Dear all,

I'm currently dating a guy who doesn't like to drive. Other than for short trips to a few familiar places, he'll suggest we either take LRT, taxi or that I drive (either my car or his). His car is rather old too.

The thing is he is not a useless bum or anything like that. He is intelligent, open-minded, has a decent career, is a successful investor and so on. In short, he has his oddities but is quite a good catch

My question: is it normal and socially acceptable for a girl to drive her boyfriend on dates?

Girls, your opinions please.

nothing wrong with that..

it usually becomes a problem to the guy, because guys like to be in control.. and lets face it, not alot of girls can drive.

but other than that, its perfectly normal, quite nice actually.

i like my gf to drive me also because when i drive very pressure!
i dun like to wait in traffic jam..if many car then i goes crazy and drive very fast cut here and there =)


ps: i drive car like playing arcade >.<"

This post has been edited by XiiaOkia: Sep 16 2009, 01:29 AM

If u starts to question, means more or less u are being annoyed/sensitive about it already.

Would u rather him to buy a bigger better car to drive u around?


I dont care whether its socially accepted or not, but i do like being pampered too just sit and being fetched.
Guy and girls should be treated equally isnt it?

i dont see any problem in that.

+1

Normally is guys problem.Some guys will feel 'no face' if girl fetch him around.So if he don mind and u don mind also then doest big matter loh.

err sounds weird =) ... u better check if he just dunwan to go out with u ..

Maybe he knows that you know that he is a good catch and he is using it to his advantage. Still even so if he is good in all other aspects I don't think u should throw away a good thing.

Also remember that girls are known to always be unsatisfied with what they have and always looking for a guy's fault and try to change it to what they want. Sometimes it is a good thing most of the time it is not.

This post has been edited by B@rt: Sep 16 2009, 08:17 AM

it's not a problem, girl u get to play your own music in the car!!!

unless he's one of those passenger drivers who tells you to speed up, slow down, look left look right etc. then it's no big deal for me

on the other hand, if smtg bugs u, u should just tell him, no matter how silly it is. don't let things build up inside you bcos he won't understand

let say if ur tired and u wan him to drive? would he drive?

not a problem at all for me. my boyf prefers to drive so i just let him.

however, my mom, has been driving my dad around for years. whether they go out for dinner, go office, go kl or wherever. even long distance convoy driving like to china or thailand, my mom will mostly drive. my dad only drives when he's going out for lunch by himself or when he really needs to. most of the time, me, my mom or my aunt will ferry him around.

so i see no problem in girl fetching the guy out for dates.

This is your answer TS.

Its a normal thing.

I don't know why it isn't socially acceptable for a girl to drive a guy out. Wth.
Has society brainwashed us so brutally? >_>

I would like to drive my girl out, if I had a car. But, I wouldn't mind one bit, if she wanted to drive me out. I'd feel honoured instead ;D

That can be very true...

I feel pampered

Haha. Same here.

The poll shows the truth anyway.

hes a smart investor indeed. car depreciate so fast once it leaves the showroom. he save a lot by not driving, on petrol, toll gates, parking, maintenance, etc.......

i for one would have no problem with a girl driving. even if it driving my car. it shows the trust and confidence i have in that girl.

ok ma. WHen i first started with my gf, sometimes she drive me on her bike sometimes i drive her on here bike. That was during secondary school la. Now no more hehe

taking public transport is nice... just the two of you spending time together... i like that... occassionally... and i guess having the gf to drive you around at times is nice....
and generally, guys don't really trust other people with their car but he's offering you his car to drive... may it be old or new... it's a trust...
that's a start... i trust my ex-gf alot... i would let her drive both my cars.... hahahhaah.... well... my working hour is a little odd so i can't always drive her to class and back.... so i let her drive the second car... or sometimes if she's going out in a bigger group, i would let her drive the bigger car and vice-versa....

If he's such a great catch, why should you give two shits about what's "socially acceptable"?

i like to drive...

