i hv 1 yr relationship wif my current bf. previously i hv 2 exs...and i did hv intercourse with both of them. i am no longer love them and only love my current bf.. however, it seems lik my current bf not able to forget my past thing because i had intercourse with someoone before that. i kno he did mind bout that i been 'touched' by other ppl. i feel sad of it and i kno he feel sad as well...he very pamper and sayang me..during this 1 yr,i kno he try his best to 4get it but somehow those thing will haunt him. i really dunno how 2 do and feel hopeless.

Anyone can give advise to me? how i can help myself and my bf? please dont give the advise to separate. all the while, we have been very good in evrything but not in this only.

please help

have more sex with him.

tats the only cure

double edged sword, could go either way

if he really love u, he should accept u as u are...

like my gf, i accept her whatever she is.

show him more love or do smthing that he'll never forget u.

What you say is true.. but If he cant forget your past, theres no point u still hang on, right? ( this is when u think that having intercourse with others is alright, so u both just move on)

Things like this already happen not only 1 time but 2. It needs time for him to forget n accept it.
I guess you shud think about yourself too.
If you really like this guy, i suggest that you commit to the fullest to this guy only n not thinking about others anymore! ( this is when u think that youll change n make him believe you that he is the only guy for you)

Also, what if you break up again, will the next guy treat you the same or will u haunt the next guy by saying u had it 3 times b4 him? ( this is when your scared that no1 wants you or similar situation that will happen to your next bf afta this)

Decision is yours. What you think is right then just do it, if not ull regret in your life. We are here just giving you some of our views n opinions.

agree agree....fully commit urself to tis guy...shower him wit love and care....time will make him 4get about it.....

well... i sort of understand what he feels like

you can think of this problem this way as well...

imagine you're in a relationship and you caught your gf or wife sleeping with another guy only once

and you decide to lie to yourself that you'll forgive her but yet you can't forget

it is easy to forgive but it is very difficult to forget

what you can do is like what others say.. commit yourself to him

and most importantly... make him feel that you are entirely his

This post has been edited by Hejime: Apr 14 2009, 01:27 PM

I agree with you too

Easily forgive, but its hard to forget.
I guess even you yourself also cant forget right suzanne2196.

try to give him something special that u nvr give to ur exs...

i think that you have put the wrong situation wit TS....no1 can forget if a person gf/wife caught sleeping wit another guy...you are in a relationship and ur gf backstab u..
but TS situation is, her bf can forget her past....not caught her sleeping wit other guys while in their relationship.....

no offends but forgetting the past is much easier than forgetting a backstab...

When he first dating you, he shud have accepct what u are now. A brand new you. You past should not be dragged into it.

Even prisoners are given a clean and fresh start. Plus ur not even commiting a crime at the past at all.

History are meant as a guidance for us to improve in the future. Not a reference event that will haunt us forever.

If ur commited to him i dont see any reason for him to mind about what u are in the pass. If he still cant get through his mind, the problem is his and not yours. There is nothing u can do if a cow doesnt wanna eat grass.

your bf really suck.. i also say if her really love u he should accept what ur.. now just a tiny mistake u do... an infect that is your pass and i understand u dun wish to do that as well rite.. what world your bf came, do he have atime machine came from year 1970's hum.. i dun think your bf a fair guy.. not worth it.. sorry im that direct

you mean, anal?

try buttsek him...

i know the situation but i'm thinking in a similar way the guy is having problem right now

and her bf cannot forget about her past

This post has been edited by Hejime: Apr 14 2009, 01:58 PM

ROFL! I hardly laugh on that one

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Added on April 14, 2009, 2:01 pmFor me as a guy... TS, You shouldn't told him bout your past time. Just keep it secret.

