Feb 22 2010, 04:23 PM
QUOTE(g r a p e k e y @ Feb 21 2010, 01:53 AM)
hi eebodyyy..... why is the ping kam so important ? imo, the Chinese mentality sometimes a little bit too much request & very face minded. Solely classified to make simple things complicated. To me if I have kids of my own, what matters is their future husband or wives personality from day 1, and not about reimbursement or whatsoever. And another thing, I find it cocky that some Chinese people on their day of marriage, the husband need to read a short essay to their wife.. telling her how much he would appreciate and pamper her... In reality, how many of you man out there truly live up to your words? It is a disgrace for those who don't. and those keh le fei (pasu bunga) people all around are seen melting away as the bridegroom read the essay.. To me, I always believe marriage is just between 2 person & I don't need $ to validate anything.
it's not only the chinese mentality so to speak, it's Asian. We all want face. Furthermore, TS's future in-law already degrade themselves into negotiating a "ping kam" and this also haven't step foot into their in laws door. What if really married and become their in-law? They would obviously treat TS like shit. marriage in Asia world is not about 2 person... once u're married, u're married into the family which includes pleasing ur in law's, the aunties, the uncles, etc etc..
recently a malay friend got wed and I've learned that the standard hantaran is RM10K for a degree holder wife
RM6k is simply nothing. y in a rush to get married now during ur man's financial turbulence? since courtship has been for 8 years, saving for another year wont be any problem right?
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