May 12 2009, 09:57 AM
QUOTE(ravager877 @ May 11 2009, 07:52 PM)
Sigh.
Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...
As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.
My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.
1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...
All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...
I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...
Damn sad...
OMG....My 21st birthday juz passed through and I used about 8k on it.... =.="Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...
As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.
My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.
1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...
All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...
I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...
Damn sad...
1)its so no problem....infact is abit too lil for me. (no sarcasm....its chinese tradition but 3k seems ok lar but the mroe the merrier lar)
2)this should not be problem...juz load in 100 each
3)Get your own camera man and rent a studio then start shooting....i think i will be doing this.
4)5k is impossible.....hope u can prepare more than that....As i stated above....I used about 8k for a night's dinner to celebrate my birthday. how can a wedding cost lower than birthday??? IO am not a rich kid but I hope when comers to ceremony one can make it as grand as possible. (e.g: hiring strings quartet, making the whole thing look so grand etc)
I guess if it costed RM400 per table....you will need at least 50 of them...That is RM20k , 4 times of what you expected....But nevermind...these money should be in your account unless you dont save.....Or maybe you can ask for help from your mum or dad.
I got a friend, one year elder than me....He married at 18 years old when he make his wife pregnant.... he made a small wedding dinner with only 11 tables....His dad paid for him....swap card for RM14k.... BTW the whole thing is average nia......
My father got a friend....son marriage no enough money to pay ...borrow RM500 from my dad and kater run away after his son married.....only after 12 years later.... He appeared and pay back RM 80 per month.....
5) yea...alcohols...I loved alcohols...... You can always subsitute them with red wines from carrefour.....
hope it helps...
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