This post has been edited by xtrifor: Apr 14 2009, 02:01 PM

nvm... come to me =)

its veli hard u know ur bf can forget the past. i tink you got tell him so details. if not he wont so mind 1.

tell ur bf to let it go if he really love her very much...a past is a past.....there are no benefit if ur bf keep thinking about it....a tiny mistake wont coz the earth crash into the sun....

and both of u love each other and getting well along....

if he still cant 4get bout it, seek a professional advice....it helps.

give him a nice baby

this would be a great idea...
TS should take in serious consideration about having a baby wit your bf ....once tie the knot...its a new beginning...

baby?lol....but juz hope u dun so playful on nextime...if u rly think he is the one that u will stay forever, commit it and don repeat the wrong again....i believe that if u commit urself to him,,...he will feel it...

my bf and i so happen to have just spoken about this. he said that he doesnt mind and when i asked him about his, he said that what is past is past and we should focus on 'us' right now. i am so thankful to have such a bf he figured that although i am just kaypo and want to ask for fun, it probably wouldnt do any good later

solution: give it more time and see how it goes, else there is nothing u can do to change things. else, tembak him back and say that the same thing (bbut if he's virgin, then backfire la )

All he need is time, time is a best antidote to heal everything,if you wanted to 4get something you also need sometime,then this kinda big problem he need more time to 4get.
All you have to do is treat him better thn b4 to let him know that you are love him........if you adi do all these thing he still so care about ur past, then you got no choice, in this kind of situation both of you still want together will only suffer.......
so you will know wat to do...........the best way is only break up

You made the mistake of telling him about your past relationships...

Next time don't do that... not virgin tell him it was accident during sports or some other excuse.

edit:

This might be hurtful but IMHO probably your BF sees you as defective.



This post has been edited by aaronpang: Apr 14 2009, 02:31 PM

tell him ypu really love him...
all human makes mistakes..
maybe cant consider as mistake la.....
show to him that u really sayang him...
try to make him not remembering the past....

BUTTSECKS???!! HAHAHAHAHHAHA...
WTF MAN!!

thanks for ur opinions...actly both of us juz feel reluctant to giv up this relationship bcoz of my past thing...i rly dunno how long the time he need to recover from this situation...

i do commit and finger cross that he able to 4get bout it

yup..i will..by the way..do u face such situation b4 that?i hope to kno wat u all guyz think bout it

professional advice?whr?

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Added on April 14, 2009, 2:42 pmhope my bf will lik ur bf too..
it has been 1yr++...hopefully it doesnt continue to make him suffer

This post has been edited by suzanne2196: Apr 14 2009, 02:42 PM

Hi Suzzane,

For guys, it is almost impossible to forget what my gf or now wife had done (lost virginity) before marrying me. (based on my own experiences!)

It is better not to tell all about your past, if you feel it will hurt and damage your relationship with him.


Since he already knew about your past, that it is up to him to "recover and heal" his mind.

No matter what you do or want to do for him, it will not change what he can do for himself first.

He must let go his "own" feeling first or else there will not be a happy marriage later on. Both will suffers!

If he really love you, he should let it past. (almost impossible)

Sorry to say this, maybe he still "searching" for his gf or life partner and you are just "occupying" at the moment.

dear TS, you really need to have a nice talk to your bf about this, he still a virgin?

if not, why he so mind about your past? your past already past.. now is what you are for him..

my bf also say so, he don't care my past.. just care now..

we cant turn back the time, and when we love a guy, we will do watever right?

i'm not sure where u can get it in malaysia....(marriage consultant got la )

most of the advice for relationship porblem i seek is from the internet and books(reading books is good to improve the relation)...

hmm, if he really loves u, don't think he should mind.
ur bf still virgin?

alex...how u 4get ur wife past thing?mayb u can share wif us n suzanne as well

let him have sex with some other girls, so its fair for him. (if he is a virgin) if not then tell him what about his past??

Hmm, your bf really has to let go. Though I do understand how he thinks, but the past is a history. He has to accept it if not, it's hard to continue this relationship.

Do shower him with love. Eventually he might be able to forget. Wish you luck~ I hope you two really get along forever leh.

er, how do lover shower give back virginity?

i'm sorry. i'm on her bf side. thinking about my girl facking and moaning with other guys make me wanna vomit.

