Sigh.

Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...

As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.

My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.

1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...

All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...

I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...

Damn sad...

Wow. 1 day and there's 12 pages worth of comments already. >.<
Let me clarify some points since there are some questions directed at me.
1. I love this woman and really want to make her my wife. I just didn't expect it to cost so much.
2. I am simply complaining cause its gonna burn an entire years worth of savings on an event of only 1 day. I can see much better use for the cash.
3. Bear in mind that its only a rough estimate of what it costs so it can come up to much much more.
4. For those who think you can make more out of the "ang pow" from the wedding, its only true if your relatives are rich. Sadly my relatives are from medium to low income bracket and they have many many children (meaning more seats needed, less angpow)

You'll excuse me if I honestly do not envy the man who married the women who got them to pay exorbitant prices for a 1 maybe 2 day event. I feel it is wasteful and there is plenty you can do with the money that will see you through better times. Sadly we chinese haven't learn to throw away our damn "face" so we cannot just have simple weddings like in the western countries. Me and my fiancee want a simple wedding. However, my dad has voiced strong objection to it and he will go so far as to say he will not give his blessing if we don't give the wedding its dues.

I know some of you will say "forget bout your dad, its your life" well sorry to say I'm not a heartless ******* who will forget about the man who raised me, fed me and paid my way through life.

It sickens me that there are still people out there who can forget about their parents so easily.