well, first off...would like to tell noob13 that he ain't such a noob after all in the relationship area...
don't let his name fool you by any chance...

one of the main reasons why people at least males find the need to confess was...probably due to media influence...well, fess it up people, you watch drama TV's...especially korean and HK drama movies...to be honest, if you really want a referencing point in how to court someone, i believe those movies at cinemas are much better to be utilized in comparison to HK and korean dramas...not that those don't have the techniques to it...but some of them are just over dramatic and...it's just plain silly to carry that out in real life...(i'm not saying that people should not learn techniques from TV/cinemas, but well...some of it are just plain misleading...but somehow seems most promising to carry out at "that" point in time)

i still won't call myself a pro at...courting women...and seriously...starting a conversation out from nowhere (in public) is just plain awkward to me...to me, finding a group to be in will make a proper conversation than popping openers at strangers...that's me, i'll let you guys say for yourself for opening up to strangers i guess

anyhow, i'll just say this...
in debbieyss view, i can see the view of her wanting a confession, and seriously...it's not wrong to do so...
she is one of those girls who probably would want a confession in order to start a relationship, but well...i really wonder how many confessions would you like to listen to before you are able to find a suitable partner?
or maybe you like to enjoy breaking people's heart?you little heartbreaker...

anyway, two views la i'll say,
if you found someone like debbieyss, yea, you can confess, and give her a little time to think about starting a relationship with you, and you may pass

or you play another way
if you found someone unlike debbieyss, do what noob say...you can at least know how to play your next move and is able to save a little face behind it

also, as for step 5...
asking for a female-male outing is not impossible without step 1-4
if you guys are friends, as in real friends...you are able to do that just fine...(and to be honest, you need to think really less on the relationship crossing area to be able to do so)

hope this helps~

there are some good "role model" for movies out there which plays a really great PUA role including HK movies

i really dunno about korean dramas as i don't watch them, but yea, generalizing all movies are bad is...a little over generalization

the problem people mostly confuses the roles is that they are unable to separate the courting part and the bf/gf period from movies which probably makes things worse...

er, just imo,
ezra, you are still very physically involved in your theories, in comparison to silvy, which is having a bigger picture out there

not that physical attractiveness doesn't count, but in reality, it's just a bonus point for guys if they have them while for girls is what a guy would look for

here though, i would like to correct teongpeng and happy4ever for a while

well, in malaysia, i am pretty aware of the people around me, girls and guys especially if i pop them the question, would you like a smoker to be your potential spouse, i would get the majority answer as a no

maybe it's your group of friends you are mixing with, that is why you get a different response or see a different point of view that your smoking friends are married

well, also, you need to bear in mind that society is changing towards a non-smoking seeking spouse behavior, as i remember from a survey conducted by thestar previously, many stated no for their answer (of course, those whom are married already will be living in a different time phase comparing to the non-married ones)

in short,
if its just a direct question, without any extra personal variables, of course smoking is a less attractive trait to have, unless you are somebody in the other person's eyes

ask any person (that you don't know) from their early mid 20's who ain't married and see your results from the answer...of course, given the fact that if they are a smoker then most likely they would not mind as well

its call mirroring...
for those who know how to apply it in their social life, it is a really powerful seductive move, so apply with caution...haha

er...is he a he or a she? cause if he's a he, then that's...>.<"

ok, enuff with the leg pulling...XD

er...seriously though, don't judge anything too early...just "see" and act accordingly...and your story is too brief, so, better take stuff slow? lol

if she wanna go out with you, then that's good, keep it up and you'll know sooner or later...haha