+9000

Is your BF a kid?
If he really LOVES you, he won't mind

Oh well, i know i won't mind as long as the other party loves me too ......
Tell him, that our eyes are place infront instead of the back of our head because we are suppose to look toward the front/future instead looking behind/the past...

TS +u+u+u to keep up the good work and don't never ever give up on keep trying.....someday, ur bf will realize how much u love him and how foolish of him cant let go of the past instead of seeing the future of u both....

+U+U+U+U+U

relationship = headache

tell him the fact that both of you not married, he not the best of everyone .

if the girl did not have any sex with previous mens, then it shouldn't be his turn to have sex with you. understand?

make it easy with crappy english. you don't have sex with both ex , meaning the lady is keeping her virgin till marriage. If u did have sex with both ex then only he have the chance to have sex with you. UNLESS he is your first love.

Tell him this. He is a KID for sure, such an idiot. Ask him to go for fat ugly chick he really mind about that.

but if lik wat cracksys said...wat will u think ya? i understand his painful but i rly dunno wat to do...

Thanks alot...u rly help me alot..

Kesian punya bf. Must you have XXX with every single bf u have? haha just curious. lol.

this wont do gal....u only will make him to bcom more gatal....wat if in the future ur bf bcom a sex hunger...can u accept him have sex wit any gal then??

Edited.

P/S: sry cracksys...i quote the wrong post..didnt realize it ......very very sry for any misunderstanding and trouble cause by me to you

This post has been edited by sai86: Apr 14 2009, 09:15 PM

wtf. did you even read my post before quoting it?

The past is the past, you both are suppose to create memories of the present and look into the future. He will have to look at all your good points and a happy future together instead of just think of the past incidents. It's quite difficult for you to do anything besides being yourself and loving him. A person's mind is controlled by themselves.

you mean past couple of incidents and orgasm?

This post has been edited by cracksys: Apr 14 2009, 09:24 PM

So if the guy were you, wat you going to do then? Things already happened, past is a past. Wat for you keep thinking it? Can't u use ur imagination a better way than thinking ur current GF farking a guy and moan?

Think of how to make my current gf happy every single day and every single moment together.....

(Think of wat "style'" to use next time-Juz kidding)

find another one. if i can keep my di-k before marriage, so should my future wife.

of course, that was "if i were the guy"

my argument immediately become invalid if the guy too have past incidents

my opinion, just dun talk abt tht issue.dun even mention it.when ur bf high already, he wont think of all those also.if he still wanna talk abt it, straight away french kiss him until he cant talk la i understand that u're just being honest and u feel guilty to lie to ur current bf that u're not virgin,thts y u told him the truth. u deserve my respect though

my own thoughts, if my future gf can 'lead' me, not bad also

I agree...TS sure do deserve respect from all of us being honest,patient and understanding at the same moment. And has the will to solve problem in d relationships......
Ur bf sure is a lucky guy as I am...got a gf that can lead me ....if not..now i still a Mr. Do-Stupid Thing...

guys ..do you know ur gf is virgin or not?meant if you're doing sex?if not..then no need to worried lorh..

suzanne
sorry to ask you....you tell e'thing about you?about your past ?actually you have to respect urself..no need to tell e'thing about your secret expecially man/boy/bf/also hubby.

i know it's hurt...rasa bersalah always in ur heart..it's happen to me b4...

This post has been edited by nikky_luq: Apr 14 2009, 10:24 PM

show more care and love through the heart and give him more time. Encourage him as well.

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Added on April 14, 2009, 10:57 pmEveryone have past don't he have past as well...