A ne kuan VV ta pai u fetch wa ki Hokkien gang yum cha session ok?

lol...B@rt tracked me sampai sini..

as a matter of fact, I am sending the boys pergi and balik rumah to tmr's gathering:lol:

my bf dont really let me drive..

he prefer to drive me around.....n he loves it

but i love to drive...maybe he is gentlemen

This post has been edited by yeelin04: Sep 16 2009, 01:49 PM

seriously, i hate such guy. but, if you love him & you don't really mind like how i do, it doesn't matter

i dont minds either way, but if want to go difficult/crowding place i wont drive lo, sien


^__^

He doesn't like to drive and he expect you to drive to a place he wanna go or...

He doesn't like to drive so if you wanna go to a place you have to drive him also..

or..

I totally prefer my gf to drive. Some of my male friends did brought it up as a "you're a *****" issue. But it didn't bother me. Totally love being fetch by my girl. Screw those who think it's socially unacceptable.

Guys and girls, thanks for the comments and for voting

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Added on September 16, 2009, 8:44 pmSure you get a lots of police summons

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Added on September 16, 2009, 8:46 pmNah, he's a well-behaved passenger. Not a control freak at all

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Added on September 16, 2009, 8:49 pmMy bf is exactly like your dad Except he does drive to work.

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Added on September 16, 2009, 8:50 pmCute

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Added on September 16, 2009, 8:56 pmIf it's short distance or if he's familiar with the place, he'll drive.

If not, he'll suggest we take taxi.


This post has been edited by Angel On Fire: Sep 16 2009, 08:56 PM

that's because u and ur bf dont work in the same office.
both my parents work in the same office so normally my mom will go office earlier then after she go bank and all that in the morning, she'll come home and fetch my dad go. or either me or my aunt will send him there.

my bf hate it when i drive
haha
i only drive once n he almost had a heart attack
luckily he didn't complaint once while i'm driving
after that, he's d one dat do all d driving

p/s:maybe b'coz i drive dangerously

u must be drifting a lot.

i prefer girls to drive.. altho its risky, but wth.. next time when i get a good car i will also let my gf/wife to drive.. nice to see girls drive expensive cars ..

part of pampering them!

i dont feel there is any wrong somehow.. becoz my neighbour do always drive his husband everywhere.. due to he is vry tiring i guess after a long hour working. and they r a lovely couples too.

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since he's a great catch...i wudn't mind driving

I lolled at your comment cause it reminds me of my matt..haha.. he always get freaked out a little bit whenever I never drive properly..lol.

I like to watch his freak out movements cause it makes me smile and laugh only

This post has been edited by g r a p e k e y: Sep 28 2009, 12:55 AM

y not?

Anyway, I'm assuming many guys vote YES! *poor thing.. complaining behind screen*

I think good what.

I sometimes wan my gf to drive, but she has no licence, and quite gelabah if wan drive.

makes me feel secure if my gf can drive, cause anything happen, she can take care, makes her look independant

this is actually the 1st time i heard boys prefer to take public transport than drive.

anyway, i dont see it a problem driving ur boy to dates.
but i see it a problem if he makes u like the chauffeur.

but on the other hand, its quite annoying rite to be driving all the time? if its made alternately, i think shud be ok a lil.

its actually pretty fun when a girl drives the car instead
atlesat i'll know tat she can be independent..
it is abit bothersome when a gf keep callin u out just so she can be sumwhere which might not have any urgency..
i think tats just takin guys a little for granted.
its alrite but not always

yeah whats the problem ne? He drive me i oso can drive him whuat. He can't be the one driving always wan mar.

like my case i cant drive. its like a phobia.

when i had a bf last time, i felt bad cause he hafta do the driving all the time. tired or headache, he still haf to drive.

so taking turns to drive each other around is not a problem. i also dont mind if im the 1 driving n my boy pays for everything. hehhehe