be a man...face d problem n solve it...all u need is some courage and sweat...escaping like a coward (referring to those considering abortion like d one above) is not a solution...

I posted once in 2nd page opposing d abortion...but now after spending some time readin 8 pages...it's really a tough decision to make...and I can't hold my stand anymore...

I guess not everybody is born equal...I hv my future well plannned ahead by my parents...I can basically get married n start a family now...that's why i won't argee wif abortion initially...

But if i'm in ur shoe, i'll would hv done wat u r doing...but first, i'll still consult both parents...things can b different...

As money concern, my parent brought me up at minimum cost but yet i din go bad egg like brother hawk will assume i would be and I hv made my calculation...i can settle d money spend on me by my parent within 1-3 years easily...my dad was a lecturer and was 42 when i'm born...he is active in stock market...i help him calculate his overall performance...he lost about 300K overall...and most of d losses was during my early days during 1987 and 1997 crisis...his salary as lecturer is far less than now, and he has 2 house installment to pay den as well...during that period, his financial situation could b worst than urs...he could hv just aborted me like how u will do...somehow, i'm still wondering where all his money from until now...but i know from my mum, he would rather break his back to compensate his greed and make sure v hv minimum to live wif...i personally think that there r alot of unneccessary xtra expenses for children nowadays...I still hv thoughts of he could hv shower me wif all his $$$ on material stuff instead of sharemarket...but i'm glad he din, bcos of that kind of upbringing...i'm simply better person than being spoiled...u don't need money to teach ur child to b a fine person...I'm not sure whether he think that he made a right decision...thing could b alot better back den not havin me around since i was sickly child, born wif several complications...but i'm VERY VERY VERY glad he took his chance...

This is another part of my family history...i'm supposed to hv a brother...but bcos of misfortune, he was dead b4 he is born and doctors hv to remove him from my mothers stomach...probably, that explain my birth complication...my mum will still wept everytime this topic is brought up...and my dad like usual, will just deny d existence...it's a trauma both my parents experience...

in ur case...it's ur call...watever decision u make...i hope all d best for both of u...we won't know wat future lies ahead...

if my brother were to b born...i won't b around anymore...all my dad want is a son...tat was told on my face...

well...they do try again...and gave birth to lovely tomboy...however, dis tomboy made some difference...he change my dad traditional perspective...bcos of her, son or daughter is d same...=D

Ur argument is that dis child will need all these money immediately when birth...if u work out d expenses coherent to stage of child development...it won't cost u so much...my dad still hv money to burn in market when i'm around...they won't b earning 5.5K forever...though i hv to admit this is a tough recession n could b worst of all...but the thing is...u will remain where u are until u take challenge n do something about it...

life is tough now and it's not very much better back den...i din make exact calculation about d inflation and how it's going to make a difference...so i hv nothing to argue wif u in this sense...however, wat i'm trying to say is...if u accept life a b**** and refuse to do anything about it...den live a life of a b****...these old ppl, if and i say if they tried to do something about it instead ...it may not b very successful, but i'm sure life will b better...

agree wif 7chai...if they dun walk...i guess...they will forever at the ground they stand wif living a life that is heading miserable wif the spiralling increase cost of living...

bcos of dis economic crisis...scottish gal try to take easy way out by having babies instead...lol...

but one thing for sure here in scotland...the d gov subsidized mother n child expenses up to d child is 18 years of age...if i'm not wrong...as result, confirm bread n butter for 18 years...I guess durex business must b plummeting like mad here...