This post has been edited by magentus2002: Apr 14 2009, 10:57 PM

huh?? u mean ur gf same situation lik me? correct me if i m wrong >.< i m quite blur now..sleepy dy

of coz when he ask me..i do honest to him...i dun wan to lie to him...

no la...u both have d same determination and sacrifice alot for your partner....which make me realize how good my gf been treating me and how important she is to me....

i hope ur bf soon will be touch by ur love,care,sacrifices and what you have done for him......
if ur bf still stuborn..ask him to contact me via here and i giv him a lesson of life he will never 4get

btw, u can also ask one of his best fren to advice him (some1 trustworthy, mature/ not some cica boy which makes matter worse)...
even through this normally is hard to work....you got to try anything tat can be done....or consult his parents(if his parent is a understanding ppl, not outdate)...

but all in all....as all the reply here said...TIME will prove it as this matter can only be resolved by ur bf alone...what u can do is try to change what he mind about your past....Dun ever give up on HIM!!!

Wish you all the best and have a nice day ever after...

Not completely true.

TS has to do extra things with her BF that she didn't do with her previous ex'es. e.g. if your ex you never blow them, then you gotta blow your current bf. Or you gotta dress up in his favorite uniform or do his favorite sex act like tie-up or mild bondage or etc. Then at least he will feel like you are doing "something" for him only.

if he truly loves you, he will accept your past.

did you try giving him a good head yet?

blow him until he cums?

Cough cough that's the thing that
I can't let go my gf coz she really good at it

Btw TS, as others said before.
If he really really love you, he shouldn't mind about your past
because what past is past. He can't change the past and tell him don't
be such sensitive. What a lame guy.. haiz, it's better to think about now and future
rather than think something already past and over.

you bf is obviously a virgin.
if he's not, and he's complaining, then hes probably lousy in bed, or has a TINY sword, therefore he is scared you will forever compare his inability to satisfy your lust, with your past bf's. or that someday you'll tell him 'You SUCK in BED!!' when youre having PMS.

This post has been edited by benjinn: Apr 15 2009, 12:31 PM

Go for revirginise surgery and ask him to pay for it.

He feel tak syok cos not him to get ur virginity.

Huh are you willing to pay several thousand just for that?
Duh, don't waste your money for some guy that can't accept the past.

That's what happen when u make love with someone when u yourself don't know wheater he's your life partner.
Anyway, good luck.

you obviously havent made love

non of your bisness

This post has been edited by ac_N1: Apr 15 2009, 12:43 PM

Guys who can't accept that their girl has had sex before are pansies

it wasnt a question. it was a statement.

He does not love u enough....

+1

+1 agree!

It wasnt an answer. It's a curse.

180 degree turn.
wuss.

Just that u r a retard and understands thing differently.

thats how you curse?
wimp?

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Added on April 15, 2009, 12:48 pmCalm down

This post has been edited by benjinn: Apr 15 2009, 12:48 PM

best post in the thread award!

Hey hey.. chills ok.

Azim?

as i said u see, hear, read and understand things differently.

Azim??

Sorry, wrong person. I thought you were him.

Miza??

ok enough out of topic

TS mentioned that she didnt have intercourse with both of her prev ex..
but she had intercourse with someoone before that..
that wats bugging ur Bf..who is that guy to TS..n why you had intercourse with him..

eh TS mentioned that she did have intercourse with both of your previous ex-bf la.

pai seh..read wrong ly..hehe

ok. let me try and hear,listen and understand things your way.

you are blaming her because she never gave a thought when she was making love as to whether that person would be her life partner.
How in hell would you know? unless you were marrying her the next day. and who are you to say such a thing? its her life, not yours.

then you say guys who cant accept girls who have made love are pansies.
you should really learn to hear,listen,READ, and understand yourself first.

until then, i know you'll have your hands and lots of videos to keep you company until you find your life partner, who will dump you right after making love. now thats a curse, nincompoop.

This post has been edited by benjinn: Apr 15 2009, 04:12 PM

English: F

then i'm absolutely sure that you wouldn't mind a worn out whore as ur gf.

Have you explained why and how did you intercourse with someone?
In this situation, usually it is hard for MALE to accept.
Honestly, the reason most of them can't accept and never admit is they're selfish.
Nobody is willing to share much of their own 'things'.
It did happened commonly especially those who just started in a relationship will easily lose control and intercourse.
What if they break 1 day? Usually male will never consider this question because most of them don't care much.

