i've been in relationship for 1 year and 1 month.
Sometimes we will argue for minor things till the extend that i could
not tolerate his egoness. You may feel he wants to win at all time.
Of course to end the relationship for minor thing is not worth.

Izzit common to argue for couple? How far would you tolerate your partner?

This post has been edited by mango_juicy: May 18 2009, 04:46 PM

arguing is not about win, is about understanding each another.

This post has been edited by tohjg: May 18 2009, 04:50 PM

well ..it depends on what time of argument, but if really argument until quarrel kaw kaw then up to slamming car door and all stuu (u can think bout it) maybe the answer is incompatibility

and and..

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!

u tell ur gf, russia and us cold war also end edi,

u two also end la.

agree
both of u will know each other better.
if arguing, i will not talking for 2 days. first time is weird but he get to use of it and understand me more.
love matters is not always in sunshine, the storm and hurricane will perfect it.
it's the spice of love dear. you bf might show he want to win the war but believe me, he look steady but inside his heart he wounded so much.
i guess so

love is like give and take. if he only 'take', u should wisely think how to treat him. it's about balance.

love is before marriage is poison, love after marriage is heaven, but most ppl only feel the first part...if you managed to get to the second part, then ur love is

What if 1 tried to explain but the other refuse to take in?

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Added on May 18, 2009, 6:42 pmThanks for that piece of advice...
everytime when problem occurs he would just take it lightly
thought that it's a very minor thing...but it can become really
big issue since it's about understanding which he still lacks.

Though apologies is said but it's worthless since he doesn't
know wat's the issue about....so sad bout it.

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Added on May 18, 2009, 6:45 pmyou got your point...
but love is for both to be happy
Prob is with partner who doesn't tolerate with each other's weakness
Perhaps that's called love

This post has been edited by mango_juicy: May 18 2009, 06:45 PM

bf , gf will argue...

even husband and wife will also argue... There's no such thing as the PERFECT pair...

SURE got some difference here and there...

SOLVE the problem and move on...

DONT like him jus break it off... CANT tahan just change one... DONT regret until both of you got children then you find out you werent meant for each other

cold war is good sign, scold him soi kung/soi poh.

This thread belongs to Cupid Corner.

By the way, some cold war is ok, but don't too much.
My 2 years relationship cold war record was 48 hours.

Tolerate to each other and always talk to each other.

by the time i need sex normally i cave in...

This post has been edited by chamelion: May 18 2009, 08:50 PM

o.0...lolx..the longest cold war i've ever had is 6hours

I tried searching for cold war but to no avail so open this topic...

wa that's very long...my bf just called me.
Relationship is all about communication

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Added on May 18, 2009, 11:48 pmI think mine 1 hour more than yours...
i think as others said talk it out then ok ady

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Added on May 18, 2009, 11:48 pmi like so lou better

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Added on May 18, 2009, 11:51 pmHaha...ya...i got frens who are liddat. Now about 30s still haven't married yet..

This post has been edited by mango_juicy: May 18 2009, 11:51 PM

The longest I in cold war was 3 weeks.(We've been together for 4 years though now broke up d)

It's actually a good time for you to understand what you both want. Cold war certainly better than hot war where you go slaming the door, throwing all documents on floor, throw glasses on floor and bla bla bla.
At least during cold war you both get to calm down and really understand what you both want.
How far I can tolerate ? I can tolerate if and only if she can tolerate with me too. The more I tolerate the more she take advantage so need to know when you need to stand up or else this will spoilt the relationship(only for my case la)

i think COLD WAR more than 3 days ...something must be wrong...

Either you or her...

Either you guys dont bother about each other or you have another one standing by...

i CANT tahan not talking to my husband for ONE night....

*my longest will be 6-8 hours....

communication is the key word my dear

Hug, Kiss Her And Say You're Sorry For Making Her Sad
No More Next Time~

For me, one day already counted to be very very long..

Give and take for each others.. try to be udnerstanding.. talk with him nicely whats going on..

