Mar 23 2009, 03:19 PM
QUOTE(Buggo @ Mar 23 2009, 01:23 PM)
I would assume most of the replies telling him to keep the baby and live happily ever after with no worries, are from immature people who had no idea whatsoever about responsibilities, both financially and emotionally as well as the time involved (not to mention the normal 9-5 working hours). Learn to be realistic.
He has only worked for 1 year. He has near to ZERO savings (anything less than 4 months of your own salary is NOT savings to be worth mentioning) and he has only been with the gf for 1 year. That is HARDLY STABLE.
For Gods sake, THINK with your brains. Ethics play no part whatsoever in this scenario if you cant even make it for the first FIVE years.
Unfortunately we live in a place where everything needs money. It is no longer those days where raising a child means adding one more bowl of rice.He has only worked for 1 year. He has near to ZERO savings (anything less than 4 months of your own salary is NOT savings to be worth mentioning) and he has only been with the gf for 1 year. That is HARDLY STABLE.
For Gods sake, THINK with your brains. Ethics play no part whatsoever in this scenario if you cant even make it for the first FIVE years.
Most of you here are still young. Probably still in college or had been working no more than 10 years. You may think everything is going well for you now. Very often we're disappointed with the working life. Not everybody can make it to the top you know? Few more years and a lot of you will see that our salaries do not go higher.
Before you think about starting a family, you need to think about money for getting married. What about a place to live? You can live with your parents but will your spouse be able to cope with that? There are many couples who had to move out due to the partner having difficulty living with in-laws. You have no choice but to get your own place.
Next... do you know how much it costs to have a normal delivery? Easily 4-5k for a baby. If there is complications, you better be prepared to come up with 10k.
Money aside, all this adds strain to the relationship. I know I will have emotional break down if I ever face this kind of situation.
Personally, I will not make hasty decisions without thinking of the consequences.
If my bf is capable, financially stable and both of us know we can make it no matter what happens. I won't need to worry about what if something goes wrong. Guess what? Getting intimate will feel much better too.
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