There are many cases similar to yours nowadays.
You should really seek for his understanding that your past is PAST. Everyone made mistake and it does take very long time for a guy who really loves you to accept.

If you think that he is the right one you are seeking for, you should be very patient in making him understand and deepen the feelings between you and him.

Cheer up and good luck in your relationship.

ask him this question back;

how bout if you had intercourse with 2 other girls and then it haunts me back?

if he wan a virgin should date girls around 16...or...hmmmmm

if the ex and u got nothing to do with each other anymore...let him know tht, let him know he owns u, might feel alot better i think...

means before this he is virgin ?

if yes, u should dump him.

if no, ask him fuk-off

Once you want to build another bridge...

It is always best, if the time lapse is very far, construct the bridge with totally new technology and new design, so that it will be long lasting for future

Having sex doesn't make the person any better or any worse. Women are not products you "buy" and devalue after you "use" them. If you want to think of women as objects instead of as a human, then that's up to you la. Don't complain when you're a 40 year old virgin still fapping at videos of Maria Ozawa.

A girl's charm is much more than a piece of membrane...

She is much more than just down there, you know...

Think of her heart

I don't think he'll understand la. His brain is probably smaller than his p3nis, and I'm not saying its big also

mau virgin date a 16 year old? wat a naive thinking.. u think those under 16 r all virgin meh.. dont judge the book by the cover .. some already pro at this stuff.. be it virgin or not.. u like a women for who she is .. not her virginity.. people make mistake in life.. dont tell me u never make mistake.. wat giv the right to man to screw every gals and c and demand every gal he screw is a virgin.. wat is there for a gal.. is virginity tat important?
to those who noes chinese read this to those who dont ask some1 to translate..

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「有呀！」「有？有會那麼瘦，簡直不成人樣。」媽媽捨不得的說。淑靜把事情從頭到尾說給媽媽聽，媽媽聽的大發雷霆， 「跟他離婚，我們家這一口飯給妳。」 「媽，妳不要生氣
「妳怎麼那麼傻，當初為什麼不告訴媽媽，媽媽可以帶妳去做手術。」啦！這是我選的，我就該承擔。「我也沒想那麼多。」

那妳現在怎麼辦？一懷孕就拿掉？妳不知道這比生小孩還要傷身體嗎？」



媽媽真擔心才二十二歲的淑靜怎麼過!

