i think your hubby is immature and has no sense of responsibility. he's already reached the age of 31 yrs and yet he's still hooked on drugs, playing online games 24/7.

what have your in-laws done to help? as you said your family is complicated, maybe you should consider talking to your in-laws about this. they definitely will not want their grandchild to grow up in such an environment.

like noob13 said, your only option is to get professional help because (and i'm not trying to rub salt into your wounds) from your responses, it's quite clear that you yourself are not even matured enough to deal with such a situation yet. and soft approach is definitely not going to help at this point. your husband needs some sense knocked into his thick skull cause i don't think he'll listen to any advice right now since he's so hooked on them drugs.

may i know if you're working? who's supporting your lifestyle currently? are you planning to depend on your in-laws since you say they're wealthy?