31 years old.
Sometimes, letting go of someone you love, is a form to love him, too.
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Nov 7 2009, 03:15 PM
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Letting go doesn't mean divorce him.
Letting go mean leave him for awhile, with the baby. Guide him to change and persuade him to change. Give both a promise. |
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Nov 7 2009, 03:20 PM
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QUOTE(teongpeng @ Nov 7 2009, 03:16 PM) you can guide him while still being by his side. All you haters just know how to punish ppl and talk is cheap coz u've never been a victim. From her hubby's situation, apparently soft approach doesn't work. To guide someone, to influence somone, has to be innovative and find a better way that works on the victim's personality. Wasting time in plan A for many years doesn't work, it will only ruin his years to come, so does to herself and the baby. |
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Nov 7 2009, 03:26 PM
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Of course I know what's meaning of marriage vows.
Professional counseling is one way, yes she hasn't tried it. But if she doesn't try it then she may have to apply other way. 30 years old. Addicted to drugs since he's in early 20s. If accompany him day and night without doing anything just plain nagging can change him, I don't think he's still a drug addict now. |
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QUOTE(PrinceHamsap @ Nov 7 2009, 06:31 PM) punishing is a way to teach and change a person Well say.do u think mom/dad like to beat the children until they are so pain? but if not will they learn? report police, send him to rehab and tell that you love him just remind me last time of a gal that i know who reported his bf who involve in drugs. She's crying seeing her bf in lokap. She's very painful in heart, but if touching drugs, rehab is the way to go. She knew she did it right and so should you. Somehow, love doesn't mean you can adopt hard approach. Throughout the progress, yes, it is painful to the victim and to you yourself, we have to see if the method works the matter. |
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