf started it 1st... or u can ask her.
if u started it without her permission, mybe ur gf didnt quite like it as ur still new in relationship. just my opinion.

When you felt the time is right.
Look for the answer in your heart.

thanks a lot..

perhaps third time is the most suitable . First time , she might not be ready yet. if she's going out with u for the second time, ur chance is higher ! third time will be more safer and suitable I think l. =)) Ganbatte !

wait for her reaction 1st
gv her some hints 1st la

first date must hold hands

if no hold hands u no chance liao

worse case movie end u all walkin in crowd u grab her hand

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Added on February 25, 2010, 10:38 pmif she pulls away, u go home,
go to bed
close ur eyes
relive the date
and fap.

This post has been edited by vey99: Feb 25 2010, 10:38 PM

too desperate i think..

thanks.. btw, did u read the manga Densha Otoko (Train Man)?
Kinda nostalgic but its one of my favorites..
It truly inspire me to let me escape frm my shell and daringly ask her out..
To read that manga.. <http://www.onemanga.com/Densha_Otoko/>

Thanks 4 replying my post..

pls bare in mind that failure is an exceptable possiblilty b4 holding her hands , cheers

This post has been edited by nickisthemost: Feb 25 2010, 10:42 PM

+1

dude ur life is not a fukken manga.


earth to TS, can u hear me???

Agree with most of the posters here, 3rd date.

Good luck on ur first love at age 22...its going to be damn.rough.

juz asking wat is a TS? seen that acronym (TS) in some post.. as i say I'm noob

dun listen to vey....u sure die.

Hold her hand u feel its time, dun rush it. let it be natural.

Thread Starter a.k.a U!

This post has been edited by digitalove_70s: Feb 25 2010, 10:49 PM

if u still hve prob whether it is the rite time or not, just ask her lar...better that way...later she take back her hand, u'll feel uneasy pula...hehe

just dont b like me lar...
i was with a girl back then,just finished spm. I was in a cinema and the girl keep on saying she is cold, her hand is cold but I was so dumb didnt understand
after i went back home, then I realize it

then?
breakup?

mana ada

better than date 10 times, try to hold and she said
"i treat u like bro nia"

that time really chicken worship

ya wei.. i blame the damn Cinema that day.. the cinema not cold enough (Can't hold her hand).. next time go there buy tickets ask the guy in charge, "You boleh turun itu air-con suhu dalam cinema, ah?" =(

I thought TS is something else..=.=
Just set up my acc 1week ago..

aha
welcome dupe!

No need to say u're ''noob'' this is not /k/, people here are polite and helpful =P

=)

kiss 1st...den only hold hands....

careful newbie
if u pay attention to them too much u will

definitely can't hold hand first date thanks to the air-con in the cinema..

but i see some good suggestions coming from u guys!!!

Haiz..
You want grab, just grab nia..
Like what i did, there is a scene where its horrific, and i juz simply reach out and hold her hands..
Settled..
No need think so much..
Worst come 2 worst, she slap ur hands away nia~~"

where got so bad.......why wait till 10 dates ? 3rd date onward shud try jor

thinking of that oso..
but i tell u if 10date say "I treat u like bro nia"
Really H.E.A.R.T Breaker..

You should never hold a girl's hand... In fact you should never touch them... Because, they can always sue you for sexual harassment...

This post has been edited by bluephoenix87: Feb 26 2010, 03:21 AM

warning:

You were forewarned prior to misfortunes.
Non-reimbursable.


*smiles sweetly*

When you understand her family,
her dream,
her past a bit
her dog/pet
her friend
her best friend

and you still like her, then tell her " I want you to be my gf because I really want to protect you"
Then wait for 1 minutes, observe her facial expression
If she didn't say "no"
Then hold her hand.

Congratulate, you are the no longer single anymore.

Gila betul

TS, when you feel like it la. Even if she's got no romantic feelings for you, society is pretty open nowadays, she'll probably just let you hold her hand if you're natural. Natural means just the way you always are.