My longest record 48 hours. We are together for 6 years now, a tiny tip is look at your bf or gf like a spoil little boy/girl that need to be pamper and sometimes kindly point out their bad behaviour in a strict way. I try to understand what he was angry about and admit my weakness( pride can be harmful to the relationship) and i point out what i hate about him without accusing. Guys can be defensive when they thought you are accusing or condemning them. Well, take everything with a sense of humor if you want to grow together. Kevin Bacon (actor) once said to he maintain his relationship with his wife through this motto:
'Keep the fight clean and the sex dirty'

Clean fight means not to drag out topics that suppose to be cleared a long time already ( i think some girls always use this weapon when they want to win).

my longest record~~
5 days~~=__=||

even now i oso cold war v him again~~
haizzz......

longest record..1 1/2 days?
not pain meh after fight never talk for long time?

max 2days for things to settle down...

if more than 2days... either 1 of u very small gas...

It's normal dear, no worry, as long as that is not hurting each other alot.The couple that fights the most is the one most in love... it shows they care enough to notice the other one screwed up and care enough to mention it to the person so they can fix it. When you stop fighting it means you stopped caring.

Don't let someone become your everything, because when they're gone you have nothing! Love is never wanting to lose faith, never wanting to give up, and never truly moving on. Love is knowing and praying in the deepest part of what's left of your heart that they feel the same. If we are to judge of love by its consequences, it more nearly resembles hatred than friendship.

is normal between couple, and sometimes, this is one of the ways to show they care. but tolerance must come from both parties and not always one sided

2 mths...i finally broke my ego and apologized...we were happy again

p/s: yeah i was darn hard headed back then

Argue = Can be due to disagreement / Flaw in understanding for each other.
Solution = Agree to disagree / Communicate, make the other party understand for each other.

If theres enough understanding for each other, all these problem wont even exist.

As for me to my current relationship of 3years and 6months, the only and longest cold war we had is 3 hours.

the THIng is, I dun like arguments to occur.

Everytime when I sense one is coming, I take a deep breath n walk away eventhough how unsatisfy I feel sometimes about the matter, but no point keep on hammering on to it cos argument will then erupt.

I never like arguments because its too darn painful n hard for me.i prefer to walk away, cool down n talk over it when both r calm enough. I won't let ego thwart the way of our relationship.

nice method of having things done!

how i wish alot of the girls outside do the same...

1 week.
My ex had anger issues =/

But the thing is, sometimes the other person won't want it to be this way, they would prefer to argue n just get it all out of their system.

One of my ex, has rage issues too

Normally, I would just keep quiet, let him argue n I will calmly tell him to take back whatever he said n walk away.

hahaha...

go in from the left ear goes out from the right ear

cool...wickedly cool...

to be honest im the other kind that hates arguements...best if we juz chat it all up and be done with the problem...and accept the solution of course

uh yes of course it's common? I love him very much, he loves me very much ... it would take a catastrophe to make us break up. I'd say I would fume at him about 1.5 days

of cos no la. how can go in from left ear, go out from right ear. he was my guy so whatever he have to say, matters also.

but i just dun lik him saying stuff when he's all mad and in rage. cos u know how ppl are sometimes, they say whatever shit when they r mad. so i wont fight back, cos if i do. then the argument will become worst.

i just kept quiet and shot back at him, u better take it all back. lol.

must got communication and compromises wat. must be calm. no point yelling and biting each other head off

The way i see it, arguement is important so that both parties dont keep any unhappiness whithin themselves or they'll end up hurt badly, then split up forever..........

Now i got a very GOOD suggestion for all couples.

Since me and bf been together for 1 year + and been to many places before for dates.
So we collected all photos taken during the happy moments. Then after that we'll develope
all the sweet photos and keep 'em in an album.

Whenever we argue (usually i started 1st) then i'll look bec at the album and therefore
will appreciate our relationship more than "berkira" the minor thing with him

really no talk at all i think about 2 days? dragged on cold wars would like about a week with occasional one or two smses (tht will somehow lead to further argument or pointless replies...esp by me XD)

i think it's normal to argue but try not to say you wanna break up or ask your partner to find someone else whenever you do argue coz it's really frustrating. i know people that really took it word by word and went out with someone else when his limit is tested by then girlfriend now ex.

even if i do take out and reminise on those things that we've been through in this coming 5 years, i don't think i would have the willpower or will even think of it when we argue. but weird thing is, whenever we meet up after an argument, even if we're still upset at each other, the feelings just disappear and we'll be back to normal and even better *hehes*

2 weeks