未來幾十年的婚姻生活？



「媽，我也不知道該怎麼辦？」她喑喑咽咽的哭起來。

媽媽拍拍她的肩，「別哭，媽媽帶妳去醫院裝避孕器。既然博正不愛惜妳，

妳要愛惜妳自己，知道嗎？」



淑靜利用果菜市場休假期間回去看小孩，小姑常常向她提起一個男孩子。

淑靜了解小姑戀愛了，可是那個男孩竟比小姑小三歲，公婆當然不答應。



二日來，她觀察小姑每天早上都會從皮包裡拿個像避孕藥丸的東西吃，

淑靜又不敢私自打開小姑的皮包，只好回去時再告訴博正。

「真有這種事？」博正不大相信。「這只是我的猜測。博正，你要不要叫小姑來我們這邊問看看？」

「嗯∼我會打電話給她，先騙她說要帶她去玩，等她來了再問吧！」

博正拿電話家，終於她上勾了，就等她星期日來的時候再說。



「二哥，二嫂，我來了。」博美一進門就找他們。

看到小姑來了，淑靜好高興，「妳來了呀！來，坐。」

博正從房裡出來，「坐車會不會累？」

博美接下二嫂的飲料，「不會，二哥，你要帶我到哪裡去玩？」

「看妳想去哪裡玩，二哥就帶妳去；不過妳要老實的回答二哥的問題。」

博正神色凝重的說。

「幹嘛！二哥，表情那麼嚴肅，好吧！你問。」博美不知死活的喝著飲料。

「聽爸媽說妳交了一個男朋友？」

「嗯！」

「而且還小妳三歲？」

「嗯！」

「你們進展到什麼地步了？牽手？接吻？還是已經……發生關係？」

「我…..」博美不知該怎麼說？



博正看到妹妹的表情和支支吾吾的說不出話來，大概也知道答案。

「爸媽絕不會答應妳嫁給一個小妳三歲的男人，妳知道吧！」

「我頂多不嫁。」博美嘔氣的說。

「不嫁？就跟那個混小子一直鬼混下去？」博正對著妹妹吼。

從來沒有被哥哥罵過的博美，哭了起來。



淑靜坐在她旁邊安慰博美：「小姑，妳哥哥是關心妳，女人總是老的比較快，

他怕到時妳嫁過去，人老珠黃時，那個男孩子會拋棄妳，了解嗎？」

「二嫂，我知道，可是我沒辦法斷啊！我把一切都給他了。」

博美講到這裡越哭越大聲。

「沒有關係，二嫂帶妳去做處女膜手術，只要妳跟他不再往來，好不好？

我們可以再重新開始?」淑靜抱著她。



過了三個月，博美和那個男孩子總算不再往來，

淑靜陪著博美去一家整形外科做處女膜整形回到家，博美拉著淑靜的手，「二嫂，

謝謝妳。」淑靜只是笑一笑。

「博美，妳二嫂已經帶妳去做了手術，以後不管怎樣都不能再隨便和男人上床，

除非新婚之夜才可以，知不知道？」

「二哥，我知道啦！」博美答應二哥，經過這次教訓，她不會再重蹈覆策了。



過了一年，博美經由朋友介紹認識了一個男孩，交往半年，男方說他三十二歲年紀不小了，

要到博美的家提親，博美也答應。



訂婚後，男孩子都會暗示博美想要進一步的發展，但是博美想起二哥的叮嚀，都拒絕他。

自從淑靜帶著博美去做手術後，兩人的關係比姊妹還要親。



3月後博美嫁出去了，淑靜很擔心博美的整形手術不知道會不會成功？

在博美上禮車前，小聲的說：「小姑，明天早上記得打電話給我。」

一早，淑靜就待在電話旁等候，婆婆來叫淑靜去掃地，洗衣，

博正都會替淑靜回答：「媽，我來就好。」

婆婆看著他們兩人感情什麼時候變這麼好，「不用了。」說完就走。



終於鈴聲響了，淑靜馬上接起電話，「喂，小姑……成功了嗎？…真的……好，再見。」

「怎樣？有成功嗎？」博正緊張的問她。

「嗯！成功了。」淑靜笑一笑

博正高興的抱著淑靜，「謝謝妳。」

推開了博正，淑靜苦笑著，「不用謝我，我只是不想再有第二個吳淑靜。」

說完就拿起掃把掃地。



博正聽完淑靜的話，才知道自己傷害她有多深。

他下定決心，從現在開始，他要好好的愛她。



淑靜最近這幾個月的月經都不順，不是太早就是太晚，她不在意；

直到這次的月經血流量多的讓她雙腳發軟，她才去看醫生。