If you're really really shy and dunno when to hold her hand. Take her into sunway lagoon scream park. I think the Night Carnival is still on where its free entrance and pay per ride. about rm10 only i think for scream park. i think she'll hold u first before u hold her haha

Simple technique, hold her hand to lead her somewhere, then just don't let go and be cool about it. If she doesn't try to pull away, you're set. If she does pull away, just say sorry, you didn't realise.

first time dude ... that comes thru experience. After she pulled away the hand, its going to be awkward. guy lose confidence and ruin his day .. the girl gonna think he is a toucher.


are u a virgin ?

i touch my gf boob n xxx her even before we coupled kekekke

i normally like to take advantage on girls when i knwo they like me...

can easily see when girl interested at u lah... can see their hints..

if i not attracted to them for xxx i normally made them do my assignments only... or some to sign my attendance in class

see la all girls got use 1 even if u not attracted to them..

liar ... idiot like u prolly virgin.

talking about yourself?

bro here is place to share opionion, and tell other brothers about our experience to help them in their future not picking on people and calling them virgins

summore i am 23 years this year how to be virgin ?? man got their need ok not small boyboy like u geh

This post has been edited by LiLFreaK: Feb 26 2010, 01:18 PM

u're annoying........
u like a 14 years old teenage girl who watch too much korean love drama.....

btw...@ ts, wat school r u from?

Just... don't grab her hand because you are scared.

tec3910, I'm 22years old la..
The last time I was on a date and I can say that its a FIASCO..
The gal din tell me that she had a bf.. and BF turn up in front of us..
Nearly punched me but since I'm overweight, he dun dare..
Which was lucky coz i dun want him lose face in front of his gf by nose-bleeding..

Silverhawk, good suggestion, urs will be PLAN A
If PLAN A doesn't work, PLAN B (although i din plan PLAN B yet..=.=)

i know, but just wondering coz last time i went to an all guys school too.

btw, i nvr forget the speech my principle gav during form 1....
something like dis.....

"v r from all guys school, no chicks here.....but den v al pro 'kai kui'.
y? bcoz for a normal school, got a lot of same age girls, opportunities is there, ready made for the guys edi.
but, v <school name> boys r more advanced. v dun hav 'dinner serve on the place', but v r good enough to go out there, 'kai' girls from other school....
dats y u all will b more pro relationship compared to guys from normal school....."



wat an inspirational speech.....

Its only awkward if you make it awkward. Holding a person's hand to lead them somewhere is normal, so if you play it cool its not a problem at all. You dont have to worry about girls thinking you're a toucher, girls like to be touched, you just need to know HOW to touch them properly

The mistake a lot of people make is that they 2nd guess themselves, so when they touch/approach, hesitation is there and it makes the body language all weird. Women pick up on that, if you're smooth, they enjoy it.

Last time i watch movie with a guy on 2nd date.

Then i purposely put my hand on his armrest and slowly drop my fingers towards his side.

Luckily he smart oso la,he slowly grab one finger at a time lor,starting from baby finger.

Then when i no reaction he grab another finger,after a while hor,grab whole hand liaooo..

so 2nd date shud be ok to hold hand lor...but dont grab so hard la,grab gently ma

wuwu, i try did that on 1st date..

I delibrately put my arm on the arm rest in the cinema, leaving a bit space for her hand but she just cross her arm..

haha.. i still blame the cinema for not being cold..
Never mind.. There's always a Round 2..
As long not GAME OVER, still got chance geh..

dis is wen the girl edi show clear sign she wan her to do dat.......

p/s, there r just some people who dun prefer to hold hands.......
like me....wen i go out wit my girl, i dun hold her hand....(except in cinema, coz it's cold)
it's not dat i dun like her, i'm just not the hold hand type.

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Added on February 27, 2010, 1:50 amkiss b4 hold hands....
den wen gran her hand next time, 100% success....

This post has been edited by tech3910: Feb 27 2010, 01:50 AM

wuwu face pretty ma..
any males under that condition also will do that la..

tech3910, depends la..
anyway this can be say as my first time getting a gf le..
i dun have a gf b4, so maybe i wanna try hold hand..

cinema really the best place....
it's cold, no fear of sweaty palm.....

during movie, slowly reach for her hand....
if she dun wan, den she will pull away without a word, coz u can talk in cinema.....
den u can just faham-faham & awkwardly continue the movie.....no big dea.......

another suggestion....get a present for her......
something dat wear on her hand, like ring o bracelet......
show her the present, grab her hand & wear for her b4 she took the chance away....
while u r grabbing her hand, giv some complement, like "dis looks nice on u", o say something sweet......
den say something like....."ur hand r so <compliment word>, i wish i could keep holding it.......(eye contact)"

giving the signal "U r so desperate" person to her ya..

u're talking bout suggestion 1 o suggestion 2?

both suggestion... might works on some people (maybe u, who knows)..
but thanks 4 ur suggestions

i prefer silverhawk's suggestion
(try to hold her hand when leading somewhere.. If she dun wan take her hand away, means u success.. If she try take away her hand, say sorry and pretend like nothing happen)

Not downgrading myself, but I'm no Takeshi Kaneshiro..

