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teongpeng
post Jul 25 2009, 12:49 AM

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QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 24 2009, 05:14 PM)
Oh right... there's one thing I forgot to mention.

If you dont like yourself. ie. You dont like what you see in the mirror. You dont like what you hear in videos of yourself.....

Then you need to make changes.

Get in control of your life. Eat well. Sleep well. Have lots of friends... and then, when you are CONFIDENT, then you would find it much easier to "be yourself".
I agree with this.


But disagree with this:
QUOTE(ezralimm @ Jul 24 2009, 05:14 PM)
In other words, the "be yourself" advice only works if "yourself" is someone who the girl finds attractive (physically/mentally/emotionally_mature). If you dont like yourself, then what attractive girl with options would like to date you???
You cannot change yourself just to be yourself so a particular girl will find u attractive. That would still get you in the wrong direction. You should strive to be yourself only better(fitness first slogan) to attract the girl that like you as you are.

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Jul 25 2009, 12:50 AM
teongpeng
post Jul 25 2009, 01:30 AM

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QUOTE(Flizzardo @ Jul 25 2009, 01:20 AM)
wats with ppl .."be ur self" "just be urself"

thing is i am a pyschopath , delusional , mental person how would i be myself infront of a girl that i have interest with..
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Simple really. Shes not for you or you're not for her. Patchee not compatible. Strive to attract a girl that fancies a psychopath, delusional mental person instead.

Added on July 25, 2009, 1:32 am
QUOTE(n00b13 @ Jul 25 2009, 12:58 AM)
Well, I see it this way: "Being yourself" is not like a coat that you can put on and take off at will. Many people do not have the self-awareness to really figure out who this "yourself" really is. Some people never figure it out.

"Be yourself" is good advice, but it's not necessarily easy to do.
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Yes. i agree. The easier advice to follow would be to .... Stop pretending to be someone you are not.

Anyway i was just uncomfortable with ezra's suggestion to improve yourself just to get a girl's attention. Sometimes even if u have already become the best that u can be.....it will still be different from what the girl u are attracting to take notice because the best you can be isnt what she is looking for.

A better option in my opinion would be to focus on bettering yourself FOR YOURSELF, and take your pick from the girls who are attracted to yourself as you are.

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Jul 25 2009, 01:39 AM
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