黃太太，妳這種情形已經多久？」醫生看到淑靜從內診室出來，問她。

淑靜坐在椅子上，「大概將近一年了。」

「妳怎麼拖那麼久才來？妳有拿過小孩吧？刮除不乾淨，

再加上傷到子宮壁，妳的子宮裡長瘤，妳最好盡快開刀，要不然對妳不好喔！」醫生建議她。

「醫生，那瘤是良性的還是惡性的？」

「這要等妳開刀後拿去檢驗才知道。」



她六神無主的坐在客廳，連博正回來了她也不知道。

博正脫下外套，看淑靜呆呆的坐在那裡一動也不動，親一下她的臉，

「為了公司的事心情不好？」被突來的親吻驚醒的淑靜，

一想到她和博正好不容易才剛開始的甜蜜生活，萬一在開刀中不幸走了，

那她怎麼走的開？「妳怎麼哭了？什麼事讓妳這樣苦惱？」

博正擦擦她的淚。「我要開刀。」

「開刀？為什麼要開刀？」博正看她好好的。

「因為以前拿孩子太多次了，刮除不乾淨，再加上傷到子宮，我的子宮裡長瘤。」

淑靜把醫生診斷的話說給博正聽。

博正不敢相信自己以前的作為竟然造成淑靜現在的傷害那麼大，

「什麼時候開刀？我陪妳。」

「不用了，以前我生病你也沒陪我，這次我自己去就好。」淑靜不敢奢望。

「淑靜，妳不要這樣好不好？我陪妳去，從頭到尾陪妳。」

博正為自己的不是開始後悔。



開刀房前，淑靜的媽媽看到博正緊張的走來走去，

不屑的說：「博正，你現在走來走去是走真的？還是走給別人看的？要不是你醋桶那

麼大，逼著淑靜一懷孕就拿掉，她今天會躺在開刀房任人宰割嗎？我是把話跟你講在前面，

淑靜有個三長兩短，可別怪我不客氣。」



博美看到親家母生氣的樣子，連忙出來替哥哥說情，

「親家母，我二嫂不會有事的，二哥最近也對二嫂很好。」

「最近才對她好有什麼用，平時不珍惜。」淑靜的媽媽替女兒打抱不平。

「媽，對不起，我知道錯了，請妳原諒我。」

博正一臉慚愧的站在丈母娘面前讓她數落



過了二個小時「吳淑靜的家屬」護士門口喊。

看到有人走過來，「你們是吳淑靜的家屬？她已經在恢復室，看誰要過去陪她？」

淑靜的媽媽雖然想要進去，但她知道目前淑靜最想看的人是誰，所以就叫博正進去。



博正跟著護士來到淑靜的病床旁，淑靜的麻醉藥劑還沒退，躺在病床上像睡著一樣，

消瘦的臉經過開刀更加沒有血色。

博正深呼吸盡量不讓眼淚留下來。他聽護士的話，盡量跟淑靜說話不要讓她睡著。

淑靜隨著麻醉藥劑漸漸退了，身體的病痛也越來越難過，她拉扯床巾，

一直搖頭喊痛。



博正一夜沒睡陪著她，這就是他種下的孽，也是他要承受的果。

可是淑靜受的苦比他還多。



第二天，醫生來探房，簡單的和淑靜問幾句話後，叫博正出來。

「你太太的檢驗報告出來了，是惡性腫瘤，而且已經轉變成癌症。」

博正不敢相信，「會不會檢驗錯了？」

醫生搖搖頭，「黃先生，她剩下的日子不多，好好陪她吧！」

看到博正進來，淑靜問他，「博正，醫生跟你說什麼？怎麼那麼久。」

「沒事，他只是說這幾天傷口好了就可以出院了，我剛剛去打電話給媽媽，

告訴她這個好消息。」

「喔！是這樣。我想睡了，可不可以請你幫我把床搖下來一點。」

「好。」博正慢慢地把床搖下來，看著淑靜睡了，眼淚一滴滴的掉。





「你還我女兒來…還我女兒來……她好好的一個人嫁到你們家，做牛做馬，

毫無怨尤……你還這樣對待她……你還是人嗎？」博正跪在靈前，任由丈母娘怎麼

打，怎麼罵，他都不還手也不還口。



是他對不起她，是他害她年紀輕輕的就這麼走了。

「親家母，別打了，我知道這對妳很不公平，可是人死不能復生，妳就別再傷心了。」

博正的爸爸扶起她。



「把她送回花蓮。」淑靜的媽媽很痛心的說。

博正的媽媽一聽到馬上反對，「不行，親家母，她嫁到我們家來就是我們的人了，

怎麼可以把她送回去？」



「你們的人？你們有當她是你們的人嗎？大冷天的叫她一個人洗一大桶的衣服，對她

