So what have you decided to do?

Okay, so she went for a sissy pretty boy. That's the tricky part about LDRs. You can't know your partner well.

Ok. If you plan to continue the relationship, good for ya. I wish ya all the best bro.

But I suggest that you discuss with her for you to at least visit her parents, and get approval from her father. It shows you are sincere. Ask her if you can speak to her dad through the phone (hopefully he can speak English too lah). Or better still a video call (got web cam right?) where the three of you can discuss it out. If she doubts her father would want to do it, try to get her to convince him. If she still makes excuses, you know where you stand in the relationship dude.

Can you afford to make a trip to Philippines? During video call, ask her dad if you can meet him. If you're serious about the relationship, you should show it.

Good that both of you are working on it and her mum is interested in meeting you too. Means she's also serious about it.

Walau!!! I also agree with her dad like that. 19 is too young. Girls/women's character will change one with time. Better get to know each other better for a smoooother marriage. Anyway, what's the rush? Enjoy your life before being tied to the wedding band dude.

Yea, that's the tough part about LDR. Some other guy might just snatch her cos you can't really keep an eye on the relationship the whole time.

Have you considered working in the Philippines? At least for 1-2 years. Her dad seems to be the type who's very concerned about the daughter's welfare. So it might be good to spend some time there first with her and the family. Let them know you better. After that you could bring up the matter about both of you coming back to Msia...

You said it right, bro.

@AK,
Money might not be the main source of happiness but without money also no talk. If you are short of money, the relationship will be problematic. If you're thinking of marriage now, it'll be worst cos you'll have more financial responsibilities.

This post has been edited by MysticShadow: Aug 5 2009, 09:26 PM

@amane_kaoru,
I think you should edit your first post to let the other people know that she is also serious about you. Else end up everyone is gonna post the same thing that you got duped since they're not reading the middle posts.

Nope, Long Distance Relationship is just that straightforward. Doesn't matter same of different race/citizenship, it's that you and your partner are not staying at a convenient distance which would allow the both of you to meet frequently (eg few times a week)



This post has been edited by MysticShadow: Aug 5 2009, 11:03 PM

Ok, I know I'm repeating myself. But if you're serious about the relationship, you've gotta start planning. So you're working it out with her about meeting her parents. You say you are going to be jobless too. Have you started looking for your next one? I'm being realistic here and I hope your relationship work out well, but you sound like you're being the main provider here. Not just for her, but it seems for her family too. You'll be supporting them too once you're married and if her family members are going to need financial aid. Are you just going to deny them? Sure, you can do that but they're already also a part of your family once the two of you marry.

Age doesn't matter, especially if you're 21, you can do lots of stuff as long as you want to. But seriously, dude, you'll need a steady job.