i am gona meet my bf's parents this saturday in a ceremony,i am quite nervous and not sure what to do,as far as i am concern,my bf's whole family(including my bf) doesnt really talk much,the whole family are like those very quiet type,which is totally opposite from my own family,i am worry that i cant communicate with them well,what if they dont ask me question and dont talk to me?and all of us really keep quiet without talking?i guess the situation will be very awkward.and i cant think of any suitable topic to talk to them

also i will be sitting with them alone for few hours without my bf beside me,girls,pls teach me how to handle this kind of situation

Haha...this situation happens to me too. It for the starting, you will felt that your bf family does not like you as they didn'y talk to you. But no worries. When they are quite, does not means they don't like you.
My bf has a sister. So I'll talk to her. After talking to her, sometimes the parents will join and sometimes don't. But if join also talk not much.
You will adapt to it later.

but the problem now is that my bf only got brothers,and i went out once with his brothers to have dinner and movie,the whole trip was like they dont even speak one word to me,and they dont really speak among themself too,the whole atmosphere is very weird,this is totally different from my family,i am not used to their style,and that time my bf was with me,the event for this coming saturday my bf wont be with me,so i am very worry what should i do?should i talk to them or just keep quiet?will they think that i am rude if i just keep quiet?even if i want to talk i am not sure what to talk about

show more skin definately his parents will like u

If you ask them, they will only reply you En, ah, and etc...
If you want to be with your bf, you need to adapt to his family calture.
But that's when you with the family only.

same situation here la...i felt the same as u before.. my gf family very quiet oso 1 la... once u get use to it then ok edi... no problem

u can ask things like "how is work?" or start something related to the news, or something to do with their hobby. usually this kind of topic will bring up discussion. ask ur bf what ur parents like and do a bit of research about it. if u dont know much about the hobby, u can start ur conversation like "uncle i heard that u like to do...., may i know how it works?"

btw, dress nicer (proper), be careful of small manners & bring some small gifts too. i'm somehow careless and my gf's parents thinks negative about me now

hurm.. im going to meet my bf family for the second time this 26/4
the first meeting dosent went very well..

so i kinda need this second chance to win their heart..

his family also this kinda type of family.. so, u did mention gifts.. but wut kinda huh?

mind to share? cannot bring food, since his family is going to kenduri (makan2) on that day..

i want to be nice n polite, without been seen like trying tooo Hard..

kinda need ur help here too =)

things like chicken essence, bird nest, or some nice biscuit etc is good, try to check with ur bf about their likings? if u buy food then should get something that they can enjoy it later. as long as u fit well into the culture and show ur caring to them should be ok. not sure this will apply to ur bf's family but details like take food for the parents (during meal) is good for chinese family. hope u can score their hearts cant really give u much advise. hope my tips help.

This post has been edited by B-Mecha: Apr 6 2009, 12:56 PM

If you can help out with the dishes after dinner, or if you're there early you can help out in the cooking

6 Golden tips to win your Parents In-law.

1. You can show your skill by offer to help with any cleaning, sweeping, dusting or mopping.
Mothers always like girls that are good at housework (minimum).

2. If you can help with the cooking, lagi best. Offer to skin, chop, clean food like fish, meat, fruits. You can also help boil drinking water.

3. Don't forget to help cleanup. Wash & rinse the dishes & table cloth. For extra points, do the laundry by hand too.

4. You can also offer massage, "Auntie & Uncle, you look so tired. Come I give you some foot reflexlogy".

5. Offer to babysit the kids. Wash, feed & clothe the kids. Teach them some homework. Show your potential as a future mother.

6. Dress sensibly. You are not going to Zouk as a playboy bunny.
Try to pad your hips area with a small rolledup sarong. Mothers like girls that have big hips (good child rearing sign).

This post has been edited by Cowhide: Apr 6 2009, 02:18 PM

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dun worry much... just keep on silent lo.. heard this word b4 <talk more will make u wrong more> >p

Heard this word? - Keeping quiet will make parents in-law think, "We hope for a hardworking daughter in-law, but my boy found setongkol kayu ."

R u sure?


TS,

Just act naturally n dun forget to greet each of them n smile... Wave n smile!! Wave and smile, guys!!

I agree! Wave & Smile just like GT Queens!
Everybody loves GT Queens!

hi..i was wondering around and i saw this..interesting topic huh
and u have a nice nickname (donkey) lol
Actually, why dont u just ask ur bf what is currently happening in his family?
this shows ur concern towards his family and also how much ur bf cares about u (to let the parents know that their son is serious and not play play)
thanks my concerns

Just Be Youself? Better be nice and polite. Don't overdo laa

I guess women just have this unstoppable urge to talk, eh?

hehe..just be steady and try talking with the parent

i also talking with my bf parent when my bf not home