喚東喚西的，一下子要她做這個，一下子要她做那個，我看她是你們的僕人吧！」

淑靜的媽媽把淑靜回娘家時說的苦處全說出來。

「妳……」博正的媽媽說不出話。



「我地已經買好了，她生前都沒人疼，死後你們會去看她嗎？」

「媽，我求求妳，把她留下來好不好？」博正跪在淑靜的媽媽面前。



「博正，不是我要把你們分開,可是你有沒有想過，當你硬拖著淑靜去墮胎時，淑靜

也是像你現在求我的樣子在哀求你，求你相信她，求你讓她生下孩子，可是你是怎麼對

待她的？她每次一懷孕，你就帶她去墮胎。」



博正的爸爸一聽到親家母的話，走過去揍博正一拳，

「你這個畜生，你竟敢這樣對待淑靜，看我怎麼修理你。」

他一拳一拳的揍在博正的身上，直到博文強拉開爸爸。



「親家母，妳帶淑靜回去吧！」博正的爸爸答應她。

今天是淑靜的忌日，博正牽著孩子來花蓮祭拜她。

淑靜的媽媽正彎著腰拔著雜草，口中念念有詞的對著女兒說話。



聽到一聲「媽。」她回過頭看到博正和孫子，不理會他們，繼續手上的動作，

「你來這裡做什麼？你不覺得已經來不及了嗎？」



博正把鮮花放在瓶子裡，因為淑靜在過世前，曾對他說：「博正，我沒有作對不起你的事，

你要相信我。萬一我死了，可以送我一對鮮花嗎？」

即使是每天一束花他都願意，只要淑靜可以活過來可是已經來不及了。



「這時淑靜的媽媽從袋子裡拿出一本厚厚的書交給博正。

∼我遇到那個叫博正的男孩，我! 好喜歡他…………



今天騎車和人家相撞，右腳的傷口好大，痛死了，全身酸痛，而且月經也來了，好

奇怪，才十天而已怎麼就來了？……………



∼∼博正今天帶我去海邊玩，全身曬的紅通通的，下次要去海邊一定要記得擦防曬油………



∼∼昨天晚上和博正睡在一起，第一次好痛喔！

可是為什麼我沒有流血呢？奇怪，大家不是都說會流血的嗎？

博正會不會誤以為我不是處女呀？…………



∼∼糟糕，月經已經超過一個月都沒來，怎麼辦？

會不會是懷孕了？………….



∼∼博正聽到我懷孕了，說要娶我，我好高興，可是他是因為愛我才娶我？

還是因為肚子裡的小孩呢？……



∼∼明天就要結婚了，我一定會好好的愛他，也會愛他的家人………淑－靜－」



博正概略的看完整本日記，大聲的喊著她的名字。

「對不起，我對不起妳。妳原諒我好不好？淑靜……..」他跪在地上把頭一直撞墓碑。



「起來吧！她最愛的人是你，每次她回來說起你家的事，雖然很傷心，

但她都一一承受起來。只要你相信她，我想她在九泉之下會瞑目的。」

淑靜的媽媽拉他起來.



博正坐在地上，扯著頭髮，「我現在才相信她，已經太慢了。」

淑靜的媽媽拉下博正的手，「博正，不會太慢，淑靜這孩子心很軟，

只要你真心誠意的相信她，她一定會原諒你的。」



每年，淑靜的墓前都會有一個男人，彎著身，拔著雜草，口中喃喃有辭的對她說話。







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思念總在分手後....



為何總在失去後,才發現那是你的最愛!!



男人就是這樣,總是希望自己的女人是處女....第一次就是要給他!!



但他們有沒有想過,若是處女又不見得是第一次...(可以去重做一個)



若不是處女又不一定不是第一次...(可能不小心傷到)



話又說回來,男人希望自己的老婆是處女,



自己又喜歡在婚前多玩幾個,這不是很矛盾嗎?



由此可見,男人最自私....(當然也有少部份優質男性)



但願像這樣的故事,能警惕各位男士,別讓它發生在你身上...



好好愛惜你身邊的她吧



愛她 疼她 多照顧她



這個故事我看了好多次.............



他真的很感人~~~~~~