I'd say cut your cloth according to your coat. If you find it technically feasible to save up enough for the wedding costs involved, then I think by all means, you should spend on such an important occasion with an open heart. However, if you truly are hardpressed, to the extent that you might have to borrow money to satisfy your fiancee's wishes, & she does not care about that, then yes.....you do have a point.

I'd have to agree with you on this though, cos iirc from the previous thread, TS salary is around RM3K+. With that kinda budget, its probably possible to save up in a year, unless TS got lots of overheads. Best thing would be to compromise I guess, perhaps discuss with your fiance to have a smaller reception for close family?

Hmm....at 1st I thought TS was justified, but then again, looking over the situation & all, this is how I see it:-

1) A wedding is a once in a lifetime event for a couple. Granted, some ppl (like TS, yourself & to an extent mtself too perhaps) dont see it as a "big deal" & would prefer keeping the cash for other uses rather than splurge on a lavish wedding.
2) TS fiance on the other hand, thinks otherwise, which is in my opinion is equally acceptable. Come to think about it, even I would feel kinda sad 20 years down the road if I dont even have decent wedding pics
3) TS has relatively decent financial means
4) TS has time to save up
5) Above 2 points show that TS has the means to fulfill his fiances wishes without having to go to any extreme options (borrowing from ah long etc) & yet is reluctant to. Probably this is what peeved off his fiance to begin with.

This post has been edited by joe_star: May 12 2009, 05:31 PM