Hope my reply is not too late...haven't been around the forums lately...

Dear TS, there is uncertainty when aborting the child and much more uncertainty in keeping the child.

I've been reading people posts here for those for abortion and those against. I for one am very against it, but I don't advise you what to do.

I will just point out some things against those who said abortion is better choice. Since economy is not stably, the cost of raising a child, getting into the real world.

I believe we truly live and live in a real world when we face up to our responsibilities. Sure their arguments are, do you know how taxing emotionally, financially, etc on both father and mother to raise a child. No doubt its taxing.

One poster said she will have to take weeks of maternity leave. I'm sorry but women in India, women in China and African don't need maternity leave. In fact, women who don't take maternity leave but carry on their normal lives, and only take 1 week off to borne her baby, turns out to have perfectly normal children.

Also, one more thing these posters going for abortion who said that its very taxing to raise a child fail to consider is that they assume that the TS and his wife are gonna do it ALL ALONE, with no financial help, no emotional help or even help to look after the baby.

Dear TS, this is a critical moment of your life. And you need as much help as you can get from anyone possible, and you know that and that is why u're here on this forums. Casting away your pride and getting help from your parents and her parents is the most responsible thing for you. Yes they may be shocked at first, but in time they will come to respect the person you are. One who steps up to meet the challenge and is not afraid to lay his pride down to ask for help to get through the toughest times.

I have some friends and people from church too who have pre marriage pregnancies. They are financially worse than you. Younger than you. Damn they even have siblings who are 14-15 yrs old who are now can be called uncles. But they are happy now, coping well. All because they have support from family, relatives and friends. The mother helps out in the situation, looks after the baby while you go to work.

Everything is so feasible to give a baby a happy childhood and a good life if you look at things from a perspective of getting the proper help and support. Yeah, posters too said, how about her mum?? If she die from shock how? Only TS and his gf know the mother's personality whether she can take it, and how to tell her best. Her reaction might even be good, and might be happy she might be getting a grandchild soon. Reassuring her that TS and gf will do things the proper way and get married can lessen the pain. WHo knows? only the TS and gf knows the mother's character and predict how she will react.

That said, there is much much more uncertainty if you decide to keep the baby. However, all these uncertainties can be made less risky with proper help and anticipation. But few things is certain if you do abort. Ur gf will be scarred emotionally and not be the same again. She may not be able to have babies anymore. You too will be hurt emotionally. And the scale of the emotional damage is very uncertain and it cannot be limited in anyway.

I hope i gave you better views to help you make your decision.

PS. I'll PM you this as well since you said you won't be coming back to read this topic.