This post has been edited by ExcaliburC: Feb 27 2010, 02:40 AM

nah.....shy guy like u....i suggest the cinema idea...coz like i say...the beauty of it.....no talking....

u use the "ops" idea, lets say she buys it....
den i presume dat u will feel shy, happy & slightly giggly in the inside.....
den it's gonna follow up wit som awkward & quiet walking moment........

This post has been edited by tech3910: Feb 27 2010, 04:21 PM

ya wei..
can imagine it..
situation:
successfully hold her hand, *arkward moment*

den u hav a split second to think.....

u wanna break the ice by saying something sweet, o just act casual, like u dun notice & the hand thing isn't a big deal?

decide.............

Put your arms around the girls shoulder first. After awhile, you can hold hands liao.

do I stand no chance? I told him my hand is cold, feel my hand (even took my hand up toward him), he replied my hand is cold too I prob won't feel anything.

I kissed my girl on the first day we met

tech3910, err.. let me decide.. will post up which i use then..

Aigise, and the girl thinks that u r a pervert.. And swear never to go out wit me again..

ah_suknat, good for u, bad for me..

park ur car at StarHill, walk to pavillion

during the cross road grab her hand

then ok liao lo

go to sunway pyramid, there got archery and ice skating, provided u know better than her in these, then u can offer to teach her how to balance, how to aim, then mah

Good Idea on this ya...

good idea..
problem is i dun have a car and i dunno how to ice skate or archerry..
she won't go Sunway... coz she told me..
thannks, guys and gals..
dunno wat i do if u all dun help me..

y dont u confess before holding her hand ? or u edi did ?

hold hands only when both are in love with each other and are in a relationship already.

apa apa also dont have, who would want to simply hold your hand and walk la?

go time square/pavilion for movie/shopping, sg. wang for sing/roller blade......

time to open another thread: When to confess?
KHOdin and ah-kow, i didn't confess yet.. so, i thought that if hold hand first, if she dun hold hand, means that no feeling yet.. means i have to try harder to win her H.E.A.R.T..

Dun worry.. If got chance, i hold hand, if no chance, then no choice, means no hold hand..

how long u know her la?

how often u two go on dates la?

if almost every weekend also go out, and she also happy to see you, then u can try lo.

if not then u only make her feel awkward and slap you.

3years college..
went out once..
can't every week, she teaching tuition..

but she got drop hint:
"I want watch this movie (Alice in Wonderand).."
So, that will be the second date..

But she reply after few days, "I scared that time a bit busy.. hope can watch.."
Damn, so now i feel so "kan-cheong" hope she free la..

confess to her first la

if you confess and she accept it sure easier to hold hand and you will be less nervous when holding her hand also la.

tek her to ice skating o roller blade, confirm not only u get to hold hands, u get body contact.....

Watever u do, dun confess... just go on outings with her. Dates, dinners and movies.

Confessing would put pressure on her.

keep that in mind..

but for now, all depends on her whether she herself want to go on the second date..

i'm all for it.. i dunno her la.. just hope luck and cunning skill can manage to make her change her mind and go for second date..

nooo... must confess when u feel like she has been dropping enough hints.. what she says and all... or if she even asks u out sometimes.. or msgs u first.. then u know she enjoy ur company... try to give her more eye contact... might attract her alil...

it's been 3 years past. how's it going ExcaliburC?

what is so difficult, if you both are not in that stage yet, holding makes no sense and could offend her. if you both are already in that stage or near, just hold and her heart will be melted by your hands.

Back in high school, I hold her hand on 3rd date. Now adult liao, 2nd date hold waist. Hopefully by the end of the date can get home run.

Do not reply anymore, it's three years ago and necro-ed thread.

that is actually correct

Gosh you guys have to ask for permission to hold her hands? Seriously?


You should be able to judge based on her response and how she reacts when she's around with you to see whether she wants you to hold her.