I'm not really sure what I expect to gain from posting on these forums. I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone here has been in a similar situation and what they did. My GF and I have been dating for more than a year now and we're usually very careful about our sexual activities, but she missed her period this month (kind of - there's bleeding just not a lot of it ) and so we did a pregnancy test that came up positive. She's going to the doctors today to get confirmation whether or not she's pregnant.

This is happening at a not so good time as although I'm working and earning a decent salary, I don't have much saved up as I've only been working for about a year. She is also earning a good pay and technically speaking we could afford to raise a kid together. But the problem is that our parents would definitely freak out about this and her mum is especially sensitive to these matters. To make matters worse, her mum is not in the best physical shape and telling her this is likely to cause enough stress to break her...

Me and my GF have discussed this and no matter how we try, if she is pregnant, we don't seem to be able to come to a comfortable resolution.. It seems that the only way out of this situation is to terminate the pregnancy...

I'm really reluctant to do this...

Sigh. Hijack this thread all you like. I'm fed up already. If anyone has anything constructive to say, PM me. Otherwise I'm done. I won't be reading this thread anymore. Pray for me, my fiancee and my unborn child. Hopefull we come to a good conclusion.

As a side note that I find very amusing, the doctor put the child's estimated date of birth at 19/11. I find it amusing that there's a 911 in the child's estimated birthday.

I SUGGEST WE SETUP A FUND IN LYN FOR TS TO RAISE UP A KID

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Added on March 24, 2009, 11:12 am
this is a good experience....but i have to add

some may lives thru to tell the tales....some may not....

anyway..try the best to live thru first..then only decide...

So killing a life is justified because the "realistic" world doesn't allow him to be born (yet)? What a shame.

When a chance of life is taken  away, it CAN never be undone.

When the confused couple find their current (financial) situation can't allow it, WORK HARDER for gods sake. Their predicament can be changed.

Those who live prudently with 2/3 children (some grown up and having proper education) PUT A SHAME to those would refuse one baby because the "cant cope with the future". What a shame to mankind indeed.  Sex-crazed humans with realistic mind will soon doomed mankind with their way of life and "twisted teachings" to the future generations.

Why not think of those who are disabled, harder to find job to even feed themselves? Why not think of those who unable to bear children? WHile some of us here, with limbs in good condition (and "highly" educated ) ... become to ignorant on how precious a life could be. A single decision simply terminate A LIFE.
It's a matter of making lifestyle changes and adjustments and pure hard work, which I believe some sexed couples REFUSE to take up the challenge, in fear of losing their "comfortable" baby-less lifestyle , splurging on  unnecessary stuff and food. While they're at it, they never thought about "inability" to buy a better gadget/car if their salary doesn't increase .

TS

i think i know who you are..either u r my fren..or my frenz fren

r u a WOW player?

like to go spa service last time?     

u ask him lor....

agree wif 7chai...if they dun walk...i guess...they will forever at the ground they stand wif living a life that is heading miserable wif the spiralling increase cost of living...

bcos of dis economic crisis...scottish gal try to take easy way out by having babies instead...lol...

with the child,
u will hafta spend less money for mamak, clubbing, cc, shopping, travel, makan

who will want that at age 25?
good decision

but one thing for sure here in scotland...the d gov subsidized mother n child expenses up to d child is 18 years of age...if i'm not wrong...as result, confirm bread n butter for 18 years...I guess durex business must b plummeting like mad here...