i'm totally agree with you.
my bf's monthly salary 70% goes to supporting his family as well as save as his parent's health emergency fund as his parents have 0 insurance.

since both of us are late 20s, i've asked him several time any planning to our future. he keep on saying no money and have to support his family.
ask me to wait.. wait till when? wait till i'm 30++ ? till old? i feel that it's kinda unfair to me..

sometimes i think that some gal like me is kinda stupid, give up a higher pay OL job in KL; go back ipoh, working in a factory. this is the return that i get from him.. it's really disappointed.

joey, i believe you have misunderstood barista and my statements.
we are not asking our bf to abandone their parents nor their family.
i'm just asking for his understanding to balance his contribution of % salary.

setting up a new family and to have kids need lots of money. remaining 30% salary to support himself and his new family is kind of impossible. unless he earns a lot, for normal ppl, its hard to survive.

when i'm reading this, i'm really wondering how old are you?
if you really tell the same words to them, you are like threatening them.
if your future partner's parents insists wish to have it, maybe not a big amount of money,
maybe just as a token of appreciation to thank the parents for taking care of their daughter.
nothing can be perfect, that's why before marry, need to sit down to discuss with both side parents,
have a mutual agreement how to make the wedding.

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Added on April 30, 2011, 12:05 pmmaybe you are really rich or earning a lot
i calculated, a standard wedding cost about 25K++ (include wedding photo, wedding ring, buffet at house.. etc)
which haven't include wedding dinner which easily cost another 20K++
so, for normal couple like us, need the guest's angpow to help to cover some of the cost of wedding dinner



This post has been edited by vandoren: Apr 30 2011, 12:05 PM

sorry to offense
you are selfish to me
when we were small, will our parents ever think that we are their burden?
when they are old now, they become burden to us?
i understand some folks nagging a lot and sometimes very stubborn, but still, they are our parents.
so do our couple's parents, we should respect them, same as we respect our couple.