Feb 19 2010, 09:54 AM
QUOTE(NaiveLady @ Feb 18 2010, 07:20 PM)
My parents & relatives informed the "ping kam" should be abt RM6K and requested for a piggy. They informed that that is the rate in KL. My parents told me because we're not rich, thus the money (instead of forking out our own money) served as financial aid to help them purchase essential items required for the wedding celebrations such as gold.
However, my future in-law said my parents request is too high and they prefer to pay RM888/RM1888/RM2888 (Just a sign of good luck (hou yi tou). Reasons given is they are not buying a daughter-in-law & they want everything to be simple. They thought we want “face” and reputation is the reason behind it. They prefer give money to us (after wedding i guess) rather than wasting it to buy those wedding things. They are not rich but not poor either.
then my cousin sister got married to her husband on 2 years back and her husband also gave Rm10k
then my friend is getting married next month, her husband also give Rm10k
In KL, I have never heard of people giving 888, 1888, 2888. Lowest that i heard was Rm8k.
I think the Rm6k is just enough to cover and serve as financial aid to help them purchase essential items required for the wedding celebrations such as gold. If you are going to have wedding dinner on your own side, 100% not enough!
My vote = Persuade future husband to give RM6K !
Check his ability to give that RM6k, if he can afford why not?
They prefer give money to us (after wedding i guess) ?? You Only Guessing! They won't give it to you! They will give it to your husband!! And in their mindset (i guess), your money belongs to your husband and your husband money belongs to your husband/parents.
Thinking further, after marriage, You are Bound to fork out money to support the family when things go wrong. Are you confidence to do so? If no, just persuade your husband to get the RM6k, save the balance for the rainy days!
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